I need some advice. specially from guys. but ladies ur advice gives me comfort too.
in the past my boyfriend used to flirt wit his ex. and so I snooped thru his things like his phone and now he doesn't trust me. I got over so many things and Im learning to trust him again.
are there certain things, actions etc I can do to prove to him he can trust me? I try showing it to him everyday but he's having a harder time than I did. and I don't look thru his things anymore by the way.
but are there things I can do or say that would help me out? I have changed things about me in order to prove to him he can trust me. please give me some advice!
Hi, not sure if this is a trust issue or what.........first coming from a voice of EXPERIENCE and much older and wiser.....if he has /had nothing to hide, he would not care if you saw things on his phone. I feel, if you can't trust someone, then you do not need to be with that person. Not srue what you can do to possibly make him "feel" you are trustworthy....I am thinking from another perceptive......what is it he feels he has to hide? Why does he get upset if you look at his phone? Someone with nothing to hide would/should not care. Does this make sense? My husband and can go into each others emails accounts if we wish, use each others phones, anything..........we have NOTHING to hide from the other nor do we feel we have to have "personal/private things from one another.....
he feels its an invasion of privacy, and yea i understand that. but he broke my trust by having those things in his phone, hiding them from me. he doesnt see that.
we worked past that and later on when ever we would argue it was because of those things. so we were both bringing the past up. rite now im working on not looking thru his things and because i love him and our relationship im accomplashing that
but he feels his trust hasnt healed fully yet because of our past arguments. hes dwelling so much. i just want to show him he can trust me.
when he goes out i dont interogatte him whos hes with, when he.ll get back etc. i give him his space. but i want to how him more with actions he can trust me.
If you are both on the same page there should no thing as an invasion of privacy...He gave you a reason to question him by flirting with an ex....This should not have happened on his part...If I were you I would just give him space...Don't question anything but keep your eyes open to see if there is something that you are missing....It is important to find these things out now rather than find them out after you are married or partnered and have a child....
Personally, I cannot see where you are doing anything wrong....I probably would have done the very same thing....