Hello Sandy,
Always remember that YOU are number ONE. Don't let any doc try to intimidate you. If a doc does, then cross him/her off of your list and find a BETTER doctor.
During the past year and a half I have been to 7 spinal surgeons/neurologists. Of those, only a neurologist, a pain management doc and one spinal surgeon have actually listened to me. Most won't give me the time of day. To those I say "Shove IT" and move on. AND that's after eliminating a lot of spinal specialists because of bad references. I have no idea how the "baddies" are permitted to graduate from med school.
The name of the game is to find the very best spinal doc that you can find. Ain't many out there, but there are a few. Just keep searching and don't waste your time with the baddies.
Take care. Hang in there.
RichT
P.S. - I wonder if carrying a BIG bat into the exam room would make a difference. LOL