You're still "phasing it badly" because your original concept is way out in left field.

I'm not actually going to tell you how you can tell a ten year old not to have sex, because this is beyond ridiculous.



You've never even had sex and you're all over this board with recommendations for people's intimate lives?

You can talk about it, but at least admit you might not know everything about sexual, intimate, and/or committed relationships.

I meant chemistry in bed (hence the smiley face). I was "slightly" joking. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We don't plan on having children and don't plan on marrying anytime soon. I love him with my whole heart, and sex is just a part of our commitment to each other.

You could talk about it if you had any idea what it really entailed. But you can't since you don't.

Agreed.

Juju, did you parents have the birds and the bees talk with you yet? Do you think your parents are practicing abstinence?

I'm not against abstinence, it's a personal choice.

You are 15, I expect most people your age are living without it.

As for age limits about sex it has to do with being emotionally and physically ready to have sex but this has what now to do with abortion??

Zero, but fundamentalists toss it all together, because what they are really against is sex.

This is how I will explain sex to my child (when I have one and when they ask about it).

Sex is also called "making love" or intercourse. It is what two loving adults do when they want to express how much they love each other, or want a baby. Many people wait until they are very sure they are in love and married before they have sex.

You'll notice I don't say "sex is only for married people", nor do I specify the genders of the partners. I also make sure to phrase it in a way that makes it known sex is not just for making babies, but also as an expression of love.

when you love someone besides a close fried or a relative it means sexual this is our wonderful dictionary defintion of love

verb (past and past participle loved, present participle lov·ing, 3rd person present singular loves)

Definition:

1. transitive and intransitive verb feel tender affection for somebody: to feel tender affection for somebody such as a close relative or friend, or for something such as a place, an ideal, or an animal


2. transitive and intransitive verb feel desire for somebody: to feel romantic and sexual desire and longing for somebody


3. transitive verb like something very much: to like something, or like doing, something very much
I love watching old movies on TV.


4. transitive verb show kindness to somebody: to feel and show kindness and charity to somebody
love your enemies


5. transitive verb have sex with somebody: to have sexual intercourse with somebody ( dated )



with that being said a relationship is based off of sex,communication, commitment and dedication, each of these branch of into other part both those are the main. Without them it is like loving someone like a brother or a sister.

If sex is not only pro-creational and if you actually read your bible you will find some scary stuff in it such as abortion is allowed in cases of adultery as well that if you kill someone it is only natural to take their life. A fetus within the bible itself in circumstances was actually considered less than a person.

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I had sex with a few different guys before I got married. I had no troubles as far as sexual compatibility went with neither of them. They were all sexually compatible. So then all the breakups where for reasons other than sex. Sexual incompatibility is very uncommon. As far as the amount of sex each in the relationship wants that can change over time. No guarantees there. So make sure foremost you marry someone for their personality traits rather than for how good the sex is.

Just because you were sexually compatible with guys doesn't mean it's uncommon. I've been sexually incompatible over half the time, and it's the reason one of my best relationships didn't work out.

Me too. And it's not just how well you get on and push the right buttons, it's how often you want to, the things that excite you and them, what repulses you, etc. Sexual compatibility isn't enough, but for me it's essential.

I agree it is essential, personality is only part of it, I look it as a puzzle its like having a best friend and good sex with commitment.!

I agree with nightangel73, I have been in many relationships with great sex but there personality would not be something I would want to be with for the rest of my life. Sex is a wonderful way for me and my husband to express our love and commitment to one another. Great sex will not keep me around for life although it is a plus. It is my wonderful, loving man that will cherish me forever.

I find to many people abuse marriage, what people dont realize is they dont need a piece of paper to validate their relationship, it should be done because people wanted it.

Needs wants essential are all different things but sex can be had by anybody depending on their level of maturity. I know alot of 12/13/14 year olds who are having sex, I could say it is wrong but then look at past generations, what I dont agree on is alot of these kids parents arent in there life and the media is horrible. Woman are told to have sex with whomever because thay are trying to break societys of view of men having more power but by doing so they are going to an extreme. What should really be promoted my personal views is sex within a relationship, the chance of you sticking around the highschool bf/gf is not the highest rate.

Woman are being told to have fun but they forgot the respect on both male and female sides.

I had sex at 16 but I was terrified if anything because I was told to fear it, it shouldnt be feared but it should be promoted in a positive way. I think if you ask a teenager to go to a pharmacy to buy condoms or contraceptive than they have already comprehended what can happen.