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Q: upcoming medication abortion

asked by: 08medic on March 5th, 2008

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I found out I was pregnant two days ago, but knew almost right away (just one of those things). And sure enough, a week or two later my breasts began to swell and were (are) very sore and I started having periods of nausea throughout the day. Not to mention I've been eating like a horse! So, the positive test didn't surprise me at all. The conception was most definitely a mistake. Alcohol and my fiancé staying over was a bad combination. It happened on Feb. 10th.

I am 24 and have a very demanding full time job, am just finishing school, and have a four year old son (divorced his abusive dad). Not to mention I'm still remodeling the house I bought last fall. With life in general right now, I would not be capable of being the mom a new baby would deserve and demand. Don't misunderstand that statement, because I am a wonderful mother to my son, and he is my world, but I cannot stretch that much further.

I am not an abortion advocate, and I am ashamed at the decision I have made. However, it is an option women have, and one that I have chosen. I am not entitled to judge the next woman; nor they, me. I have chosen the medicated option and am fully informed of the differences between the two, including the procedure, effects, risks, complications, etc. And yes, I am choosing it because it is the non-invasive procedure. I know what to expect, and although I am nervous, I am just looking forward to being done, and continuing on with life without this additional stress.

I am putting my story on this forum after reading othersâ€™ for the past two days. I am hoping for advice on coping or any other tidbits or experiences you may have to offer. I would love to hear from any of you. I am set in the medication abortion, so please, do not try to push your opinion on me if you disagree. I realize that everyone has different experiences, and that the negative are generally the ones people like to share. So I would love to hear anything positive. I appreciate any responses and thank you all in advance. I will also try to update as the day arrives. Thanks again!

Replies(9)

Carifairy

replied on March 5th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

I work in abortion, and I am a nurse.

I have also has 3 abortions, and I prefer surgical myself. Painless with IV sedation, and only takes 3-5 minutes.

MEDICAL abortion has a higher failure rate than surgical. NOT to scare you, but if the medical abortion fails you would need a surgical abortion.

Make sure you go back for your follow up!

That is the biggest advice I can give you, follow up is necessary so they can do an ultrasound to make sure your uterus is clear.

Carifairy

replied on March 5th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

I wanted to mention.. You will go into labor with the cytotec/misoprostol medication, that is how you expel the pregnancy tissue..With the prostaglandin..

ADVICE from ladies I have worked with who had medical abortion:
-HEATING PAD is your friend
-Take painkillers before you take the Misprostol, it makes it better.
-Eat something not so greasy before the abortion. Eating seems to make most women feel more comfortable, but nothing too heavy.

-A back massage helps with cramping, so some women like to buy massaging pillows.

-You WILL GUSH blood literally, so know to expect that and don't get too freaked out. This is one piece of advice that you don't see much on the internet.

Birch

replied on March 5th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

Re: 1 week until medication abortion

08medic wrote:

I found out I was pregnant two days ago, but knew almost right away (just one of those things). And sure enough, a week or two later my breasts began to swell and were (are) very sore and I started having periods of nausea throughout the day. Not to mention I've been eating like a horse! So, the positive test didn't surprise me at all. The conception was most definitely a mistake. Alcohol and my fiancÃ© staying over was a bad combination. It happened on Feb. 10th.

I am 24 and have a very demanding full time job, am just finishing school, and have a four year old son (divorced his abusive dad). Not to mention I'm still remodeling the house I bought last fall. With life in general right now, I would not be capable of being the mom a new baby would deserve and demand. Don't misunderstand that statement, because I am a wonderful mother to my son, and he is my world, but I cannot stretch that much further.

I am not an abortion advocate, and I am ashamed at the decision I have made. However, it is an option women have, and one that I have chosen. I am not entitled to judge the next woman; nor they, me. I have chosen the medicated option and am fully informed of the differences between the two, including the procedure, effects, risks, complications, etc. And yes, I am choosing it because it is the non-invasive procedure. I know what to expect, and although I am nervous, I am just looking forward to being done, and continuing on with life without this additional stress.

I am putting my story on this forum after reading othersâ€™ for the past two days. I am hoping for advice on coping or any other tidbits or experiences you may have to offer. I would love to hear from any of you. I am set in the medication abortion, so please, do not try to push your opinion on me if you disagree. I realize that everyone has different experiences, and that the negative are generally the ones people like to share. So I would love to hear anything positive. I appreciate any responses and thank you all in advance. I will also try to update as the day arrives. Thanks again!

1. You never have to justify why you want an abortion. :heart:

2. If you are "ashamed" of your decision, you may want to seriously reconsider. I am a prochoice advocate, but any individual who makes a decision they are ashamed of (whether it be to drink a bottle of wine at one time, smoke marijuana, eat at Wendy's, or have an abortion) needs to address why they are ashamed and honestly visit their intentions. It is a large and permanent decision you will have to live with the rest of your life. Please make sure it is what you want and you can live with your decision forever.

3. That being said, I have had an abortion (surgical) and I am fine with my decision before, during, and after.

4. I would reconsider the medical abortion. Surgical was very quick, relatively painless, had some cramping, and took about five minutes. I was fully recovered less than 24 hours later. I did not have general anethesia.

5. I am sending you white light and well wishes! I hope things go well for you!

Carifairy

replied on March 5th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

I wanted to add..

PLEASE try not feel ashamed. No one is perfect, birth control itself is not perfect.

These things happen to the best of us, but you have a choice, so you can decide what is best for you. =)

We can fly to the moon, we can cure disease, but we still cannot control out fertility.

MaineGirl76

replied on March 10th, 2008

New User

I have been there myself. I had an abortion last May. I'm was 31 at the time, and have been in a commited relationship for the last almost 16 years. I chose to have an abortion because it was just not the right time for me. I have been suffering from depression and anxiety issues and my fiance and I were going thru a rough patch. It was just not the right time, emotionally, physically. No one knows I had the abortion...no one.

You do not have to justify your reasons to anyone. You are the one that controls your life. You decide what is best for you. So please know that it is ok. I had and still have bouts of guilt but all in all in was still the best decision for me at that point in my life.

I just want you to know that you are not alone. I hope you are doing ok and please pm anytime.

Take care!

08medic

replied on March 12th, 2008

New User

I'm back! Well, today I had my appointment & it went well (aside from the ridiculously long wait, and no, it wasn't busy). I took the mifepristone at there & was sent home with the rest of my meds. The ultrasound confirmed that I am just over 4 weeks. The physician and staff was wonderful, and I am now confident I made the right decision. Tomorrow after work I will administer the misoprostol, and I will give another update on Friday. Thanks ladies!

louise702

replied on March 12th, 2008

Experienced User

Hope it all goes well for you Smile

08medic

replied on March 14th, 2008

New User

So far, so good! I took an anti-emetic & Tylenol #3 last evening after work, around 5:30 or so. Then I took the misoprostol around 6:30pm. I kept expecting the pain and everything to get really intense, but I've had menstrual cramps much worse than what I experienced. So I was a bit surprised at how mild they were. The bleeding & clots were what I expected and I even got to sleep comfortably through the night. I feel pretty darn good todayâ€¦.and am writing this from work! So, weâ€™ll see how it continues to go, and how my follow-up appointment in two weeks goes. Thanks everyone!!

08medic

replied on April 8th, 2008

New User

Just an update..... I had some moderate bleeding for about a week or so. Very few clots & very little cramping. My normal menstrual cramps are far worse than anything I experienced with this. The bleeding just lessened until it disappeared all together. I went to my follow-up a couple of weeks afterwards, and everything was just fine. In fact, my pregnancy symptoms stopped almost immediately and I even took a home test a week and a half afterwards...which was negative. All in all, it was definately not a bad experience.

Keep in mind that it doesn't go this well for everyone. I went into it expecting the worst, and walked away following probably one of the best case scenarios. I was very early in my pregnancy, and I that has a lot to do with how it turned out. I wish anyone the best in there experiece and just remember to be careful, be responsible, and listen to the docs & nurses at the clinic. Good Luck!

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