I am scheduled for a hysterectomy next month after I backed out of a UAE and now I am wondering if I should've had the UAE. I asked my OBGYN if I will lose the ability to have Uterine orgasms after my hysterectomy and she said "Orgasms have nothing to do with your uterus, only your clitoris" Is this true? My cervix will also be removed and I am only 40 years old. If orgasms are not associated with my uterus than why is it that when I have an orgasm triggered from Gspot stimulation I feel the contractions in my uterus? My fibroids and uterus are extremely large and painful so I have to do something, I just can't figure out what the "something" should be. Are the risks of sexual dysfunction higher with UAE or hysterectomy? Will I still have my gspot after either procedure?
I lost my uterus, ovaries and cervix at age 47...At that time in my life I never thought nor knew of the perils of what could have happened.....I just picked up where I left off...Started on Premarin and got off of it four years ago...I am multiply orgasmic...This I have perfected when my G-spot became so alive about four years ago...What you call Uterine orgasms, I call vaginal...To me, your orgasms begin in your mind...You perfect them and bring them out to share with your lover...What we share should be a sin of lust....
Life is for you to discover....Leave your fears for something important....IMO, the same woman who enters the operating room will be the same woman who leaves it...The only difference will be that her life has truly begun....
I understand that these are just my thoughts, but also a wonderful part of who I am...
I'm scheduled to have my Hysterectomy in the next few months and I did not know if I was going to keep the cervix from all of the talk that I have heard. Your post has been very helpful and I look forward to the NEW ME. Thank you and Good bless you!!
the uterus' and the cervix role in the enjoyment of sex
I am so happy that I am not the only one with this concern!!! I like the feeling of my cervix being occasionally "in the way" if you know what I mean..
The uterus is anchored well in place.. what becomes of that?.. is there any pleasure left behind for women who like the stimulation that it can create in the entire pelvic region when the right kind of push is there?
I think I have to do more research, but I get the distinct impression that doctors dont care at all about the consequences to our sexuality I asked a doc and she told me that it doesn't matter because you can't feel your cervix anyway.. I disagree.. I could only look at her blankly and puty her husband.
I am not trying to be rude.. certainly don't want to make light of this, my uterus has to go, or I will die.. plain and simple.. I just have this nagging worry that I am way too young to have my sex life ruined. anyone have more input??? please???
Doctors do care about a woman's sexuality...However, if an organ needs to be removed, it needs to be removed...I lost my cervix, uterus and ovaries all at the same time when I was 47....I can assure you that this has never caused me a problem with the exception of worrying that it would cause me a problem...Once I got past this, it was "katy bar the door"...IMO, a woman's sexuality is in her mind...What is between her legs is the implement that she uses to show how alive her imagination is and just plain let the hot erotic woman in herself loose...For me and many like me, no regrets....Take care...
I lost my ability to have uterine contractions when orgasming. I don't orgasm as often (rarely now) and they kind of get to a peak but don't finish. That is with clitoris stimulation. I don't have any orgasms now from penetration. All doctors say that your sex should be the same or better but it is not true. If there was never a problem why do they admitt that some women will have different types of sexual dysfunction after a hysterectomy. It has happened to me! My hubby and I have tried every toy, position, jelly, cream, positive thoughts and prayers and nothing. It is not in my mind or the countless other women who have sexual dysfuntion. Try your other options first so at least you won't regret having the surgery.
Through cancer, I had to have a radical hysterectomy and oopherectomy when I was 44.
My gynae told me that I would have sexual dysfunction, ie as my cervix had been removed, it wasn't possible to vibrate during sex, hence no orgasm. He also told me that as I was going to go into an early menopause, I would have dryness issues etc.
My experience is that I now find it impossible to orgasm satisfactorily. I can enjoy sex, but it's definitely not the same.
He was wrong about the dryness issues - none at all.
The other thing that hasn't been mentioned, is that by removing all female organs, I now don't have the natural oestregon that makes you a woman. Not having the same hormone level has definitely had an effect. My skin is poorer and I have aged; I don't feel the same about myself sexually and despite being a really positive person,just feel I'm not the same person any more. I sense a definite loss which I could never have envisaged.
HRT definitely helped and I felt so much better in myself. It compensated for all the menopausal issues etc.
However, it might be worth noting that one year after the womb cancer, I got breast cancer and had to have a mastectomy so that didn't do a lot for my femininity lol
I know this all sounds very negative and I really didn't want it to. Yes it has affected my sexuality; something I miss terribly, but hey I'm glad to be alive!!!
Dear Peaofsweetness ~ I'm so sorry for all you have endured. Please know that I care, if that helps at all. I have a question about the womb cancer you mentioned. Was that endometrial or uterine cancer? Do you know what stage and grade that was? I was diagnosed with endo cancer a month ago. Still trying to find a doc I feel I can trust. Not easy.
Don't know whether to feel bad or envious of the women who say their orgasms have not changed or are better post hysterectomy. They certainly never had the full deep uterine orgasm that would put me in spasms of back arching ecstasy over and over again. The orgasms I have now, 3 months after hysterectomy (kept my ovaries and cervix) are all in my clitoral and vagina area. I used to think of these as just warm ups - something I could get to with foreplay or maybe at initial penetration. In the past ocassionally they would be it if I was tired or sick, but now it is all I am getting. I am very sad about this, as I am only 46, but have decided not to talk to my husband about it because I know it will affect his enjoyment knowing the orgasms I am now getting are not the thrill they used to be. The uterus is gone. Nothing he can do can help me feel uterine contractions again.
Each woman is affected in a different way with a Hysterectomy...I had my Uterus, Ovaries and Cervix removed at the same time...I was 47 years old...For us, sex is wonderful...I would strongly suggest to any woman that is past her Menopause or Hysterectomy and still having trouble finding her orgasms, to see her OB-GYN and get an Estring Disc...These are inserted, by herself high into her vagina...Every three months they are replaced...Each day they give her a dose of Estroil that keeps her wet, in want and I swear also wake up her clit in addition to her vaginal canal....I hope that this information helps one of you....Take care...
Also missing the uterus... but at least sex is fun again
I had a hysterectomy two months ago now and I also miss the uterine orgasms. My orgasms are still good, just missing the "bass clef" of the song.
I thought everyone's orgasms were like that, but I guess we were just lucky to have them while we did.
Reading your posts, now I feel normal. Thanks.
sa691, your post is from ''09 so you''ve likely made your decision by now. I would never recommend hysterectomy to anyone and I despise my surgeon for inadequately warning me. Like yours, he lied about the role of the cervix and uterus during orgasm. I didn''t even KNOW I was having uterine orgasms UNTIL THEY CEASED TO EXIST after surgery. I had no idea. It used to be difficult for me to orgasm but once it happened, it was huge, the kind where you have trouble walking afterward. Now, it''s like, Oh, that tickled. In looking back, there were clues. For instance, unlike some women, I could not orgasm without something inside of me. Now I know why ... the cervix and uterus were very much a part of everything. I no longer have any breast sensation. Oh, I can feel them being fondled, but maybe because of all the nerves that were severed, I no longer feel that distinct, direct sensation in my pelvis from breast play. Maybe that should be the first two questions a surgeon should ask: Can you orgasm without something inside of you and do your breasts and uterus have a kind of "connection" that you enjoy? My surgeon was concerned only that I was uninformed and had great insurance, as evidenced by the fact my hysterectomy was not medically necessary. He removed it during a bladder lift, saying it "would be easier to perform the lift if those parts were out of the way." Stupidly, I consented.
I have a total hysterectomy leaving only 1 ovary at the age of 45, my orgasms have tripled and become more intense, i no longer have the pain and pressure of fibroids or the worry of bleeding before, during and after sex. I can let my husband do his magic and not worry about him getting a mouthful of blood and being grossed out. I think it is all about relaxation and enjoying the way your man touches you and how it feels to be loved in your soul. My love making and pleasure has at least tripled since my hysterectomy. My orgasm before hysterectomy was good, but now it is intense and I go on forever and sometimes 3 to 4 times in one session (thanks for my husband''s handywork). It has brought us closer and more intimate than then we were during the past 14 years we were married. I feel like a newlywed sometimes. Maybe because I am so in love with my husband and he with me, but I really think it is just relaxing and enjoyment of pleasing each other.
I am 47. On February 5th, I had my uterus removed, ovaries intacted. I had a mesh net built to hold up my uretha. I used to be multiorgasmic by way of clitoral orgasms. I am very sensual. I can't seem to have an orgasm now. We have done ALL things. I get aroused to the HILT, the EDGE.....I press and press and press.....nothing. I hate it. I feel broken. This has been me my whole life and now nothing. My husband feels he is failing me, but he is doing ALL right, I just can NOT release. How do I get my clitoral orgasms back?
Hi zuschette....It's a rough surgery, but the roughest part is inside your mind...The next time that he is pleasuring you, have him give you oral sex with his finger deep inside you at the same time...Stimulate your vaginal canal...Work both magic places at the same time...Then go back to your yesterdays...Go to that place in your mind that you hide...You know all the hot and sexual thoughts that you want to deny, but that are a part of each of us women....Let it all hang out...Think of what a hot stud he is...Use some hot dirty words...Your clit will awaken when you allow it to come alive...Honey, just relax and smell the roses...Let that wild woman that lives within you loose...Believe me, she lives....Take care....
HELLO, after a UAE I too lost uterine contractions during orgasm.... it was difficult to finish/orgasm, and the clitoris is almost non-existant and difficult to excite... also like someone else said, the direct conection from breasts to uterus is gone....
over time (it has been like 4 years) it is getting better, I have learned to have vaginal orgasms instead of uterine or clitoral.... it is different, but works, also using a TOY helped find the right SPOTS ... what they call "the other g-spot" works best .... better than nothing... for us it is made worse as I am late forties and he is fifties and he is having some ED problems so that is not helping.... so yes, I miss what it used to be, but it is not the end of the world... and we had to find other ways and new positions so that was fun LOL.... good luck, keep trying, try something new... I think over time you will see improvement, keep working at it...
Thought I'd post again on this one. Now 7 months post- hysterectomy( kept ovaries). Even though my gyn said my hormone levels were normal and I was in no way menopausal or pre menopausal, he put me on estra test hormones to see if it could help with the orgasm. It does help somewhat. I feel more aroused and now have little to medium orgasms. The breast uterine connection still totally gone - glad you mentioned that too UAE2005, because I think that is really the source of the problem for those of us who were really sensitive to that before.
The Dr. on this site also suggested that I may have damage to important areas in my varginal wall which would create the problem. I wonder if some surgeons have this problem more than others, and am wondering if there is a way to research this prior to surgery.I have not asked the dr more about this, because how does that help me now at this point - unless I want to sue for malpractice. I am trying to keep my head in the game, so to speak, and having someone tell me that for sure my orgasm was perminently broken would not help that.
I am just figuring I am missing the uterine contraction badly, that my hormone level must have been record setting high before the surgery, and that maybe with hormones and focusing on other parts of the experience we can still find enjoyment of each other. It is getting better.
I, too, posted earlier. Originally, I thought there were equal "positive" and "negative" responses here. But that's not the case ... the first 3 are inquiries/opinions but without any surgical experience, so I discounted them. Carolyn, the moderator, posted 4 times and seems to have no problems - she is completely satisfied sexually and point blank tells us it's all in our minds. She means well, but cannot relate to our awful predicament. LovingMM is deliriously happy, too, although I believe she's actually more ecstatic that she's healthy vs not. The others - 7 of us, DO NOT LIKE WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO US ONE BIT.
Can you imagine if only 2 out of 9 men had a satisfactory orgasm? I realize this isn't a polling place, but I'm still so torqued! Why aren't women "the same or better" afterwards, as their surgeons promised? Has anyone successfully sued for damages for this surgery? Are we representative of what's really going on, while medical schools still churn out future dollars, er, I mean doctors? These people must take GYN101 classes where they practice saying, "the same or better" in front of a mirror trying to keep a straight face.
I have just had a hysterectomy in August leaving only one ovary...Orgasm was good b4 my surgery...But since my surgery the big O is just that. The big O...Totally better and wetter than they have ever been. I'm 32 years old and enjoy sex more than I have ever...Its great and anyone who is in need of the surgery get it done...Its your health and the worry was there for me also...But it became better than I ever imagined...I will tell you the first couple times you have sex with your partner your afraid of how its gonna feel and if your gonna be able to experience the orgasm...But after about the fourth try its great. And my libido has gone crazy I want it all the time to the extent of aching...So good luck with your decisions and I hope you all find the orgasm your looking for.
I know this is an old forum ReallyTorqued, but I love your post. I almost had an MD remove my uterus/cervix whe I was 25 but thankfully he only removed one ovary and my tubes. I remember feeling so young at the time and I when I asked him if this would affect my sex life if he had to remove my uterus and cervix and he nervously said "oh, not at all!" You are DEAD on correct about this entire subject and these MD's are awful. I was just lucky. I am now about to turn 51, after almost 40 years of the worst periods that kept me in bed 1 week a month,they have finally stopped.... looking back I wouldn't change a thing. I hope people read your post before making any decisions. Thank you
I agree in that these Dr.'s need to poll women and see what most are going through. I had only my uterus removed at 43, still wanted more kids. Had hyperplasia with atypia, was told it could turn to cancer. That scared me. I notice a weak orgasm and totally know what the uterine one is. That strong throb and deepness is gone. It's only been 4 months for me. I'm hoping it will get better. The breast uterine thing is gone for me as well. Never knew how much I'd miss this. Especially since I use to put sex off if I could even though when I did it, I loved it. Now really miss how it use to feel. I'm hoping it will get better. I did not realize how much I would miss my uterus. I wish I would have waited and tested every 6 months to see if the atypia was present. I talked the Dr. into keeping my cervix, he was going to take it too, and said if I kept it I'd still need a pap. Who cares if I need a pap, I'd rather keep it if it's safe and have a pap. I didn't have cancer, but it had a chance of turning into it, so I worried about that day if it would show up. Told me, the uterus was useless to me now since I had 1% chance of getting pregnant at my age, and had fibriods that did not hurt me but heavy periods. He told me most women are so much happier and don't miss it. I miss it, and cry over it. I know it sounds stupid. I'm hoping sex will be as enjoyable with time and the vaginal orgasm will get stronger. Now that I don't have the uterus I want a another baby even more. My kids are 20 and 17, I'm 44 now and it would have been starting over which he thought I was crazy and I was told my eggs might have been old anyway. I so upset at my decision. I wish I would have thought about it longer but the thought of cancer scared me.
I had a total hyst/ooph ten years ago. I was 37 and had extreme pain and heavy bleeding since the age of 13. My doctor had me sign a release allowing him to remove my ovaries (if there were any other problems such as cancer found during surgery), he removed them even though they were normal. I trusted him. He delivered both of my children and my obgyn for 19 years, prior to my surgery. I can still have orgasms that are very satisfying, however, do not feel that same wow feeling upon penetration
as I did prior to surgery. The thing I noticed most was/is a lack of hot attraction to men that I felt before. In some ways this is a good thing, because I think and feel a lot more with my head and heart, rather than between my legs. I believe that in the last few years some nerves have become more responsive over time. I, too, grieved over the same losses spoken of in prior posts, however, don't give up hope and remember to think positively. I must add that some sensitivity has returned to the breasts over time as well.
I am now 50 and had a hysterectomy at 33 during childbirth (placenta previa). The doctor left me one ovary. The difference for me was huge- I once had wonderful waves of orgasms but after surgery the big 'Os' were pathetic and weak - like I was only partly there. I think I must have been pretty down for the first few years and the relationship with my partner eventually broke down due to a number of factors. Things did get better though- I have a new partner who is a wonderful and patient lover- the orgasms will never be the same but the intimacy and exploration has been fantastic. I'm grateful for what I have- a beautiful daughter and a caring partner but those years of adjusting to the changes were an internal nightmare with lots of grief over the loss of that female organ- think very carefully if your doctor advises the hysterectomy and explore the alternatives.
I am 37 i have 2 kids and a grandchild and had a hysterectomy 2 months ago they left my ovaries. and i still have clitoral orgasms and vaginal(uterine) orgasms also and the uterine orgasms i get more often than clitoral and it is great i think it is better than it was before my husband thanks the doctors he said the surgery did wonders.