jadooda, It is time to get rid of your insecurities. An insecure girl is never very attractive to men. Don't loose your boyfriend because of some displaced ideas of how your vagina should look.
If you think you are unique feeling insecure about this, you will be mistaken. Most girls and boys are worried about if they look normal, what their partners will think of it, how they will perform when they have sex. It is natural to have these fears. It is however the healthy thing to deal with it, see it for what it is - insecurity and move on with your life.
Your vulva is not there to look at. That is why you put clothes on every day. The labia minora's purpose is to protect your clitoris, vagina and pee hole, keep germs and dirt out and keep you moist. Every woman's vulva looks different. The lips can be almost black, dark brown, wine red, purple, pink, white or even have very uneven color or have colored stains. It can be smooth or wrinkly, tight or loose, tucked inside, hanging out, uneven, sticking out, or peeking out.
When you become sexually aroused the color will also get even darker - part of the wonderful way your body works.
Just like every woman's face is unique, her vulva is unique.
You are the sum total of many things, your looks, your personality, your sense of humor, your emotions, your ability to love and care, your laugh and smile, and yes, your breasts, vulva, and vagina. So why do you think he cares more about how your vulva looks, rather than all the other things, Why do you think he is in love with you as the total package but will be so repulsed by the color of your labia? Even though he never sees it and it is a source of a lot of pleasure for him?
So rather worry about how to keep yourself healthy, do your kegel exercises and protect yourself from STDs and infections. How to be more self confident and show him that you are a worthy partner that is his equal in every sense. Not an insecure girl that only cares about what he thinks of her vulva.
Take care and stop worrying about something that is not important!!
Thanx for your reply and support... i don't know next step how do i react!!1
do i have to be self confident and let him see it even though he won't like it!!!
cause every time he tries i react very scared and say things like noooooooo.. or don't look!!
i can't be comfortable to let him see it, even if i'll pretend to be comfortable in front of him... I'll be very scared inside of me, sometimes i say to myself: go ahead.. let him see it and don't give a ****... but when I'm with him it's very different
Really i'm thinking alot of time to let him see it, and to tell myself i don't care..if he liked it or not it's not a big problem
listen it's not a big problem, I would advice to, first, tell him about it, depending on his reaction you'll feel a lot more confident about it.
when you say: "it's a little darker than the rest of my body", he'll say: "That's it? oh geez I was starting to get a little worried haha, Listen i like YOU not the color of your skin or the shape of your body"
and if he doesn't take it that way you can always hit him and at least rest asured you never showed it to him cuz he didn't deserve it =D
and if you though that he was good enough to be your boyfriend in the first place I'm sure that you'll agree with me that you don't really think that he'll hate you if he see's it