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im very embarrassed talking to people iv never meet so here i go.i really want a baby by one of this ages please help does most girls feel this.
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replied July 31st, 2009
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i think most young girls do feel this way at times, and the thought of wanting a baby does pop into their heads.
i think that is a normal thing to think here and there.
But actually acting on that thought is 150% different.
A child having a child is a huge deal, first off there are health risks to think about, you the baby or you and the baby could die during child birth because of the fact that you are still developing, you could do major internal damage to your insides.
And how would someone who has no high school diploma-a pretty necessary piece of paper work in order to get a good paying job-raise an infant? what would you have to offer?
a part time job wont pay for all the things a child needs, and baby sitting or chores here and there wont even come close.
you would be burdening your parents to bring this child up for you financially, because how would someone not of age to work or making minimum wage support herself a child and the cost of rent and more to live on her own?
And if you think that the guy that you want this baby with will stick by you 100% think again, not all guys want to grow up fast and be a parent right away, most of them will leave the girl they get pregnant, deny that the child is theirs and not want to have anything to do with you or a child. and dont believe them if they say that they do want a child with you, a guy will say anything to get in a girls pants.

Before acting out this want, think long term about this.
Everyone sees the lovey dovey moments when a mother and her child are out in public, but you do not see the hard times that they have to deal with when a child is in the picture, you dont see the sleepless nights, the exaustion, the crying baby till 5 in the morning or longer, the money struggles some people go through...
and dont compare having a child to baby sitting, because those are two completely different situations.
A child of your own is a full time responsibility, and if you dont have the basic things done and out of the way before having a child, such as schooling and a good career and paying job, you wont be as successful as you would like to be, and it would not be fair to that child and the other people who will probably be helping you out.
And something that my step dad said once when we talked about this issue, he said:
'someone that young would have to be a pretty uneducated person to willingly plan a child at a young age'
and as harsh as that might sound, i think its the truth, because realistically speaking, it is not fair to that unborn child, or smart to plan a child when you cant even support yourself.

it is so much better to wait until you have things completed and out of the way and organized, and you would enjoy having a child much much more if you wait until you are older, possibly married, have a good job a good career, school out of the way and a TON of savings.
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replied August 1st, 2009
dont do it!
im 16 and 6 and a half months pregnant. its really not fun at this age. take it from someone who is actually going through it. its hard already. i used to want to have a baby when i was around the same ages you say but then decided i should wait and ended up getting pregnant the month i got off birth control. the father ditched me and doesnt even talk to me. thats whats really hard too is cuz you CANNOT EVER depend on a guy to stick around and if u do end up getting pregnant this young, you WILL be doing it on your own and its tough. i honestly suggest you wait til your with someone for a long time and can somewhat rely on him. JUST WAIT! til your at least in your 20s. seriously. you cant go out and have fun with your friends whenever you want. i used to party and just drink with my friends and i cant do it anymore. i dont have a job and i feel horrible having my mom pay for everything. its such a big responsibility. too big for this age. so stay protected!!
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replied August 12th, 2009
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i wanted to have a baby at 13, tried it and thank god it didnt happen.
yes of course i still want a baby but i dont have a boyfriend, none the less the right guy i think would be able to provide for my child so i say hold on, we dont like hearing that but its best, people older than us know better. im glad i took the advice from the girls on this forum, they may be rude but they dont want girls to go through what they have been through. im sure thats why they get so upset. btw, thank u girls once again(:

but please just wait maybe till ur a bit older? im turning 16 in a few months and im dying for a kid. just pms me if u wanna talk okay hun(:
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replied August 13th, 2009
im actually 17 next month and seriously why in the hell would u be "dying for a kid" at 15??? go for it and see where u end up then cuz thats the only way u girls are gonna see how hard it is... im really not trying to be mean but my prego hormones are out of control lol
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replied August 13th, 2009
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its normal. i wanted a kid at 15/16 i was dating my now hubby but many dont get lucky and have a guy that will stick around.i had my first and 20 and now im preggo with bby 2.i still get the "young" talk and it is difficult honestly i couldnt imagine having a baby any younger than i did even though ive seen younger do it and have wonderful productive lives.

please seriously think about it.write out pros and cons and then think some more.maybe get a babysitting job raising a kid isnt easy and thats coming from a married mommy of a toddler with one on the way,sahm and army wife.

good luck
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replied August 18th, 2009
want a baby but only 16...
im 16 and want a baby... and ive discussed it with my boyfrend and he agrees weve been together 3 and a half years now and cant live without eachother, but now we want something we can call our own someone we can both look after. i knw our parents wont agree but eventually they might get over it. im working part time and earn quite a bit and my boyfrend plays professtional football and is earning more than our parents lol... but im sure we will be able to cope and as for college i can still do one of those night courses or go to a pregnancy group and do my a levels as there is quite alot in my area. so if you hav really thought about it and have a boyfrend that you are sure will stand by you go for it. Smile
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replied December 2nd, 2009
16 n havin problems
ppsb93paris. i know what you mean. me and my boyfriend have tried but nothings happening. i am startin to wonder weather i can fall pregnant. i had a misscarriage just over a yr ago now so im startin to wonder weather that has something to do with it but now that we've had so many times we thought i was he dont want a baby now. his 19 and im 16.
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replied December 27th, 2009
I'm 15. I'm not pregnant, but I'm thinking it would be a good idea right now. My bf is 19 and is in the service, he is being sent to Korea on Dec. 29th, 2009! I'm so scared. He says he's not coming back anyway but dead, and the only thing that would keep him from going over there, would be is he was going to be a father. We had sex, and for the first time, I am really hoping I AM pregnant. I don't want him to go forever! Sad
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replied December 29th, 2009
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omg katie1426! you're a very strong girl for being 15, i mean, im only a year older and my bf is 17 but he just told me that he wants to leave when he had promised he wouldn't. im so much in shock right now, i just feel like crying, i dont want him to leave, for once im sure about something the way im sure about us. today's the day he leaves im assuming? girl, i dont know what to say besides me knowing i might be there in about a year. :'[ he's going to be my hero no doubt about that. im not pregnant though, which is one thing that makes me wonder if he would stay if i did but no, im going to try to be strong, later it'll be better for us, and our future family. if anything, message me just to give me some of an idea of what its going to be like.
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replied December 30th, 2009
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Re: want a baby but only 16...
ppsb93paris wrote:
im 16 and want a baby... and ive discussed it with my boyfrend and he agrees weve been together 3 and a half years now and cant live without eachother, but now we want something we can call our own someone we can both look after. i knw our parents wont agree but eventually they might get over it. im working part time and earn quite a bit and my boyfrend plays professtional football and is earning more than our parents lol... but im sure we will be able to cope and as for college i can still do one of those night courses or go to a pregnancy group and do my a levels as there is quite alot in my area. so if you hav really thought about it and have a boyfrend that you are sure will stand by you go for it. Smile



I really think your wrong telling this girl to go for it! Im 19 and have two babies UNDER the age of 2. It is the hardest thing EVER just with one, you my dear dont have any children and dont know how hard it is. And a BOYFRIEND probably isnt the safest way to go, they almost always pack up and leave (with a few exceptions)Im married and its still hard, so please also dont think it will be as sunshine and rainbow just because theres a man in the picture!
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replied December 30th, 2009
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ppsb93paris wrote:
im 16 and want a baby... and ive discussed it with my boyfrend and he agrees weve been together 3 and a half years now and cant live without eachother, but now we want something we can call our own someone we can both look after. i knw our parents wont agree but eventually they might get over it. im working part time and earn quite a bit and my boyfrend plays professtional football and is earning more than our parents lol... but im sure we will be able to cope and as for college i can still do one of those night courses or go to a pregnancy group and do my a levels as there is quite alot in my area. so if you hav really thought about it and have a boyfrend that you are sure will stand by you go for it. Smile



I really think your wrong telling this girl to go for it! Im 19 and have two babies UNDER the age of 2. It is the hardest thing EVER just with one, you my dear dont have any children and dont know how hard it is. And a BOYFRIEND probably isnt the safest way to go, they almost always pack up and leave (with a few exceptions)Im married and its still hard, so please also dont think it will be as sunshine and rainbow just because theres a man in the picture!
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replied December 31st, 2009
its normal. but dnt do it at this age, wait till ur older, go to college and start your life! dont focus on this cuz kids shouldnt be raised by kids. trust me i know.
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replied January 2nd, 2010
I dont think its a good idea.
Im 17 turning 18 in 6 days and im 37wks pregnant. im due on the 20th. It sucks because my bday is coming up and i cant do anything. i cant go to the club with my friends or anything. My mom used to let me stay with my friends and everything. but now because its getting so close she wont let me stay the night with anyone because she is scared i will go into labor and she wont be there. Yes my boyfriend is still with me but not all guys are like that. 9 times out of 10 they will leave. and honestly if i ever get pregnant again im gonna make sure its a long time from now. I AM MISERABLE. im always achy and my back hurts all the time. and i havent been able to get any good sleep in like forever! and its only gonna get harder when the baby gets here. im just lucky i have my mom but i dont have a job and she has to support me and a baby now. im a senior in highschool and its hard. my exams are a day before im due and im praying i will make it so i can graduate.
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replied January 2nd, 2010
I dont think its a good idea.
Im 17 turning 18 in 6 days and im 37wks pregnant. im due on the 20th. It sucks because my bday is coming up and i cant do anything. i cant go to the club with my friends or anything. My mom used to let me stay with my friends and everything. but now because its getting so close she wont let me stay the night with anyone because she is scared i will go into labor and she wont be there. Yes my boyfriend is still with me but not all guys are like that. 9 times out of 10 they will leave. and honestly if i ever get pregnant again im gonna make sure its a long time from now. I AM MISERABLE. im always achy and my back hurts all the time. and i havent been able to get any good sleep in like forever! and its only gonna get harder when the baby gets here. im just lucky i have my mom but i dont have a job and she has to support me and a baby now. im a senior in highschool and its hard. my exams are a day before im due and im praying i will make it so i can graduate.
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replied February 5th, 2010
wAiT!!!!!!!!!!
im 12 years old AND im not pregnant its a horrible idea to get pregnant at this teen age it ruins your life and your bf or husband you never no but just might leave you during the "HARD" times . you have have to keep up with the bills . work your butt off . its a full time responsibility and help might not come when you need it, so just dont have sex be patient there is time. wait! find the man of your dreams and have the REAL happy ending you girls deSERVE!!!
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replied October 27th, 2010
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im 15 & my boyfriend is 17, he will graduate this coming may & is going into the navy or air force (he hasnt decided) i am petrified for him to leave. i think about it everyday & the thought of getting pregnant has ran through my mind a few times because i know he will put off going into the service if i do get pregnant. i have thought long & hard about it & ive realized that it would only ruin both of our lives if i did. my sister got pregnant at 15 & her boyfriend went into the army a few months after my niece was born.he left my sister when my niece was 2. he is doing fine but my sister is having a really hard time. i do not want that for me & my boyfriend at all so ive decided that its best for him to do what he needs to do & for me to finish school & if we're still together after i graduate then we will hopefully start a family together & have a happy life. planning to get pregnant this young is not smart at all.i believe to have a happy life & a strong family it is best to wait.
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replied January 22nd, 2011
I'm 14 years old and I want to have a kid at this age but I'm kinda scared to because of my parents and the risk of my boyfriend not staying.I think I'm ready to raise a child but I dont want anything to happen to my child.I live in a bad neighborhood and I dont want my kid to get hurt in anyway. I really would LOVE to have a kid because my parents are butts and I would love to get out of the house.
What Should I Do????
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replied January 25th, 2011
http://ehealthforum.com/health/i-am-a-teen -mom-and-can-tell-you-t262670-a1.html

Visit my form, I am a teen mother myself and I had my son when I was only 16. It was and still is the hardest thing for me to do. Read this form before acting on your desire to have a child.
Believe me it is best for you to wait.
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replied April 30th, 2011
Pregnant at 16
im 16 and have just found out im pregnant it is very early on only a month or less and i don't know wether or not to keep the baby. I've wanted to have a child for ages but i never planned or expected to become pregnant. I know it is alot of responsibility and im in a long term stable relationship and he knows about the pregnancy and says he will support me no matter what i decide. at the same time as being very excited and happy im also very scared as i have no idea what it would be like to raise a child at my age, wether or not it would be fair on the child or not. i would really like advice on what to do but i don't know where to look any suggestions?
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replied April 22nd, 2012
PLEASE keep the baby..... If you don't want to have it with your boyfriend, adopt the child out (that's what I would do if I was in your position) If you need any help deciding and contact them and chat
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