Hello there.

Im an 18 year old male with some big worries. I'm still a virgin and just cannot seem to be able to go that final step.

The first time I experienced this problem was when I was 17, I got really really drunk and ended up with a girl in bed. I couldnt get hard at all and blamed it on the alcohol. The second time I was with my girlfriend about a year ago and drunk again and had the same problem. This time I was pretty annoyed about it as it had happened twice now, I knew it was just nerves.

Then months later I was with my girlfriend all alone and things were going great, we were both sober and I managed to get hard. But she is also a virgin and when I tried to penetrate she said it was very painful, so I stopped.

We left it for a little while, and a couple of months ago we celebrated 1 year together. However very recently we tried again to have sex. I took my time and spent about 30-45 minutes on foreplay. I didnt feel as nervous as I used to be. I was all ready and so was she. I put the condom on and began penetrating but found it quite difficult getting in, I was fumbling a bit. She was very aroused so that wasnt the problem, but then my penis starting going soft again. After a few attempts I got an erection and tried to penetrate again, I got a little way in then went soft again. We gave up eventually and now I dont know what to do.

I really want to try again but at the same time dont want to keep doing the same thing. My girlfriend says not to worry about it, she is understanding but also quite nervous too. I have read a lot on the internet about this type of thing but would like some specific help. I went to my doctor after the second time and he said it was psychological. Can anyone give me advice on how to overcome this? Any help would be greatly appreciated. I know I have to just relax and stuff but I didnt feel particularly nervous this last time.

Thanks.