Oh, just to clarify since some people asked me about it -- I'm not deliberately trying to dress androgynously but just that my facial features tend to be fairly gender neutral (as many Asians are) so if I'm bundled up with a large jacket and a hood it may be hard to tell if they're not paying close attention. But I wear men's clothing so usually there's really no problem.

I think I've attracted the attention of both sexes in that way, by looking "cute". Being in the art field probably has something to do with it too.

Considering the issue of u experimenting in college, should help you get a understanding. But I know it can be confusing. To help me understand more, is it just a physical attraction?(Web images, etc.) If u have done things in the past and dont like it then that may answer your qusetion. Your curiousity is normal I had the same issue at 18...experimenting is the most effective way I think of finding out....if you want you can privately message me cause I dont have a complete understanding of "where you at, at the moment."

It's purely physical at best, and I think I like the idea of it better than the actual thing because years ago when I experimented with some people the experiences were always negative. (The pleasure wasn't even all that great, and I just ended up feeling empty afterwards on top of that.) Once I step in the "real world" I don't find myself particularly attracted to any men, even if they might be good looking. (It even seems kind of gross at times.) Guess I seem to prefer the fantasy over the reality, which is why it take care of it online and leave it at that.

Since having fallen in love with my ex-girlfriend I do know what it's like to be infatuated with someone, and that has only happened with women and never men. With issues of STDs and the hangups that normally come with having sexual relations, I don't feel like acting on these urges is even remotely worth it, so I decided that I'm not going to do it outside of my own room. My days of actually going out and meeting people in this way are over -- I think I need something more meaningful at this point, and doing this in the "real world" might jeopardize my chances at meeting someone this way. Maybe part of the allure is that since most guys tend to be full of libido getting sex is just so much "easier" than trying to court women, who tend to be more careful in that area. But I know it's not going to fulfill me in any meaningful way if I pursue that route.

The problem is that I don't know if my roommate knows this -- he knows that I've been putting a lot of effort into dating women (although unsuccessfully at this point) so I'm HOPING that he's not thinking that something could happen between us, but then again, I don't really know what he's thinking. He's a good friend and I like hanging out with him but I don't want to string him along if it's the case that he might be attracted to me. But then again direct confrontation could make things awkward as well, since technically I'm not supposed to know that he knows about what I do in private. Ugh.

Either way a number of people have told me I should probably stop doing stuff online in this way, even if it's supposed to be anonymous. It'll probably have to start at that for now. Sorry for rambling so much -- I know I can be a pack of problems as well.

Do the things you do with a roommate. Catch movies, grab a beer together, complain about work. I think you understand that attracted to him or not complicating your relationship with your roommate is a dicey operation. You're much better off just keeping things friendly. There could be a lot of reasons he's looking after you online. Even if he is interested in you it's not your responsibility to breach that topic. If he comes onto you at some point tell him you're really flattered and you're cool with it but you just don't feel that way with him. Otherwise don't make this your problem or you'll find that awkwardness you're hoping to avoid.