1. If a guys is boring you can do nothing about it. Some people are like that.
2. Sex shouldn't get boring, if it does something is wrong with the relationship, either chemistry does not match up or relationship is based on sex, maybe not that respective relationship (there are way too many possibilities)
3.have never happen to me, but I know guys who always get bored of the same girlfriends they are so called "Don Juan"
4. If she finds it a job or a task, then maybe they need to do something else besides sex?

hello, well I have been with my bf for nearly 5 years now and if anything our sex life has gone better because when i lived with my mum we hardly did anything there was to much interruptions and when we did do something it was all like sshhh your mum will hear and i couldn't be myself and tell my bf how much he truly turned me on, i couldn't even let out my screams but since we moved in together (after being together a year) we go wild and i say what i like how loud i like it's great jenny

You must not have read my thread on sensual sex...Bored, you have got to be kidding...Wilder than all get out...Between you, I and this computer, I just booked tomorrow for a hot romp... ... Does that sound boring????? Sometimes I like to set something up as he doesn't know which face of Eve he will find....

C

you go caroline! your like a wild woman, and i bet your husband loves it lol well we could all learn some tips of you x

Honey, I hope so...That is why I write of our love...Years ago I expected to be sitting on a rocker at this age....This is what I had been told...Sex would be a part of yesterday...And that was said by my elders with a "Thank God".added....Now I find that it is the most wonderful part of my life...I have a husband that is sure that he is a stud and I never let him forget it...Sure I am a "little" wild but who says what old is....Back gets a bit sore from up over his shoulders sex, but it feels so good to have him looking down at me and finding a new pleasure to make me happy...Once I screamed with passion when he did this....Dog went running and I forgot I did it until the next day when my husband told me about it...Sometimes I scare myself but what fun I am having and that is what counts...

Marriages go to the devil because people forget to remember how they started out....I don't.....And may I add, I am finding a new part of myself every day of my life....That statement in itself should be frightening....but I love it...

Much love sweetie,
Caroline

i think it is great that you are feeling like this and that you are so alive i think it's wonderful that you and your husband are still so close together it's very rare these days to find ppl who are still together after all this time Jenny

oh caroline i sent you a msg hun

Maybe you should surprise the bf or hubby with oral sex. A nice long slow bj will surely get him going. try the old reach around as well. A pinky in the pie hole will surely get him going :~P

Both parties are responsible for the so called "Vanilla Sex". When my wife and I first started dating, and even after we were married, she used to initiate sex once in awhile (which I found incredibly exciting). Now she never does. She performed oral sex on me once in our whole relationship (her excuse is that I never showed any reaction-good or bad).
To spice things up we've got a 'toy chest' filled with all sorts of goodies, some just for her, a lot that we share. At 52 there are still a few things that I'd like to try But with 3 little ones (ages 7, 5 and 3...all adopted) it's become more difficult than ever to find even a little 'private time' for my wife and I. Lately it's been a lot of quickies, that neither of us seems to enjoy. But we're still trying to make a go of it There's a lot of things both parties can do to spice things up a bit. It is NOT just the male's responsibility.

Again i do agree but the way i like it is..I like him to tell me what he is going to do you know..I like him to "throw" me around the bedroom....It turns me on more when he uses his forces on me
Although i do like to be in control now and then....to make him feel special like he does with me..Jenny

Wow this one is too hot for me lol

Lol @ nsully.....nonsense nothing is too hot for discussion

J3nnyuk...I tried throwing my wife around the bedroom and the next day all I heard out of her was that her back ached, LOL (true story)...and once agin it's all up to the guy.

Lol not everything has to be up to the guy....it depends :p

sometimes relationships get into a rut. it's the responsibility of both ppl to get it out.

one example of this was with an ex-bf. things kinda slowed down with us sexually (mostly it was me who slowed them down, but i did so because it was pretty "vanilla" as described above).

well one day he just came up to me and said he wanted me "right NOW!"...and he picked me up and took me back to the bed. let me tell you i let that boy take me any way he wanted that day! that was awesome! i was thrilled with his manliness!

other times, in relationships, i have taken the lead-role in bringing things back to "normal".

the bottom line is that both ppl have to desire to make eachother happy. if you lose that desire, then you've lost the magic key.

jasmine

ps. caroline is my sexual mentor!!!!!! love 'ya baby!

Hi ya Jazzy baby:

The secret is keeping everything interesting....Never letting him see the same woman twice...Teasing...Flirting....Eyes that tell a story of the passion that he will find...Tempting....Never forgetting to remember that this is your hot man...Just plain, having the time of your life......

The most important thing is that anything goes between two lovers....Took me a long time to learn that.... Believe me....Now I know...

xox
Caroline

I have to say that being reciprocol is the answer an equal effort from both sides to be initiative and to get on with things.

My husband and I take turns on initiating sex. I love when he is in control like you *J3nnyuk* I love to be thrown around and roughed up lol it is a major turn on! I love when my hubby comes home from a long day of work and I can tease him a little and wait till the kids are in bed and take total advantage of him! I like to keep it exciting and fun. I think both of us are equal in to who initiates who, and thats how it should be:)