My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 6 months now. But with a little bit of a problem my husband cant get off during intercourse. Usally the first time we do have sex each month around my ovulation time he will get off the first time then the rest of the times we try he can not. Is there something we can do to help with this problem because it is very upsetting to me Im no spring chicken and was told I only have 6-8 months to conceive do to an ovarian disease. He also says the only position he can feel anything is with me on top. But sex can go on for an hour this way with no secess. I know he has no problem masterbating. Why can he get off during intercourse is it because maybe he has masterbated to much or is it me? Please Help!
First of all, you need to understand that the position you have mentioned is not conducive if you are trying to conceive. There are chances that the seminal fluid will flow out soon, before it reaches the inner parts of the cervix and then inside the uterus. You need to have sex in a position where he is on top.
Second, your husband has probably conditioned his sensory system for the stimuli coming from masturbation. That's why intercourse doesn't help him achieve the excitement. There's nothing wrong with you. It's just that he needs to re-train his sensory system.
Since you hardly have much time, you could use some short cuts. If getting pregnant is the priority at present, he will have to adjust to the need and change a few things about his sexual preferences, including the position.
Wish you good luck.
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