Did your husband know about it? have u talked to him? it is strange i can suggest somthing:
Your husband should use a kind of trouser or shorts( whaterver he wear before coming to bed) which dont have elastic just , it should also has string ( such trousers are common and usually trousers do have) and he shouldtie such knott that cannot easily un-tiedable.
I am quite sure it will work and if it does do reply in this forum.
Good Luck

Hey there:

I recently had a giant issue where my wife was masturbating while we were both in bed. At first she insisted I was making it up or imagining it... She said she would never do something like that and at first I didn't believe her. However she was absolutely insistent that she wasn't doing it... but she WAS!

Thats how I found this board. I was looking for help and feedback.

Anyway, I was Googling around and I found out about something called "SBS" a.k.a. Sleepsex. Its like Sleepwalking, not very many people do it, but it happens. The person doing it is asleep and isn't aware they are doing it and they won't remember it the next day.

For some people who have it it is light self-touching (like my wife), others full on Masturbation... for some people they actually have sex with their partners. Often their partners say they are "not like themselves" in that they are more/less aggressive or do / don't do things that they normally would during sex.

I talked to a friend of mine and apparently his wife has always done it. For my wife it is a new thing. If it is new, it can be brought on by stress, life changes, drugs/alcohol or other stressors.

All you can do is talk to him about it and let him know you aren't offended by it and you don't take it personally. If you are offended and you DO take it personally, work it out and get over it. He can't help it... like sleepwalking. Find out if he's under any new stress or maybe going through a midlife crisis or if something else is going on and then help him through it.

For my wife it was a stressful pregnancy. She doesn't do it anymore.

I wouldn't recommend the "tie his pants" approach. I would think it would result in anger and frustration, even when he's asleep. At best I think he would just try and do it "through" the pants and end up with friction burns.

Hope this helps.
Ouroborous

This is a physological problem, that ur husband do it un-consiously. I recommended "tie pent hard" coz i have been involved in this habit for some time, i found that when i am in loose trouser i do masturbate(penis in hands) un-consiously but whenever i m in tie-up toruser or in a jeans pent , i dont masturbate. My hand dont have easy access to Masturbate. I have been involved in that habit for a little time then this simple trick worked out for me.
Just ask ur husband, if he convinces,do that. i dont know it will work 100% as it worked to me.
phycatrist consultaion can be help but it is a extreme approach. Just do this simple experiment.
Take Care

thanks for the input there have been night that he had on like srubs pants. But i seen that he stained them. I even asked him to masterbate befor he goes up to bed if I cann't help. It makes me feel like he just thinking of someone else. But there alot of times we fight couse he gets it all over the sheets. I am going to suggest he see a doctor.

I don't see what the problem is, so what if he masturbates, so what if he thinks of someone else, he could be in someone elses bed and having sex with them, but he isn't, he is with you.
The human body is a complex thing, and we will never completely understand it. don't let YOUR insecurites and hang ups become HIS problem. Just make it clear that he can clean up the mess!

It is not a normal thing. if it is frustrating u , u should consult a doctor. Dont be harsh to your husband as he did this in his unconsiousness. i suggest to make him convince that he is normal but he should better consult doctor possilbly phycatrist. DO it at earliest.
Take care.

check my previous post...

"SBS" a.k.a. Sleepsex. Its like Sleepwalking, not very many people do it, but it happens. The person doing it is asleep and isn't aware they are doing it and they won't remember it the next day.

If it is new, it can be brought on by stress, life changes, drugs/alcohol or other stressors.

All you can do is talk to him about it and let him know you aren't offended by it and you don't take it personally. If you are offended and you DO take it personally, work it out and get over it. He can't help it... like sleepwalking. Find out if he's under any new stress or maybe going through a midlife crisis or if something else is going on and then help him through it.

If it is being brought on by stress, a counselor may be appropriate.

sounds suspicious to me, inorder to masturbate it takes conscious effort, you need to ask him what the deal is. i love the action myself but never has it been done while asleep. now if he's having wet dreams (nocturnal emissions) that's something else.