Stressing about getting pregnant can be the cause as to why your not concieving right away.
Even though your not thinking'i wont get pregnant' while having sex, your thinking sometimes throughout your day, which causes stress, because you want a child to come now.
Try to clear your mind, relax and think positively.
Is your boyfriend under stress at all?
How old are you and your boyfriend if you dont mind me asking.
But like i said, dont stress yourself out about why your not getting pregnant right away, it will happen, but the stress is probably what's causing it to take more time.

.krystine

You've only been with your boyfriend 4 months and you're already planning a baby with him? Do you mind if I ask what the rush is? You haven't been together long at all, and you're already willing to add a third little person to the mix. My honest suggestion is to take your time and enjoy each other, learn more about each other and cherish the time you have together where it's just you and him. I've been with my husband for 10 years and I'm still learning new things about him.

Now on to your questions. I'm assuming from your post that you've been trying to get pregnant for four months at the most? The average couple takes a year to conceive. Your best bet, if you're serious about wanting a baby, is to learn your cycle. How long is it? When do you ovulate? What are the most fertile days of every month for you? Having sex once a month isn't a good way to get pregnant, especially if you're not having sex when you're fertile.

Here's what you can do. Buy a calendar and put a big red x on the day when you start your period. Do this for a few months and you'll know exactly how many days long your cycle is. You'll be able to find out when you ovulate and when your fertile days are, and those are the days when you really need to have lots of sex in order to get pregnant.

But again, I think you should take your time and enjoy your boyfriend and let him enjoy you. Once you add a third person in the equation, everything changes. Don't rush the precious time alone you have with him.

Good luck.

Depending on the age it takes a couple a year to concieve.

If your in your 30's or older it takes roughly a year.

If your younger it can happen sooner, because your more fertile, birth defects are very low, miscarriages are unlikely but yes can happen.

When your older some women wait, but have waited too long and have passed the motherhood stage all together because they cannot get pregnant. This is if their 30 or older.

Do you have any sources for this information?

Depending on what age is it that it takes a year to conceive?

What is this over 30 taking a year thing? Why would it happen sooner if someone is younger?

Where are the statistics for birth defects and miscarriages being lower in women under 30?

Where are the stats and figures for this magic number of 30 that you speak of?

Please post sources and links.

Since when are 30 year olds "past the motherhood stage"? Is that your personal opinion, or do you have actual facts supporting that comment? Most women do not hit menopause until their mid-40's or later. A 30 year old woman is still young and quite healthy enough to support a healthy pregnancy!

Fertility is not based on age, by the way. It's based on your personal biology. We have many women in their 20's on the Getting Pregnant forum that have fertility issues, and many women on the Pregnancy forum that are 30 and beyond who had no troubles.

Please be careful how you present your information.

All of that information is incorrect. Please disregard it.


I agree with Laura. Trying to conceive after only being in a relationship of 4 months seems quite soon. However, I'm going to assume that you are an adult and have thought through and discussed all the the things that go with having a child.

Have you been trying to conceive since you started the relationship, 4 months?

4 months is not long enough to be concerned about there being an issue. It can take an average healthy couple up to 12 months of active trying to become pregnant.

I suggest you try tracking your basal body temperature. It can teach you about your cycle. It will show you when in your cycle you ovulate and help you to time intercourse appropriately. I suggest going to fertilityfriend.com. It is free and will teach you how to track your BBT.

You can also use Ovulation Prediction Kits (tests) to show you when you are ovulating.

Good luck, if you have any questions, feel free to PM me.

AyaMiyaki,
How many children do you have?

Babigurl,
I became pregnant the first month we started trying to conceive. With my second, it took 5 months. So, give it time. I do not think you have anything to worry about. If you were older and had tried to conceive for a couple of years, I would suggest you and your boyfriend both be medically evaluated. One of your tubes could have an obstruction, but after only 4 months, I believe it will happen. Why are you not have sex more often if you are trying to conceive, if you do not mind me asking? Have you heard that the sperm count is higher if you have less sex?

My daughter will be 2 in August, and I'm pregnant with my second child.

How exciting - do you know if it will be a baby girl or baby boy? I have a boy and a girl. Mine are 24 and 22 - wow - makes me sound old!!!!! I am 45 - guess I am old compared to everyone else on this forum. lol

No, it's way too early to know. I'm only 8 weeks into this pregnancy.

45 isn't old at all!

im 20 and my boyfriend is 22 i know what i want in my life and that is to have my own little baby i know 4 months ant long but we both know we are ready to bring a little one on this earth and be a good mommy and daddy and i am gaing alot of weight and my breat are tenter and i am eatting things i wouldnt eat ever im sleeping alot and i pee alot to but i feel everytime i take one of those test it just dont want to come up and say i am pregnant im trying my best in life and i am getting in engaged already i know people might think o she is to young but im not and im ready to have a family and a life wit my boyfriend so please help me


thx
babigirl

I gave you some advice right here, actually. Read over it and see if you know the answers to any of those questions. The first step in getting pregnant is understanding your body and your personal cycle.

Hun, give it time. There are a lot of reasons why you're having a hard time getting prego. The best thing I could say to you is to know your body and be honest with your self and or doctor. you said you went to the doc and they didn't tell you either way. Does that mean you had a fertility test? did they check to see if you tubes are ok, meaning no blockage? You don't need to answer this question, only think about it. have you ever had an std, or pelvic inflammatory disease (p.i.d.)? Is there a history of ovarian cysts or cancer. You should even look at what you use for feminine hygiene. All of these things can influence your baby making machine. And yes time is a huge factor. It took me three years of regular intimacy to get pregnant, and it finally took a surgery to help things along, and now i'm 11 weeks prego. Talk with a professional and see what your options are. maybe try taking prenatals now. It's never to early and it may help, if not, at least you're getting your daily vitamins.

i got that information from my human growth and develotment class.
i dont have the sheet here with me, and i dont recall who made this statement.
BUT it DID say, that women who are in their 30's -40's have a harder time concieving because fetrility level goes down with age.
birth defects can be more common with age,
so can miscarriages,
or they COULD pass motherhood because they've waited too long and now they cannot concieve.
I did not make this up.
I will bring home the sheet tomorrow.
I think it was a group of doctors who did this study.

I only said it depends on age, because when you are younger, your WAY more fertile. I mean look at most teens who become pregnant accidentally, they did not try for a year, were not planning a child, hell they could have gotten pregnant from having sex just once and BOOM! theres a baby.
I didn't plan my pregnancy, and was not trying to get pregnant at all.
It took one time and i became pregnant.
Now im not basing my fact above from my experience, so please do not confuse that [although im sure some will anyways]
it was actual facts that i read up on, it was not my words.