Do you have any guy friends? guy friends can be fun for you and maybe become more than friends. maybe your looking for a good guy in the wrong type of place? like if they are drunk and in a bar they probably only have 1 thing on there mind!

i know guys suck!
i dont really know what you should do but maybe lead em on heeps then play hard to get?

im sure everything will be fine! just have fun 4 a while till the right 1 comes along.

but i do believe some people u clik with better, but love is what u make it not something that u find. if u know what i mean?

best wishes

To kirstieh:

The best part of your struggle is you are searching for a decent person and you realize sleeping together isn't all in a relationship. Nice guys are rare but you will meet the right person someday because you are nice. Just wait my friend! He is also waiting!!

i conmend you for not sleeping with guys fast. when you meet a guy you should tell them what your looking for and what kind of person you are, so they know in the begining what they are getting or not getting.
it's a struggle for a lot of women to find the right guy.
it takes time, your doing the right thing by not settling or giving in "giving it up" to anyone.
hang in there, by your age it maybe hard to find someone that is serious for a relationship.
have you ever thought about finding someone in church. i m not much of a big fan of myspace, but it allow you to look at the pics and see the guys profile.

Honestly?
Most of the good guys are in relationships with women that had sex with them. I appreciate your reluctance to have sex but it is the perogative of 95% of the men on this planet to find a woman the connect with intimately. Men your age and older have allready played the waiting game with women who weren't interrested in them. If you're not having sex with them you have to be a stellarly magnificent woman in order to keep them around long enough to find out if they're good men or not.

If you have little interrest in sex you best prospects are to look for a date amoung groups that aren't so fond of it either. If You have any sex drive at all I have to tell you that you are turning men that could be good to you away but refusing to sleep with them.

i think she would want a sexual relationship, but the problem she is having is finding the right guy that is worthy.
she's meeting dogs and dont want to give herself up to them.

have you heard of the three month rule!

i did this with my current boyfriend, we got to know each other without sex, and now he is my best friend.

If a guy is really interested in you he's not going to stop dating you because you don't jump in the sack with him on the first date. There are plenty of good guys out there but unfortunately you have to date some jerks in order to find the right one. Most of the time it's when you're least expecting it that the right one comes along.

I've heard of a lot of 3 month rules, the only one that pertains to sex is the rule that you can't steal a friend's boyfriend until the relationship is 3 months dead.

I have however heard of only one 3 date rule. And I've heard it from just about every man I know platonically and romantically. Men who aren't having sex with you after 3 dates don't consider you romantically viable. They stop calling and start looking for a woman that is more committed to them.

The only way to find a good man is to stop playing games with the men who are interested in you. Sleep with the ones that turn you on. Rules that limit the men that are available to you or that are designed to discourage men based on prejudices only serves to remove men with self-esteem or standards from your dating pool. Most of the men I know are good men, they are genuine and caring, responsible, intelligent and loyal. I can't be that much better than you at finding men that are worthwhile, just give some of the men you meet a chance.

dont twist my words around i was raised in a family where i was told it's not good to be "easy" and give it up fast, they give women like that names.
and if you havnt found Mr. right, there is no reason to give it up to Mr.Wrong.
there's no trickery in it, some women are confident and know what they want, if a guy can't accept it, then move on.

Im the "angle" your the "devils advocate"!
and i belong in the female's forum!!!!!

Then get the hence..
This forum is for people struggling with finding love. He-said-she-said arguements have no place here.

I blocked you! you dont exist anymore.

im with wolf here. i met my now husband of ten years at a bar (trying to talk my bro from getting married at his stag party nontheless)i slept with him the first night because he melted my butter so to speak if your attracted to someone so much whether you wait an hour or three months the attraction will be the same why wait for a wonderful moment when its there. you know when you meet someone if they apply to your tastes.He told me that night that if i wer with him hed take care of me the rest of my life and so far hes doing a great job and he married me with existing medical problems at that. good men are everywhere not all men in bars are bad just dont wast your time on someone you know is wrong get everything important out the first time you meet and you will know.youll find him sweetie. i was abused 10 years a thought all men were this way he was my high school boyfriend too boy was i ever wrong good guys are there waiting for good girls.

oh and one other thing to say a women who sleeps with someone right away is a so and so is very hurtful. i have been with three men in my life my now husband, my ex and rape.and im no so and so .im a good person who loves all and loves to be loved and would not hurt anyone .God bless you and hope you find him.

i didnt mean it like that, i slept with a guy on the first night and we stayed together for three years. and he happens to be the second best boy friend i've ever had.
in my younger years i've heard so many guys say that if a girl give it up easy to them, what makes them give it up fast to someone else.
i was in battle with this subject for many years, and to each is their own.
i do agree with it doesnt mater how long...one day or three months.
i see so many women sleep with a guy fast, and get feelings for them and then get hurt after the fact about something that they didnt even take time to find out about them.
imo

i see lol i just dident want you to think i was bashing you or anything we all have our opinions thats what we are her for but no one should be ashamed for falling in love fast and giving in so early. you just never know who your letting pass by after all we are a sexual being its a way of showing love it should not be looked at as bad just be responsible and go with it if it feels right you know what i mean.

i agree with you completely!!!

Thankyou????

i agree with there's nothing wrong with falling in love fast and giving in fast. but if your not finding a nice guy, and only a guy that wants sex and is a dog, then it's good to refrain from sex.
my last opinion is..... and this is something i would tell my sister. Only WOMEN knows how it feels being hurt, so be careful and be wise in your decisions. i m sure you will make the right choices.
my point was some guys isnt worth giving it up to.
good luck

friends now lol.

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