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what could have happened to cause this behavior?

David met Diana and her family. He just moved in her area to manage a volunteer group. David has a wonderful wife. They start to make good progress with the group. David is friend with Diana’s aunt and sister. David and his wife compliment Diana on her good conduct and cheerful personality. David sometimes tries to offer assistance to Diana. Diana accepted at first. However, as time goes by, Diana declines offers, not wanting to seem needy and be a burden on David and wife. Later, Diana lives alone. As times goes by, David starts to draw away in his communication with Diana. David starts to seem sad around Diana and ignores her. Then later, new member, Melane, join the group. New member likes a lot of attention. And soon enough makes friendship with David and wife. David feels he has good friendships.

David starts to cause division in the group. David keeps close friendship with new member and returning members that is friends with new member. He also starts to give special responsibility to Beth, another member of the group that use to be good friends with Diana. Now she acts mean towards Diana. David tries to exclude Diana from group activities and giving her a hard time, while showing favor to his friends alone. David’s personality starts to show strange to some group member. Diana starts to keep a low profile. David seems confused why young woman is so quiet.

Just recently, when his plan got ruined, he seemed very uneasy around her. Then later he arranged to work with her alone. Whenever others were trying to get her to work with them, he made sure they found someone else. During the time he was with her, he kept asking her about her family, ‘friends’, and her life. But throughout that time, there was a great deal of silence between them. And he would try to break it by showing her with compliments about what he admired about her. It was strange because he had made sure that he did not work with her for so long, that now it’s a bit awkward to talk between them. That day, they had to walk a ways to get to their destination. Throughout that time, David keeps asking the same questions he always asks her when he speaks to her: “how are you and family?” “how is your health?” etc. seems it’s the only thing he says to her whenever they talk. It never goes beyond an introduction conversation after so many years.

At the day end of the day that they worked together, she walked off from to catch up with his wife. Apparently she forgot to tell him goodbye. Later, the wife brought up the point that Diana had forgot to say goodbye and had suddenly left him stranded, thinking he agreed to let her leave. Diana texted him to apologize. However, he never replied or say anything to her after seeing her again. He went out of town. Now that he is back, he is ignoring Diana once more, and talking to his other female friends and calling out their names loudly when trying to get their attention. A few days later, he saw her; went up to her and told her he had gotten her text (which was a month before). He told her he did not reply because he was busy, and that he thought it was so nice of her to say what she said in the text. He then told her that he would love to work with her again in the “not so far future”. Diana agreed. And they went their separate ways .What could be going on with their back and forth interactions?
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