Wait...are you talking about yourself? You just said "when she WAS six". As a matter-of-fact it is all "when she WAS". Is she now seven? Or are you talking about yourself? I have always called my mom "mom" and my dad "dad" and I always tell my children to respect and be good for "mom" or "dad". Mommy, mom, mum, all mean the same thing. Same for daddy, dad, papa, whatever. Now if you are truly talking about a little girl next door, I want to ask you how you KNOW she does not/didn't have a good relationship with her mom? How do you know this? Are you in her house with her and her family? And what other 6 year olds are you comparing her to? Look, my son is six, very mature for his age. He walks to school (which is right across the road from us, we live in Navy housing, so there is a gate that the Military Police open that leads down to the school)by himself, ok not totally by himself, he has his little sister in tow, the school is down the hill from me so I stand outside to watch them go. They stop at the corner down the hill, where the Military Policeman/woman escorts them to the gate, where their teacher is waiting to take them to class. But when I was six I walked to school by myself. My mom would walk me to the end of the street and off I would go. I knew to look both ways, never talked to strangers, never got hurt. Children absorb more than they are given credit for. But my kindergarten days were in the late 80's, a time when it was safer for children to walk to school alone. I may let my kids walk alone, but they are never out of my sight. Ever. I have a clear view from my backyard to the gate at the school. As far as breastfeeding goes, ha! I never made it past 4 weeks breastfeeding either of my little ones. Does that make me a bad mom? No. Does that make my kids neglected? No. Breastfeeding is not for everyone. And breastfeeding a six year old, who needs more than what mother's milk provides is not right for most women. There are other ways to cuddle/bond with your child other than breastfeeding. Why are you so obsessed with this little girl? Is it because she has a life that you desperatly wish you could have for yourself? You need to work on your own personal demons instead of worrying about others.