While working at an supermarket I really
fell in love with this girl however she
didn%u2019t want me which cause a lot of
pain and destroy my confidence with
relationships which is the reason why I
now keep people at arms length. The day
she left I nearly broke down I knew it
would be the last time I would see her I
know I probably sound really pathetic.
Away over the last year which I
haven%u2019t seen her I got my myself a
new job and going to collage which my work
place is paying for which I doing my HNC
in Computing and Information system. I
have also being going out with my mates
and plan on going on Holiday with them
even though I knew I still care about her
I new it was pointless and thought I was
getting on with my life.
A few days we added each other on www.facebook.com and
I sent her an E-mail telling her I was
really sorry for the way I acted in the
past and wanted her to forgive me. I also
mention I hope she was well and happy with
someone. The thing that really hurting at
the moment is that she hasn%u2019t replied
back. I also look at someone of her
photo's she is a beautiful as I remember
and it hurt%u2019s me knowing that
I%u2019m not part of her life.
What should I do how do I stop caring
about this person ? I hope nobody thinks I
weird or something.
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mominashoe
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Posted: 05-05-08 13:46pm
No, you aren't weird or something.
Unrequited love is an age old thing that
most of us have experienced at one time or
another. All because you weren't lucky
with this girl doesn't mean that you will
fail in all other relationships. You
should try with other girls and broaden
your horizons. It also doesn't mean that
later on she might not consider you as a
possible boyfriend.
Since you are in college and probably
don't have the time to commit to a very
serious relationship, just chat with her
and be casual. Give her insight to the
person you really are without making undue
advances. If it's something that is going
to really work out in the long run, then
it will work. Be honest and truthful.
The reason why she hasn't replied might
just be that she hasn't even opened her
computer or had the time to look. All
because email and internet is instant,
doesn't mean that the person on the other
end is any less busy at the moment. She
simply may not have even read your message
yet, and even if she has, maybe she just
needs a little more time to answer.
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thomas130
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Joined: 13 Oct 2007 Posts: 8
Posted: 05-05-08 13:59pm
Collage is only part time has I have a
full time job what the problem is that I
never see her anymore because the only
time we was together when we work at
Sainsbury’s neither of us do anymore and
we kind of left on bad terms. The only
connection I have is on facebook which is
really quite sad really. I still want to
be with her and be there for her but I
know it will never happen because there no
way I will be able to see in person
anymore.
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thomas130
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Joined: 13 Oct 2007 Posts: 8
Posted: 08-05-08 16:52pm
Well it has been while since I last
updated this post I got much better for a
while where in fact I did'nt really think
about her that much and did'nt feel
depressed. However the last two days for
some strange reason it's really being
hurting me again. I really miss her but I
know no good will come if I try to contact
her again and I don't want her to feel
like I am haressing her. I really made a
hole for myself with her which I cannot
get out. I just want to repair the damage
that was done I don;t want to chase her
for a relationship because I know she
does'nt feel the same way I just really
would like to be a friend to her.
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mominashoe
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Posted: 08-05-08 17:44pm
At the risk of sounding cliche...time
heals all. It will take longer the deeper
it is inside you. When you are "healed"
it does mean that you will completely
forget. Humans are just not made that
way. Certain things will trigger your
emotions and your memory, things that are
associated with her in your mind: it could
be as simple as a color or a smell. Once
you feel that you've gotten over
something, boom, there's the same song you
were listening to when you first saw
her....and you may not even have noticed
that that song was being played while you
saw her and that's your brains
association.
Just give yourself time and use this
experience as a lesson for future
relationships and building your character.
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thomas130
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Joined: 13 Oct 2007 Posts: 8
Posted: 08-05-08 22:29pm
Does the fact I still care for person even
though I know that she does'nt care about
my make a stalker. I just really scare
because I hope she does't think I am tha
type of person
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mominashoe
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Posted: 08-06-08 00:13am
Being a stalker takes action. If you were
excessively checking up on her, following
her around on the internet or in person or
both, then that is stalking. If you just
like her, then that's just an emotion and
there's nothing you can do about that.
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thomas130
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Joined: 13 Oct 2007 Posts: 8
Posted: 08-06-08 12:27pm
I never follow her around i would'nt do
that the only thing I did was add her on
facebook went her message which I think i
came off strong. Since that I have'nt sent
her a thing and deleted my facebook. I
just really worried she thinks I some
weirdo.
Is it wrong for me to still care about
someone I have'nt seen in over a year
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mominashoe
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Posted: 08-06-08 13:04pm
No it isn't wrong to still care. Like I
said, it's an emotion and feelings are
just that way. It's human. Normally I
don't like to talk about myself, but I
still care in a strange way about my old
flames from 15 years ago.
Why are you worried about what she thinks?
You hardly know her very well and she
definitely doesn't know you. Don't gauge
who you are as a person by what you think
someone thinks of you: it only makes you
have negative feelings about youself and
you can't enhance your life and move
forward.
You definitely aren't stalking if you
deleted her from facebook and haven't seen
her. You should explore other possible
relationships or concentrate on something
you love to do.
