Ok so going along with my trend of topics, this is going to be a long post. Lol
My question to you guys in a nutshell is “does a guy need to have a six pack to be attractive?” I have never had any experience with girls relationship wise. I talk to girls and I am friendly and joke around with them, but I have never been in a relationship. With that said I never found out what girls consider to be an attractive man (excluding the stereotypical “hot” guys you see on TV). NOTE: for this question I am excluding attractiveness based off personality, this is just only on looks. Don’t get me wrong I am not shallow, nor do I disregard personality, but I at least want a girl to find me attractive in a relationship. Personality is extremely important in a relationship, but not so much for my question. I just don’t know if a girl could find me “hot”. I don’t have a six pack, but I have been told I am toned and lean (my mom told me this and she is a personal trainer, so I guess that counts for something. Lol). I have what I can be considered a two pack and when I tighten my abs their hard (which kinda bothers me because I think you can’t tell that they are hard based off looks. I feel like girls would think I am lying just because they can’t see that they are hard because I don’t have a six pack). I just don’t feel that I am that attractive. I know everyone has their types, but I don’t know where I fit. Like, if I was compared to a guy who was ripped, would I be considered less attractive or attractive, but just a different body type? I don’t have much confidence and for most of my life the schools I have been in are small schools. I have never been told that I am attractive (by girls my age), but at the same time I have never met any girls outside my school.
Another reason I ask this question, is because the type of girls I personally like are girls that are voluptuous and curvy. Before I go any further I just wanted to make clear that this is my own personal preference. There are plenty of girls without this body type who are beautiful and if you don’t have that body type I am not saying you are ugly. This is the type of girl that I would like to be in a relationship with (also I am not throwing away personality). Ok now with that said, I feel like if I every dated a girl of this type I would be a down-grade for her in the looks department. Look, I am only 16 and I have not seen the word, but I don’t know if this body type is common. Based off of what I have seen it seems like it is not (is it common?) and it also seems like girls like that go for ripped guys. So what I am trying to say is that “the type of girl that I like, would not like me”. I would like to think that girls could find me attractive and I could give a ripped guy a run for his money in the looks department, but I just don’t know. So again, my question to you guys is “can a guy like me be considered hot even though he doesn’t have a 6 pack and is not big and ripped, excluding personality?” Thanks again for reading another one of my long posts (I even had to cut some stuff out, lol). Also thanks for putting up with my spelling, grammar, and warped way of thinking. lol
So ate u saying ur not hot? Because its pretty much set in out genes to look for a fit and good looking male to mate with. But I guess this is modern day times lol . It's still in our genes to look for movie star men so maybe step up ur a game work out eat right do ur hair tan man scape. Personality is great but when ur looking at a sexy curvy woman r u saying wooow look at her nice curvy personality yeah thought not. Just like with men we women want a hot body hunk not only does it serve as eye candy but we also feel protected like if a burgler jumped out at us he could smash there teeth out of there face but with some skinny flabby dweeb (not saying that's what u r) we would get mugged and he could only watch ya get it? Fitness means good genes and protection and possible good sex ....hopefully.
I get what you are saying, but I think you missed my question. I DO work out, eat right, and etc., but I am not a 6pack, ripped guy. I have a more lean and toned body type. I am asking if that is a desireable bodytype for a female as well.
Don't worry about your a six pack man. Yeah, a six pack is nice if you want one, continue living a healthy life style. Also, your 16 in the next 5 years you will be able to build muscle a lot easier.So no need to worry about a six pack now just worry about being healthy and feeling good.
Your problem is here "I don't have much confidence". That is the key right there. Work on your confidence man, the main reason why the hot chicks tend to go for the "Jocks" or the guys with muscles is because they are the confident ones. Just be confident and you can be with girls who are supposedly "Out of your league."
As for your initial question about lean being desirable. Think about out, how many people have six packs, Not that many. How many people are in relationships, a whole lot more than the ones with six packs. So to answer your question, Yes, you can be seen as attractive even without a six pack.
Girls like all sorts of guys in the looks department.
I totally agree with ThatsRight. It's mainly about having confidence and being happy with who you are in general.
It helps to have compliments about how you look to help your confidence but you can find this without others opinions.
Every girl likes someone completely different. and I understand where you're coming from taking personality out of the equation as looks are very important, you can't get intimate with someone based on personality alone there has to be some attraction.
Most girls want someone to 'take care of them' in a non controlling way. this has little to do with look. nice eyes and a nice smile is what does it for most girls.
I always thought that i was unattractive when i was at school and have found out through reconnecting with old friends that they were afraid to ask me out as they thought i was out of their league. which is annoying as there are a few I would have jumped at a chance with.
This just illustrates the point that as long as the girls don't love themselves too much you never know if they would find you attractive. be their friend, get to know them and try to read the signs. It is difficult but I'm sure you'll get there. you're still young.
Thanks everyone! I really appreciate your advice and help. But, yeah I was never the most confident person, although I am getting better. Its kinda funny though, because the experience where I gained the most confidence from, was ironically from my falling out with this one girl I liked. But I guess thats life. I am still wondering what to make of the situation though and that is part of the reason why I wrote this question. Again, thanks for all you help.