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what works best for sex with a super dry vagina?

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I am 56 and all over with menopause but my 55 year old husband still loves sex. My vagina is so so dry i cant even put a finger in it much less his penis. I am a vagifem I got from my doctor, doesn't seem to be doing the job and i just ordered some vitamin E suppository and they are not working either. Remember im past menopause so I really could use some help from some older women here. Plus I really dont have a sex drive anymore since menopause, could be because I lost all my hormones and dr took me off HRT

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replied May 1st, 2012
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Yes, most of what you are describing is due to going through menopause and your hormone levels after that.

If your husband still likes oral sex, he can use that to put saliva down there and make you wet. It might even turn you on more, and make sex better for you. It is normal to need a lot more foreplay to get wet and ready.

After menopause, you are like a young girl before puberty. Your hormone levels and fluctuations, your vaginal walls and secretions, your cervical mucus are the same as 40/45 years ago.

The other things you used are for vaginal dryness and discomfort, not for a lack of lubrication during sex.

My suggestion will be to buy some personal lubricant (from the condom isle at your local supermarket or pharmacy). There are two types that can be used (avoid oil based ones): water based (cheap but not long lasting) and silicone based (more expensive, very slippery and long lasting).

There is no reason why you and your husband cannot have a healthy and fun sex drive as long as you both want to. Talk to your doctor about it if your sex drive becomes an issue. It is normally a sign of lowered testosterone (which is natural after menopause).

It is also good to continue having sex or masturbating to keep your genitals healthy and get blood flowing through them regularly. After menopause it becomes a 'use it or lose it' situation. Maybe not quite that dramatic, but it is advisable to keep active.

Best of luck!
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replied May 19th, 2012
Well the reason why your experiencing vaginal dryness is bc the mucous membranes and wall of the vagina become thinner which may lead to pain on intercourse and susceptibility to infections
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replied June 15th, 2013
just use KY
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replied May 24th, 2012
My wife and I are about the same respective ages. She also has dryness, so we have pretty much stopped having intercourse. But it's all good. I can still give her an orgasm orally or just by having her grind against my erect penis. You don't need to have penetration to have great sex.
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replied May 25th, 2012
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Ejaculating inside her is actually very good for her. Your semen contains testosterone and some other chemicals that makes her feel good and happy. So that will keeper in good genital health for longer.

After oral sex, take a bit of personal lubricant on your finger and insert it inside her, and let he put someone our penis and go for it.
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replied June 9th, 2012
I am in spam unapproved and there is a product called Sylk. It is a lubricant, non irritating, makes things wet and slippery. Good luck.
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replied May 21st, 2013
Dryness and Pain During Intercourse
estrace 0.01 cream is the main treatment today to lubricate the vaginal walls and stretch them. Go to your primary or gyn doctor and have a candidate talk about it with them. When you feel a lot of pain you could be very dry, which causes irritation and even bleeding. I took 4 grams of this cream every day, once a day for two weeks. I then started 1 gram once a day, twice a week (wednesday and sundays). Oh what a relief it is!
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replied June 28th, 2013
I took 4 grams of this cream every day, once a day for two weeks. I then started 1 gram once a day, twice a week (wednesday and sundays). Oh what a relief it is!

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Took orally? I've tried this cream in my vagina with limited results. Sex is very painful for me which is depressing. I've used gallons of lubricants. They work to some extent but not enough.
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replied July 25th, 2014
Simple Solution for Post Menopause Sex Dysfunctions
I'm 49 year old post menopausal woman. I was taking Prempro for about 14 months about two years ago but had to stop taking it because of the usual bleeding side effect it produces. I thought I would never be able to enjoy a normal sex life with my husband again until I accidentally stumbled across a remedy: porn. I have never really been a porn watcher. After the 1st 15 or 20 minutes it would become same old/same old and I would get bored. I find it amusing now that it has become my saving-grace. I discovered it quite by accident several months ago. I began feeling stimulated "down there" and was totally wet when the hubby came to bed. I was beginning to think I would have to do the honorable thing and divorce him so he could have a normal sex life with someone else. But now, our sex life is back on track. I watch my it on my phone for half and hour before he comes to bed, and BAM, problem solved. I'll be more than happy to share info on specific sites/vids that seem to do the trick for me. Send me a private message and I will be glad to help. Thanks.
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replied July 28th, 2014
Thanks fran65, for letting us see there are methods that may work without the yucky oils, etc.
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