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Okay, I thought I'd let this out maybe get some advise and help... V.v...I'm 17 an having some issues. Not like cheating issues or anything, I just keep getting negative thoughts about everything. I've dated 14 boys so far an they all left or cheated on me, one of my best girl friends even made a fake boyfriend up for me to date an I didn't even know...I seem to be having issues trusting my current boyfriend V.v I really do love him a lot but part of me is scared he may end up like the others I think...but I don't really know X-x'...I keep being depressed an crying about it, I've talked to him about it too but he says he really loves me an will be staying by me forever...yet I really dunno what to believe or if he's even saying the truth...I don't like being this sad around my friends anymore because their worried about me too T-T...an advise...?
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replied July 27th, 2010
Yo what does X-x' mean? and Y.v.? T-T?
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replied July 27th, 2010
those are just faces ^^'...nvm...
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replied July 27th, 2010
They don't look like faces. nvm? IDKWTFYATA!

Hey what's with all the boyfriends? Sounds like you are looking for love. I recommend spending less time online and more time with real people that way you can poke them in the ribs and know they are real when they squeal.

If a 17 year old boy tells you he loves you he probably means that he is attached to you and doesn't want to lose you. This probably makes you feel good because you are needed and appreciated by someone. Then when you break up or drift apart for whatever reason you feel horrible. This is attachment. It is not real love and if you see it for what it is you don't need to worry about trust because you know that attachment is fleeting for both you and him.

Real Love is more like seeing to the very core of someone. Beyond how they would like to present themselves to be and how you would like them to be and all that mental stuff. You see all the way to the very essence of who/what they are and you accept them completely. And in the very essence of who/what they are you recognize something very familiar. Something that reminds you of who/what you are. And you find that there is nothing that you wouldn't give or do for that other person because they are no longer an other. there is no separation between you. All the differences suddenly seem imaginary.

So now it should be clear why we are all looking for true love. We want someone else to do for us what we have not done for ourselves. (see who/what we really are, accept us completely, and joyfully embrace us)

So my recommendation is to get to know yourself. start with your thought process' and habits and the things you hide from yourself. Be kind to yourself and understand why you are the way you are. work towards acceptance and love. what you think is what you feel.
Be open to the possibility that you are more than the contents of your mind/your emotions and a body. And then you will not rely on others to fulfill you and can purely enjoy them while they are around.
enjoy life. if you focus on all the problems you will miss the good stuff

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replied July 27th, 2010
well O_o'...that seemed depressing to hear...um...thanks for that reply ^^' but I'm going to figure this out myself, because in my eyes that comment seemed harsh O_o'...an I have dated these guys in real life, they just show a lot of guys arn't good! So you can't blame for thinking men are cruel, but ever since I started dating again I met my boyfriend he's been helping me a lot with what I'm going through XP was looking for a girl's point of view an no thanks for the cult...not into that stuff...X-x
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replied July 28th, 2010
Aww nobody wants to be in my cult... X-x
Men are cruel, women are cruel, life is cruel but cruelest of all is what we do to ourselves - living in fear. Good luck. Relax, be smart and have fun!
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replied July 28th, 2010
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I'm a girl (1Cool and ALL girls worry! Smile I went out with my ex-bf for 8 months and we broke up as I couldnt trust him... he then admitted cheating on me in the first week of our relationship! Ive been with my current bf for a year and I love him. I think you should just trust this guy as he's given you no reason not to... do you believe he TRULY loves you back? Or do you not believe him? There's no point in getting upset and not trying just because of what a past bf did... yea he was a dick and so were the others but this one is worth a shot. If you were your bf and he suspected you without reason youd feel it was unfair... dont ruin what you have because of what an ex did... id feel like my ex was beating me if i mistrusted my new love because of him! Like id let that happen x
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replied August 5th, 2010
Okay, I thought I'd let this out maybe get some advise and help... V.v...I'm 17 an having some issues. Not like cheating issues or anything, I just keep getting negative thoughts about everything. I've dated 14 boys so far an they all left or cheated on me,Be open to the possibility that you are more than the contents of your mind/your emotions and a body. And then you will not rely on others to fulfill you and can purely enjoy them while they are around.
enjoy life. if you focus on all the problems you will miss the good stuff
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