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I need help on what I should do next...What Would You Do??? Ok last summer this guy at my church was really into me, he said i had beautiful eyes and that i was really pretty. Well when school started he ignored me and I was kind of heart broken because he had given me all this attention and I felt rejected. However I still really liked him cause he was the only guy that has told me im beautiful and he is the only guy i know that i can picture us dating.(which retarded, i know) Well today he smiled and waved at me acting like he wanted to talk to me or something, and I ingnored him and im thinking that wasnt the smartest move...What do i do......It would be to weird to talk to him cause i havent talked to him in a year but i still kinda like him (obviously not as much i did a year ago, but now and again i think of him.

Girls: What would you do?
Guys: What do you think he is thinking?
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replied July 30th, 2008
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So wierd that you would still like him after he ignored you because he said you were beautiful once upon a time. Is there anything else to like about him?
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replied July 31st, 2008
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I think it's strange that he would tell you all those things too, but neither I nor you know his situation or really his character. Remember that beauty is sometimes (though not always) skin deep and words (though also not always) are cheap. Don't try to have a relationship with someone who doesn't clearly have your best interests at heart. That would include playing with your heartstrings like this, though sometimes, guys really aren't thinking that deep and they really don't realize what you see or feel.

It's not weird to picture yourself dating him, everyone has thought about particular guys, whether it's a feasible thing or not. It's good to be somewhat guarded particularly at your young age because it is hard to judge characters and might take much more time to get to know someone. You did the right thing to not talk to him yet and ask for help.

If you find yourself in that situation again to talk to him, you can do that if you want, but ask yourself questions now and search your feelings for him: write a list (be truthful to yourself!) of the reasons why you like this guy over others and list any reasons why it would be a good reason not to talk to him. When you have it on paper, it's easier to see more clearly when your heart is beating and fluttering with emotion.

Oh and don't let words fool you: I know this to be true: the right guy will recognize you for your outside beauty as well as your inner beauty and will always been looking deeper....
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replied July 31st, 2008
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Thanks so much for you comment it really helps
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