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Q: unhealthy thoughts while masterbating
asked by: casperlove on November 6th, 2009
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My boyfriend cheated on me about five to six months ago. It was an extremely difficult, confusing time. To add to the betrayal: he was my first. He was aware of this and slept with other women in the early stages of our relationship. Somehow, we made it work and today things are better than ever. The details of his cheating are far more intricate than i'd like to go into but what is important is that he cheated and i was a virgin. Recently, while masterbating I've been thinking about him with the other women. I know what they look like and he has been very open and honest when i ask him for exact details (torturous). He literally explained the fine details, their meetings, how it came about. And now I masterbate to these images; the picture of him seducing or even taking advantage of other women..Anfterwards I usually feel dirty, guilty, upset, frusterated, almost like crying.Why do I have these thoughts while masterbating?
a. because i have a fantasy of seeing my partner with other women REGARDLESS of him cheating on me or not
b. I still have pent up anger and frusteration and this is my outlet of getting out my emotions
c. the idea of it is tabboo and attractive, the "badboy" attraction



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W0LF
replied on November 6th, 2009
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None of the above at this time.

You're not done processing this thing. I'm guessing you think about these other girls when you're not masturbating as well but when you're sexual and thinking about your boyfriend for some reason you're not the one with him. If it's distressing to you that this is the fantasy you have, then this isn't something you're attracted to. It would be very unsual that the only place your mind would deal with anger or frustration would be masturbation. There are so many more likely outlets for stress about your relationship. Maybe being cheated on has become sexualized because of your inexperience at the time, certainly traumatic experiences can make you look at a circumstance differently but generally when something becomes a kink for you it's not a maybe thing, you feel it like turning on a lightswitch, that certain.

Keep talking with your guy about this. Confide in him that his affairs are turning up in your masturbation headspace. Ask for a little more reassurance and security in the relationship and really work at putting the affair behind you both. If this drags on or if your trust seems to deteriorate you might talk to an analyst or counseler about why this is sticking with you and how you can processes it better.
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ServiceU
replied on November 11th, 2009
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the mind can be a funny thing. Those thoughts are pinned in your head! This could be one way that your dealing with it.
why think of that rather than killing the women, i dont know.
i wouldnt put too much thought on it, try to change your thoughts to something else the next time.
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