I had to work today...joy...went there in a good mood until the food runner showed up(the people that bring you your food in the restaurant) and i was one of them as well..it was a little slow at the beginning of the shift so we were standing by the line and next thing I know he like..rubs my stomach alittle bit...ok..weird...i was like "what??" and he said (in his spanish accent......i work at a mexican restaurant) "too many tacos?" ....excuuuuuse me??? wow...that was incredibly rude! You dont say something like that to a girl! I'm a size 8..i'm not fat,i'm not skinny...i'm a happy medium...but for him to say that was just insulting! You make a comment to a GIRL about her weight..i dont care if shes a size 0 shes going to take offense to it! NEVER say something about a womans weight or age! i wanted to look at him and just be blunt "excuse me..a)dont touch me again b) its called a PERIOD...yea...bloating pms....whats your excuse pal cuz ur not so slim urself!" however..unlike him..i THINK before I speak! and then the next thing I know I have alittle cilantro on my shirt(near my boob) and hes trying to PICK IT OFF ME.....HELLO?! That is personal space buddy! I had to knock his hand away...like..i have 2 hands and 2 eyes..i'm fine...oy...are all latinos so forward? I had one of the cooks back me into a corner and start hitting on me...very uncomfortable..and I said TENGO UN NOVIO(HELLOOOO I HAVE A BOYFRIEND!)
ok..enough stories and complaining i feel kinda better..cant wait to tell the boyfriend i was nearly groped at work today...AND called fat
wow i felt a little offended (im mexican by the way) i know it wasnt aimed at me or anything so ...lol but ANY guy, ANY race can be rude. hun when you deal with latin men you REALLY have to be straight up blunt with most of them. if some guy backed you in the corner you should have been like " ay i have a boyfriend, back up or i WILL tell the boss." as for the cilantro on your shirt and the guy picking at it another blunt harsh comment would have done the trick. ive had it happen to me before all i said was " i swear to god if you dont move your hand i will F***** snap it off and ram it down your throat" (i said it in spanish so it sounded kinda worst) LOL but seriously let your boss know. if you work with men, of any race you have to keep your head up high and stand your ground,
i didn't mean to offend anyone i was just simply commenting on something I noticed...I mean, just from what I've personally experienced latin men do seem to be alittle more forward and obvious if they're looking at you or whatever and i'm not by any means trying to stereotype...some of those guys are very very nice and you can tell they respect women and are very kind its just that some try to cross the line...it just bugs me when i'm at work and i've made it CLEAR...crystal clear that i have a boyfriend...and i get cornered?And he was putting his hands all over my hips and stuff... I COULD have filed for harrassment..i really could have but Im not one for stirring up trouble or anything..i guess it just bugs me bc I like my personal space...i'm not really touchy feely with work people and i just dont like to have my space invaded
What an insensitive thing to say. Why can't people be a bit more subtle?? One time, my ex indicated that I had put on a bit of weight by putting his hands on my belly and WOBBLING it. In the middle of a pub. I nearly smacked him. I was more offended because we had discussed it before, with me saying that sometimes his actions are a bit insensitive, so he got all offended and was like what's your problem, stating that that is how he would prefer me to tell him that he was putting weight on. I would have preferred if he'd said 'maybe you should go to the gym a bit more' or something like that, rather than making such an obvious, public display of it.
Another time, I went to meet my friends and one of them (male) greeted my with 'hello fatty'. I gave him such a glare, and he couldn't see what my problem was. I know he was joking but there must have been an element of truth for him to say it in the first place, and at that point I was very sensitive about my weight.
Most men just don't understand.
i think mostly they dont intentionally mean it...its just the weight and age isn't something you can really joke about...eh..whatever...its not like i'm tryin to impress anyone you know..i got a bf..so...w/e...but it has kinda made me wanna get back to the gym since i been sooooo slack lately haha
Not all men or boys are that way....some just do not think. My husband is black belt and I was in the mall with my daughter and this older man rubbed my butt cheek (trust me it was a rub) and I looked at him and gave him a dirty look and I politely asked 'are you into martial arts, like Karate?'...he looked baffled as to my question and said 'no' and I replied 'I am, want to see me in action?". I know a few moves but let me tell you he could not get away from me quick enough.
Here it is many years later and the way the world is, I probably should have brought him to the floor.
Men can be very insensitive to women..I have had a few ask me when its "due" and I'm like never pal!! Ok so i got a little flab on my stomach big deal we cant all be a size 0..We should make some rude comment about their abilities in the bedroom! bet they would feel like crap! but we dont do that because we are much more well mannered and considerate...Jenny
I know the feeling as well... this guy I work with told me not to take offence but if I was to loose 20 lbs I would be sexy. I didn't know what to say... it blew my mind that he told me not to take offence, but he just called me fat and ugly!!! I told my boss... long story short, he don't say anything to me about how I look anymore:) PIG!