I am suffering from Vaginismus and its an ordeal for intercourse. I am married and and trying to conceive, and here are the steps I take for deep penetration
1) I am using an Ovulation Prediction Kit from clearblue and time sex before & during ovulation
2) The only way I can bear the pain to intercourse is if I use petroleum jelly which numbs the outer walls of my vagina, thus greatly helping penetration. No other lubrication helps
3) My husband tries to penetrate very gently, as I guide him. Once inside, I have no pain & he ejaculates inside me.
4) I do not feel anything during intercourse
5) I have used dilators, but again they are fine only with lubrication and used gently.
However, I have heard that Petroleum gel kills sperms. Water based lubricants might be better, but they do not help with my pain.
Given my condition, can you please advice if I am doing the correct steps to increase my chance of conceiving?