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What does orgasm feel like ? (Page 1)

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ok so i have never had an orgasm ive always wondered wat they felt like and i would rele like to know. skip the crap thts bull it feels great, amazing.. bla bla bla i wanna know how will i be able to tell if i have one? what will happen how will i know? i dont want an answer like oh ull just know. is there anything i can do to get one?? are me n my bf doin something wrong in sex? wat can we do different to help me get one. im tired of tellin him no when he asks if i had one. i feel bad as if hes not doin a good job n trust me he is. i wanna get an orgasm... advice???
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replied January 28th, 2009
i was the same way! me and my boyfriend thought something was wrong with me becuz i never had one, and sex does feel good. i kept telling myself my body wasn't mature enough yet.

An orgasm is a build up of tension, you know when he thrusts really deep and it feels amazing, the thrust where you let out a loud moan. its like that but constant pleasure for 10-15 seconds. Called a release of pressure.

how can you have one? VIBRATOR! was my trick. while he is in me, he is up on his hands while i am laying down, and i hold the vibrator right over the clit (or whatever feels good to you) and while he is going in and out and with the vibration, and orgasm is alot more possible than just regular sex.

and you will feel the build up of tension and pleasure, you will start squirming around more, and my boyfriend tells me i get more wet than normal. My first time i was too scared to orgasm, so i pulled back, but dont be scared, its fun!

i hope that helps!
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replied April 12th, 2012
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Seriously, and orgasm feels like when you start peeing, it has that tickle, well intensify it about a thousand times, and it lasts for about ten seconds, and you will lose your breath a little bit, and feel pressure from head to your toes even doen to your lips on your mouth, and then your area will be sensitive to the touch after wards, just for a few minutes, and you will have a little hard time to pee after that because you are a little swollen (a tiny bit) but eventually you will get to pee as well (after your sex and you run to the bathroom.) hope this is helpful!
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replied June 6th, 2012
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This helped me a lot! I was dating my ex for 4 years and had never had an orgasm and sex was just kind of boring for me but recently, with my current boyfriend, I've been having these feelings like I have to pee when I'm on top and it scared mee because I thought I had to pee or was going to so I stopped it. Thanks for the very helpful info!
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replied January 13th, 2013
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I went to this passion party once and heard if you feel like you're about to pee. Don't stop. It's your G spot which is on your inner wall closest to your bladder. Although you can feel it in your bladder. He's doing everything right. Unless you really truly need to pee. Try and hold it. Ontop of that by physically trying to hold it in so to speak. You're tightening your vaginal walls by doing kagel (sp?) type excersises (which were commented you should do them a few minutes at a time a few times a day) it tightens around the penis and makes it a greater feeling. Smile
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replied May 23rd, 2013
how can you tell the difference...what if you actually have to pee
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replied May 24th, 2013
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You can pee before you start, and then just let go during stimulation. Once the fluid dries, it will have a strong urine smell if you are just peeing. If you do not want to experiment with your partner, try it when you masturbate.

Squirting/gushing is not your orgasm. It can trigger your orgasm, or make it stronger. Your orgasm is that sudden release of tension with.some shaking or contractions and the heat and pleasure spreading from your genitals to the rest of your body. Your main sex organ is your clitoris, so keep on stimulating around it.

Best of luck!
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replied January 28th, 2009
yeah tht helps thanks alot like wat i understand from what u said sounds like ive had one b4. cuz one time me n him were messin around and i was straddling him both us had no pants on and i was kinda grindin on him cuz he loves pressure there n it felt amazing cuz it was also pressure on my clit and i got this rush of pleasure but i didnt know tht was it but thxx for tellin me thtd helps alot Smile
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replied January 28th, 2009
next time your on top... have him rub your clit for you.. best on top sex ive ever had in my life! lol
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replied January 28th, 2009
ooooo sounds fun lol ok will do thxx Smile
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replied January 28th, 2009
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i don't really personally know what an orgasim is either Razz

i've probably had them, i just don't know how to identify them lol Razz
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replied May 22nd, 2009
Wow! Thank you! =) This really helped! I always thought I had experience an orgasm but now I know I did. Sometimes it’s a little embarrassing to ask a friend.
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replied May 22nd, 2009
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If you don't know how it feels, you haven't had one. Because when you have one....you just know.

It's sort of like the best sneeze you'll ever have, but...down there.
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replied May 22nd, 2009
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It's like a new part of you has been born...You are perfection in a woman...You feel that you are everything that any man could ever want....And you know it!!!....You can be thinking about it and it brings a smile to your face and it makes your eyes twinkle...It makes shame a word that you never knew....It is just plain heaven....

Caroline
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replied May 22nd, 2009
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The BIG "O"
During sex/fooling around tension builds up in your genitals and your body while your heart rate and breathing increase tremendously.

When orgasm happens it is as if all that tension explodes at once in your genitals. They contract and you can feel waves of heat and pure pleasure radiating from that explosion through your body. You may loose control of your legs and pelvis and it can move involuntary. Your head may also move back involuntary to expose more of your neck.

Believe me that you will know if you had an orgasm!!

Your clitoris is the center point of getting to orgasm, especially at your age. Rub Rub Rub Rub and enjoy!
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replied July 15th, 2009
how to drop the bomb on wanting ot have sex.
before i plan on having sex i want to be with a guy for a while but not marriage. but how do i give off the signals that i want to have sex without sounds to foward or desperet?
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replied September 8th, 2009
I always thought that I couldnt have an orgasm because I just wasnt into sex that much or that I did have orgasms but they werent like what everyone described them to be, but when I met my boyfriend and we had sex for the first time, he showed me what an orgasm really is. It is definitely hard to describe, but truest me you will know when you have one.
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replied February 3rd, 2010
The inability to experience orgasm is, sadly, caused by poor grammar and spelling.

rele.
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replied February 5th, 2012
How VERY helpful!
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replied May 10th, 2012
RIGHT?! Illiteracy....lol
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replied March 15th, 2010
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SO I am 13 and really a orgasm. sense I am not ready for sex. so i was materbating (sorry is I spel that wrong) and I felt like I had to pee. then I stoped cause I was scared. Is that how its suppose to feel???
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replied November 27th, 2011
Yes, i'm 12(: I've had many orgasm's because what I do is get in a jacuzzi and where the water comes out i go up to that with my vagina and it goes like hwere my hole is and after a few minutes I have an orgasm. I never knew hwat it was and my friends tried it they said it didn't happen what I described so I was scared csomething was wrong and i got to looking and It;s all the same things as orgasm is described. You feel you need to pee after you have an orgasm, you don't it's the pressure. BUT this is how an orgasm feels:
You feel all this pressure and pleasure building up (you'll know when it's coming) and then it all like expolodes, your back arches, your you shut your eyes, your tetth clinch, and your feel curl, and your heart races. You get all red, hot and sweaty, I'm a virgin (and 12) but it's the best feelng ever! try the jacuzzi, or a vibrator(the water to jacuzzi is like a vibrator) and dont be scared its so fun!
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replied April 12th, 2012
What is happening there you are hitting your g spot don't stop as it's not pee just keep going and you should let it all out and you will squirt its great fun I am 13 and I do it a lot as it feels so ice and for extra pleasure taste you squirt at the end it makes you do horny
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replied April 19th, 2013
Does the "squirt" taste good?
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replied April 19th, 2010
Umm.. the first time i had sex, and my boyfriend hit the g-spot i kinda felt like i wanted to pee too... i got scared and asked him to stop...
so yea.. i guess its normal!! LOl!!
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replied September 13th, 2010
Afew years back I thought I wasnt normal! Orgasm? to me it didnt exist! It was so hard for me to reach something that I didnt even know how to get! Me and my boyfriend were in a long term relationship, making love was amazing but i just couldnt orgasm! One day I was just so sick of waitin for something magical and amazing to occure down their, I sat on my own one night.. and thought right tonight i am going to do it until I orgasm! So i lay there and rubbed my clit, at times it was unbearable I wanted to give up it made my whole body shake! The first time it took me about half an hour! then finally I felt this hugge cold feeling all over my clit, and my vagina inside started to throb, as if it had a pulse. my legs started to shake.. my head thrown back, body sweating and heart was racing! My whole vagina felt cold and as if I was in heaven it was the best feeling ever! it lasted for about 7-8 seconds and after you just feel amounts of relief and you cant help but smile! I was sooo happy I finally knew how to orgasm and that it was possible! soo all you have to do is relax and normally you have to achieve it on you own before any man can make you orgasm! if you thin about it too much it wont happen coz u need to be sooo relaxed to reach orgasm! Its so intense and yess you will know when you have one! A vibrator is defo the easy option, rub it on your clit and youll come within five minits!
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replied January 12th, 2011
I am almost 33, been married for nearly 7 years, have two kids, and JUST this past weekend finally had my first big O.

- Masturbation didn't help me in the slightest. I needed my DH (dear husband). Even if DH would rub me in the wrong spot, it still turned me on WAY more than if I tried to rub myself in the right spot.
- It takes a LOT of time. I am blessed with a patient DH who is willing to withhold his own pleasure until I get mine.
- We do not use a vibrator at this time. Just his fingers are enough. No vaginal penetration, either, right now... just clitoral stimulation.
- Keep things moist! If you don't have enough natural lube, then bring in some artificial. For me, if I can feel the rubbing directly, then there's not enough lube, and I have to send DH's finger down a little further to grab some out of my vagina.
- Do a Kegel here and there. It REALLY helps bring the blood flow down there and get things going.
- Do NOT "try" to have an orgasm. Just be in the moment and consciously enjoy the current good feelings.
- Clear your mind of all things except the current pleasurable sensations. Try not to think about your shopping list or what's for dinner or that test you need to study for.

As for the actual sensation of the orgasm and how it feels to me? It feels so great and is turning me into an addict, LOL. Takes about 20-30 minutes (or sometimes a little more). I've only had 2 so far, ever. lol. But for both of them, my pulse gets gradually faster and stronger (I find it amazing how hard my heart can get to pounding from just "laying there" lol). At some point, I suddenly get REALLY hot all over and am throwing off the covers and any remaining clothes (shirt or whatever). (But my socks always stay on, lol.) I continue to concentrate just on the good feelings and give DH gentle instructions (keep doing that, get some more juice, slow down, softer, harder, whatever). Then when he's got a good touch, I have him keep doing exactly that. After a few more minutes of him doing exactly what feels the best to me (with me doing an occasional Kegel to help build the tension), my whole pelvic area gets briefly tight and then relaxes. At the moment of the tightness, I have to have DH stop moving, because it suddenly gets WAY too sensitive to continue right away. Then it feels like there is a spill of warm corn syrup that starts in my uterus and slowly spreads through my whole abdomen. (Which is funny since jenny88 up there described being cold instead, lol.) Then after the warmth is done spreading, I just lay there, happy and high and energized and relaxed all at the same time.

It's so wonderful.
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replied March 22nd, 2011
Is numbness a sign of orgasm?
Has anyone ever felt your hands and lips go numb during sex? I am not sure if this is because I reached orgasm or because I was hyperventilating. Any thoughts. I am still trying to figure out what an orgasm is. I think I have felt it... there are times when I leave sex feeling better than other times...so I think, "maybe this time I had an orgasm...." but I never get the intense release or feeling that "something awesome just happened" like my husband does. I kinda feel mad sometimes that it is so easy for him to have a "screaming good" orgasm... and for me it takes FOREVER to just get a nice feeling... sometimes. Sometimes, he rubs me so much and it is so intense that it isn't pleasurable and I just want him to be done. Do I need to just let him keep going and eventually I'll climax? So confusing. I know he wants me to feel something awesome... and so I sometimes feel a little guilty when I don't.
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replied July 1st, 2012
The last time I had a orgasm with my girlfriend I too started to hyperventilate badly and I was kind of scared that was something not normal, but now that I see i'm not the only one I feel a lot better.
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replied July 1st, 2012
The last time I had a orgasm with my girlfriend I too started to hyperventilate badly and I was kind of scared that was something not normal, but now that I see i'm not the only one I feel a lot better.
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replied March 24th, 2011
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new_wife, Masturbation is your very own and fully private sex laboratory where you can figure things out for yourself. You cannot expect your husband to make you orgasm if you cannot figure it out for yourself. Once you have figured it out, you have a chance of helping him to pleasure you. Sex is not a spectator sport, and you can only participate if you understand how to play.

Best of luck!
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replied May 4th, 2011
My orgasms are usually done by myself. Though, sex with the hubby is still fantastic, I rely on my plastic boyfriend (vibrator)for penetration along with a gentle messager on my clit for that electrified orgasm. Its fantastic!
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