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Q: Trying for over 4 years

asked by: Ramada on November 14th, 2008

New User

My husband and i have never used protection, we have now been married for 4 years. In this time i have never fallen pregnant. over the last year and a bit, i have been charting my periods and testing for ovulation with over the counter testing strips, they always come up negative.
I finally went to the doctor, she was real casual about it, like i was freaking out for no reason, which really made me mad!
she told me that as we have only been trying for a year and i'm only 27, i have good odds. but then i've had to have load of blood tests to prove to them what i know..i'm not ovulating! my husband has been tested too, but we have no results yet, figures!
I have all but convinced my self that i'm done for, and may never have a baby, but i secretly hope each month.
The on set of my period this month has hit me hard for the first time and all i have done is cry for days and felt useless.
Am I missing some thing? Can i do more than wait for my doctor to give me more flipping tests? sadhug

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rooted

replied on November 17th, 2008

Supporter

Hi Ramada,

Lots of couples have infertility problems. I guess this can explain your doctor's reaction to your condition. About a third of the time, infertility can be traced to the woman. In another third of cases, it is because of the man. The rest of the time, it is because of both partners or no cause is found.

Drugs or surgery are common treatments for fertility issues. A woman's chances of having a baby drop rapidly every year after age 30. But 2/3 of couples treated for infertility go on to have babies.

Id' suggest that while you wait for the test results, you can really research as much as possible about infertility and treatment options. You'll want to learn about IVF, ICSI, IUI and more. Here's a good place to start:

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/inferti lity.html

Ramada

replied on November 17th, 2008

New User

I had a look at this sight and found the following explanation which made me feel a little better:

'No one can be blamed for infertility any more than anyone is to blame for diabetes or leukemia. In rough terms, about one-third of infertility cases can be attributed to male factors, and about one-third to factors that affect women. For the remaining one-third of infertile couples, infertility is caused by a combination of problems in both partners or, in about 20 percent of cases, is unexplained.'

rooted

replied on November 18th, 2008

Supporter

Yes! Absolutely! I hope you're feeling a little better about it. When are your next tests scheduled? What are the tests?

Ramada

replied on November 19th, 2008

New User

Just bloods this week which is not to bad, We are just at the start of all the poking and prodding!
its a shame there are no magic fixes.

LuvBeingAMommy23

replied on November 19th, 2008

Experienced User

Hang In There Hun.. Keep Your Head Up.. I Know This Isnt As Long As You But When I Was TRying For My Secod Child We Tried For An I Wa GEtting Frusterated.. In That Time I Was Chart ing And Everything.. Well The 4th Month I Didnt Chart Or Anything I Just Went With The Flow And If It Happed Yea.. But I Did I Really Did Think It Would But It Will Happen When You Least Expect It To I Promise... I Wish You The Best Of Luck With Everthig... Keep Us Post... **~BABY DUST~**

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Ramada

replied on December 16th, 2008

New User

Ive given up trying. The doctors are just getting on my nerves as they dont know whats going on and instead of just saying that, they keep asking for more bloods and samples.
Nothing is moving as fast as i would like, i was just going to buy some med's to make me ovulate a this seems to be an issue for me. My Doctor is crap as she just tries to get me out the office as fast as possible, with out actually telling me anything.

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