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Q: Virgin struggling with sex decision

asked by: Stylishsheek on March 18th, 2009

New User

I'm still a virgin at the age of 28. Its has been totally by choice. I have chosen to wait to get married. (i'm a beautiful inside and out...I'm not conceided) I thought I would be married by now but I'm not. I have guys hitting me and that want to date me but most of them want sex or get tired of waiting. Recently I have been wanting to have sex and not wait for marriage. There is a guy that has been my friend for about four years. I have considered sleeping with him because i care about him and think he might be a good person. However he is clearly hesitant because he knows i'm a virgin. We have fooled around before just never sex. I'm not sure...do I sleep with him or continue to wait???? (did i mention....I'm REALLY ready to have sex but i just want it to be with someone i really care about)

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JavaMissus

replied on March 18th, 2009

Moderator

IMO, there is quite a difference in giving this to someone you "care" about and someone you are in "hot heat" for...When a woman is sexually hungry for a man, she finds a part of herself that lusts for him...In doing this she allows him entry into her soul and joins him in this hot animal place in life....

For the life of me, I can't imagine giving this gift of "joining" to a casual friend...

Just my thoughts,
Caroline

deteragram

replied on March 18th, 2009

Supporter

I responded to your post along with someone else earlier but they were somehow deleted. I think, because you posted the same question so many times. Check your Inbox for my response.

timeisshort

replied on March 19th, 2009

Experienced User

virginity

im a male just spent half hour on a message to you & it got deleted I don't know why
but in short DON'T DON'T DON'T YOU DESERVE THE BEST doesn't your eventual life long partner. don't blow it for lust it's worth a lot more than that, tell them to wait,if they love you they will wait. if they won't it's you that will suffer because they won't have a concience!

worrywart01

replied on March 19th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy

i agree with the rest..it sounds to me like you're just giving up..good job for you for waiting until marriage, why would you wait this long and then give in? if you ARE planning to have sex dont just jump into with this guy, wait until you're in love..its the best way really

Stylishsheek

replied on March 19th, 2009

New User

thanks

thanks for the responses...very helpful

ServiceU

replied on May 9th, 2009

Supporter

i am very proud of you! at 28 years old i couldnt tell you how many guys i slept with. i wish i had waited b/c all the guys ive been with were jerks.
if you made it this far i think you should still to your guns.
whats hard is when i was in my late 20's it was hard to find a guy who was marriage minded.
do you go to church? have you considered dating older guys who has "been there done that" and ready to settle down.
if your questioning yourself then maybe it's not the right time for you to loose your virginity.

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