when i found out i was pregnant a week before christmas 2008, i told everyone the next day. then in february i had to have a d&c for a missed miscarriage. =/

i got pregnant again a month a half later and am now 12 1/2 weeks =) yay! this time i kind of staggered telling people. i told my 3 siblings all within the first week of me finding out. i said something to my mom around 8 weeks. and i didnt tell my dad until about 2 weeks ago. i didnt want to tell anyone, this time. but i couldnt help it.

if i were you, i would tell the closest people to you as soon as you want. the rest, wait until you have confirmation of a baby with a heartbeat. if you lose the baby before the other people know, then it wont be as bad because that is less people to tell.. and the people you are telling are definitely going to be there for you because they are the closest and most supportive people you know. this is just my opinion though.

thats so sad chrisseeg. What are the chances of having a misscarriage? I am 3 and a 1/2 weeks and now Im a little paranoid

miscarriage is how 1 in 5 (20%) of all pregnancies end. once you have an ultrasound and they see a heartbeat, then the risks of miscarriage drops to about 3%.

you shouldnt be paranoid. if you havent been having any problems (i should have known something was wrong when from week 4-8 i had mild cramping every day) then you shouldnt worry about it. with this pregnancy i feel good down there, havent had any cramping. i saw the baby a few weeks ago with a very healthy heartbeat.. so i feel a lot better now. still a little scared... but unless youve had a miscarriage before or youre having cramping or bleeding.. then dont worry!

Hi Chriseeg, I would only tell the people closest to me this early on, I know the excitement is unbelievable - I have 3 little ones, the latest arrived 7 weeks ago so I know you feel like your going to burst if you don't tell everyone. I hope all goes well for you.

I would wait until you are close to the end of your first trimester. I have had 5 miscarriages in the last 8 years and I found that it was much easier to deal with when I didnt have a swarm of people asking questions and trying to be sympathetic and offering advice. We are pregnant again and I am waiting as long as possible. I want to shout from the rooftops, but if I lose this one.. I will want to jump from the rooftops. So I keep it to myself just incase. I am be secretly happy and carry a secret smile.