you should talk about this to her.
this is a big situation you two are about to get yourselves into. and there really should be no secrets kept from each other now.
if you two are going to go through with this, you have to do it as a team. times will be hard, but you can do it.
does her parents and yours know about her being pregnant?
if not, they should know soon. the earlier you tell them the better things will be in the long run.
adoption is a great thing to look into, many couples try for years and years and yeads to have a child but are unsuccessful and adopting is in their best intrest, however sometimes it can take very a very long time to become offical.
i bet she is already feeling a bond with the baby now, but you need to weigh out both of your pros and cons with her about having this child.
can you afford it?
a baby costs around $40,000 and keeps going up as the child gets older.
do you both have a place of your own or live with family still?
can you afford medical bills such as, hospital room, delivery etc. i dont know where you live, but in the U.S. alot of these things are not paid for by a health card, you have to pay for ultrasounds, delivery all that stuff.
is she and yourself ready for this?
im 19 and have an 8 month old. it is a lot of work and then some to get through each day. there are days when i wish i could be a regular 19 year old doing what i want when i want, but if i do that, no one else is going to look after my son.
also my boyfriend switched jobs to a 3am-4pm job because the pay was better and we needed the money.
there are so many things you both really need to talk about. and you both need to hear each other out too, and when -if you have not already told your parents- you tell your parents, you need to listen to what they have to say, it may not be what you are wanting to hear, but its what you need to hear.
you need to be honest with her and tell her how you really feel. dont just turn a blind eye or keep your head down through this whole thing and act as if its no big deal to her, because it is a big deal. and she may not see it, but you clearly do. be honest with her and tell her how scared you feel about this and why you feel this way.
i hope this helped a little.
if you need to talk you can PM me any time.
good luck to you both.
