Hi I've been on this site for a month or so and I previously told you all of the issues me and my husband have been going through.

For those who haven't read my posts before, my husband and I went through a rough patch when we had infidelity and trust issues that came between us, it has been a year since and we have been working this out, and so far, we have had our ups and downs along the way especially when things that happened in the past have been brought up.

Anyway to get to the point, a couple of days ago, we had a weepy confrontation, nothing new in terms of what it was about but i guess it was just old stuff that was brought up again. We got over that and things have been alright since, but i am bothered by my husband's behavior this morning.

Last night, I was working from home on my computer and It was late when i finally finished what i was doing, I found my H, outside sitting on the sofa, making his lesson plans (hes a professor) and i came over, i apologized for taking longer than i thought i would and for ignoring him, and although i knew he was a little annoyed my apology seemed to fix things and he put away his stuff and cuddled. One thing led to another and we eventually ended up having really really great sex (twice) and I fell asleep in my husbands arms.

(Hes an insomniac so he probably fell asleep much later than me if not at all I'm not sure) But what was so shocking was that in the middle of the night he tried to instigate another round of sex, and i think (its a little fuzzy, i'm quite a heavy sleeper) i said no.

this morning he woke me up with breakfast in bed and he even drove me to work, but something wasn't right, he said not a word to me and he was just plain giving me the cold shoulder. You see my H is a very lively person, and silence such as this usually means something is wrong where he is concerned. And i asked him if he got upset because I refused him in teh middle of the night. He says its not that. but I can sense this dark cloud over us, something isnt right and I canot for the life of me figure it out.

I hope some of you could shed light on me because i'm just feeling really uneasy, like waiting for a storm to hit, but i cant figure out what could have brought it on.

I got an IM from him on my pc saying
"Hope you're okay. gonna try and grab a bit of sleep . will be leaving for School later. thinking of coming back later tonight but not really sure."

(He usually stays over night at the teachers housing at the uni on Tuesdays and Thursdays because the campus is an hour away from where we live and his classes are at 7 in the morning the next day.) so there is nothing unusual about this)

my reply:

"I'm ok, I wish you weren't so cold and nonchalant this morning. Doesn't make me feel good about starting off my day at all. feels like there's a dark cloud. But anyway,yes, try and get some sleep. I'm around all day so you can buzz me anytime and I'll just be around tonight too if you decide to come home"

"ok i need to sleep now."

and that was our recent exchange, i know maybe to some its nothing but this is just so unlike our normal convo's even after we've had a fight were sweeter and more expressive than this.

I dunno what I'm looking for but maybe i just needed to let it out.