i dont know but it sounds to me you should find someone else. he seems non interested thats major to me. and 5-6 years come on ther is another reason hes not telling you. i would sit seriously and talk this out with him.good luck.

I know it's not that. He is affectionate in many other ways, but sometimes when it comes to sex he refuses. It's worse when he sees a lot of younger people he knows that are having kids, and to make matters worse his 17 year old niece is prego now. It freaks us both out, but I'm just trying to find a way to be extra safe and reassure us both.

hey sweetie how have things gone lately. i hope better , do you talk more has he tried to improve. keep us informed of your progress. ask me anytime you need help ill try

Talk to him about a vassectomy, they're reversible and they are as safe as abstainance. If he has reservations about it tell him it is his turn to come up with a suggestion to resolve the issue of him not meeting your needs in the relationship. If you don't like his suggestion, your turn. Keep working with him to resolve the issue, never accept "X won't work so there's no answer"

Thank you so much for the advice and interest.

We have talked about some things but not much has changed. When we talk I don't blame him, I just say that I'm unhappy with the way things are going. He seems to get hurt or annoyed, but I don't think he considers how I feel. I get tired of feeling like I'm the only one who cares or thinks this is important.

We still go weeks without sex, and then when we do, it is uncomfortable for me. It seems that we wait so long that it "burns" when we do have sex and I think he has gotten used to not having to have sex. It's like just "normal" for him now not to have sex. It's like a normal routine now. I have talked to him about this, but I'm not sure if there is any real affect.

I'm just unhappy. I try to tell him that and if he doesn't get hurt by it or annoyed then he comes up with all kinds of reasons and excusses. Like he's tired and/or hurting from work, he has too much on his mind, etc. Well, there's been days when he wasn't tired/sore and I've wanted to be intimate and nothing. He's just lazy about it. Also, I have the same worries on my mind that he does, (work, money, moving,etc.) and I can still feel sexual toward him.

I don't know what to do anymore. I guess I'm going to have to get used to being a 25 year old woman who rarely has sex with her boyfriend and get used to the feelings of rejection and pain. =(

If you've sat down with him and discussed your needs and he's been dismissive it may be time to give him an ultimatum. Tell him that you love him but that you're not happy and it's frustrating to you that he seems to find that acceptable. You want to help him make this work and you'll do anything you can but you need to be touched and made love to more often, specify how often you want sex. Tell him that if he is unwilling to take care of your needs he has to be decent enought to allow you to find someone that will. And be prepared for him to let you go.

im still concerned for the fact that after bringing this up so much he still doesent give you a real answer even one thats hurtfull would be better than being run over. your being so willing to bend over backwards and hes doing nothing. does he have a manly problem he too ashamed to talk about, is he seeing someone else, what? im so sorry for you i wish tgings were better for you. maybe you could show him this site and let him read how far youve been willing to go for him maybe that would help. imsorry sweetie wish you the best.