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Q: what are my school rights ??
asked by: daslautlacht on October 19th, 2008
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My name is Brooke, I'm 18, and I'm about 7 months pregnant.
After deciding to keep the baby for sure in July, I began making plans for my future. When I found out in May, I dropped out of school with the intention of getting my GED. However, I suddenly got a burst of conscience and re-registered for high school. Now in my senior year, I want to get done as soon as possible so that I can get away from my parents and begin living life on my own.
My plans are to graduate high school in the class of 2009, head to AASU the following fall to major in English/Liberal Arts with teacher certification, and then move out once I have an established job. My long time boyfriend of 3 years is currently enrolled in an EMT program at Savannah Tech and he will eventually transfer to Paramedic. Both his parents and my parents are 100% supportive and willing to help us in every way possible. Right now, they are still supporting us for free and are going to walk us through schooling with as much financial support for the baby as they can possibly give. We are also taking advantage of government aide (Medicaid, WIC, TANF) and he is working so our parents aren't fully taking the responsibility from us. Anyway, I've been doing great in school so far, but I've been having a lot of questions about maternity leave.

The counselor says I can take six weeks off with the homebound program as long as I have a doctors note, but my principal is insisting that (after refusing to waive absences from last semester, causing me to fail and lose all credits from last year) I only take off two weeks. I know for a fact that after two weeks, it's going to be difficult waking up at 6AM to go to school everyday after not getting any sleep anyway. I know it takes at least four weeks to understand a baby's schedule and my doctor wants me to stay home after xmas break because January 3rd is too close to my due date (January 12th) to go back. The principal is telling me that if I don't stay in school until my water freaking breaks and if I don't come back after the two weeks, the absences will be considered "unexcused" and I will fail an an entire years worth of classes (my prelabor leave and postlabor leave all fall in between semester change, and we're only allowed to miss four days per semester).

I find this to be a very inflexible and unsympathetic response to my pregnancy. I am trying to get an education and set an example for my son but she is making it extremely hard. I've heard word of a TAPP program that another high school is sponsoring but I don't really know anything about it so:

What are student maternity rights in GA AND
What is TAPP, what all does it have to offer, and how much time to they permit you take off??

I am not looking for a break, because I have no problem doing all the work at home while I'm recovering. I just don't think I'll have the energy to sit in a classroom all day and complete my assignments, then come home and take care of a baby for at least four weeks, since six seems to be so unreasonable.
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jessamyn
replied on October 19th, 2008
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Before I start if I sound completely rude do forgive me, however, youre lucky that they are even allowing you to stay at all let alone take two weeks off! Where "they" as in most public schooling cant really kick you out per say, they can make it verrrry difficult to the max to have a pregnant teen in their schooling system. Which is why there are programs offered for teen mothers and alternative schooling, which I dont understand why you want to keep yourself in public schooling to begin with being pregnant? You have so many other options that still allow you to get a Diploma over a GED. You need to look up the rights of your state, contact your county, do alittle research for where you live. The rights change every where every state. Good Luck.
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daslautlacht
replied on October 19th, 2008
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Honestly, I don't think you are being rude, but being pregnant at school is no rarity where I am from (don't get me wrong, that certainly didn't influence me!) and there are black girls that are getting a lot more leniency because they WANTED to get pregnant. Unlike my peers, I'm not chastising my teachers for not letting me go to the bathroom or giving me homework: I am very humbled by this experience. I DO have a hard time being treated like a misbehaved 12 year old, though, since I see other girls that my teachers are too scared of to deny them.

The other girls that are the ones truly making it difficult are yelling at the teachers every day and causing problems, scaring them into letting them be late to class, letting them skimp on homework assignments, and allowing them to be absent from class almost the entire period. Maybe I haven't mustered enough courage to get what I want, but I don't think it's fair that my principal lets these girls take off with a doctor's note as long as they want, but since I am white and a senior, she's giving me a lot of hell about all of this.


I did not do this on purpose, and I think four weeks is adequate bonding and recovery time. Then again, I don't really know, because I have never had a kid, but my mother and my doctor insist that I shouldn't go to school up until my water breaks and that I shouldn't go back after just two weeks. Four, good. Six, better. Three, maybe.
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AyaMiyaki
replied on October 19th, 2008
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Maybe you should ask your mother to sit down with the principal with you and talk this through. Explain how your requests don't seem unreasonable to you and are at the recommendation of your doctor. If your principal still doesn't agree, maybe you should take this up with the school board. Definitely speak up and defend yourself. This might be something you have to fight tooth and nail to get, but it'll be worth it. And who knows - maybe it'll help clear the way for the girls behind you that walk a similar path.
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