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Q: Want baby by age of 14-15-16
asked by: XxhelpxX on July 31st, 2009
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im very embarrassed talking to people iv never meet so here i go.i really want a baby by one of this ages please help does most girls feel this.
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ProudMommyof2008
replied on July 31st, 2009
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i think most young girls do feel this way at times, and the thought of wanting a baby does pop into their heads.
i think that is a normal thing to think here and there.
But actually acting on that thought is 150% different.
A child having a child is a huge deal, first off there are health risks to think about, you the baby or you and the baby could die during child birth because of the fact that you are still developing, you could do major internal damage to your insides.
And how would someone who has no high school diploma-a pretty necessary piece of paper work in order to get a good paying job-raise an infant? what would you have to offer?
a part time job wont pay for all the things a child needs, and baby sitting or chores here and there wont even come close.
you would be burdening your parents to bring this child up for you financially, because how would someone not of age to work or making minimum wage support herself a child and the cost of rent and more to live on her own?
And if you think that the guy that you want this baby with will stick by you 100% think again, not all guys want to grow up fast and be a parent right away, most of them will leave the girl they get pregnant, deny that the child is theirs and not want to have anything to do with you or a child. and dont believe them if they say that they do want a child with you, a guy will say anything to get in a girls pants.

Before acting out this want, think long term about this.
Everyone sees the lovey dovey moments when a mother and her child are out in public, but you do not see the hard times that they have to deal with when a child is in the picture, you dont see the sleepless nights, the exaustion, the crying baby till 5 in the morning or longer, the money struggles some people go through...
and dont compare having a child to baby sitting, because those are two completely different situations.
A child of your own is a full time responsibility, and if you dont have the basic things done and out of the way before having a child, such as schooling and a good career and paying job, you wont be as successful as you would like to be, and it would not be fair to that child and the other people who will probably be helping you out.
And something that my step dad said once when we talked about this issue, he said:
'someone that young would have to be a pretty uneducated person to willingly plan a child at a young age'
and as harsh as that might sound, i think its the truth, because realistically speaking, it is not fair to that unborn child, or smart to plan a child when you cant even support yourself.

it is so much better to wait until you have things completed and out of the way and organized, and you would enjoy having a child much much more if you wait until you are older, possibly married, have a good job a good career, school out of the way and a TON of savings.
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MamaSarah1114
replied on August 1st, 2009
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dont do it!
im 16 and 6 and a half months pregnant. its really not fun at this age. take it from someone who is actually going through it. its hard already. i used to want to have a baby when i was around the same ages you say but then decided i should wait and ended up getting pregnant the month i got off birth control. the father ditched me and doesnt even talk to me. thats whats really hard too is cuz you CANNOT EVER depend on a guy to stick around and if u do end up getting pregnant this young, you WILL be doing it on your own and its tough. i honestly suggest you wait til your with someone for a long time and can somewhat rely on him. JUST WAIT! til your at least in your 20s. seriously. you cant go out and have fun with your friends whenever you want. i used to party and just drink with my friends and i cant do it anymore. i dont have a job and i feel horrible having my mom pay for everything. its such a big responsibility. too big for this age. so stay protected!!
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Preggo07
replied on August 12th, 2009
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i wanted to have a baby at 13, tried it and thank god it didnt happen.
yes of course i still want a baby but i dont have a boyfriend, none the less the right guy i think would be able to provide for my child so i say hold on, we dont like hearing that but its best, people older than us know better. im glad i took the advice from the girls on this forum, they may be rude but they dont want girls to go through what they have been through. im sure thats why they get so upset. btw, thank u girls once again(:

but please just wait maybe till ur a bit older? im turning 16 in a few months and im dying for a kid. just pms me if u wanna talk okay hun(:
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MamaSarah1114
replied on August 13th, 2009
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im actually 17 next month and seriously why in the hell would u be "dying for a kid" at 15??? go for it and see where u end up then cuz thats the only way u girls are gonna see how hard it is... im really not trying to be mean but my prego hormones are out of control lol
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mommyandwifey1211
replied on August 13th, 2009
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its normal. i wanted a kid at 15/16 i was dating my now hubby but many dont get lucky and have a guy that will stick around.i had my first and 20 and now im preggo with bby 2.i still get the "young" talk and it is difficult honestly i couldnt imagine having a baby any younger than i did even though ive seen younger do it and have wonderful productive lives.

please seriously think about it.write out pros and cons and then think some more.maybe get a babysitting job raising a kid isnt easy and thats coming from a married mommy of a toddler with one on the way,sahm and army wife.

good luck
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ppsb93paris
replied on August 18th, 2009
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want a baby but only 16...
im 16 and want a baby... and ive discussed it with my boyfrend and he agrees weve been together 3 and a half years now and cant live without eachother, but now we want something we can call our own someone we can both look after. i knw our parents wont agree but eventually they might get over it. im working part time and earn quite a bit and my boyfrend plays professtional football and is earning more than our parents lol... but im sure we will be able to cope and as for college i can still do one of those night courses or go to a pregnancy group and do my a levels as there is quite alot in my area. so if you hav really thought about it and have a boyfrend that you are sure will stand by you go for it. Smile
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