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Q: Trust issues~
asked by: petery2k562 on July 2nd, 2008
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Maybe it's just me but I think my girlfriend of 10 months is having some trouble trusting me properly.

When we engage in foreplay and sex she sometimes tells me she feels guilty and dirty right in the middle of it.

Why is that?? Why not after or maybe before we even begin?

Honestly I have no idea why she feels that way at all, and actually I have no idea what "dirty" means.

When i try to ask her she claims she doesn't know why she feels that way and
once when she told me, again in the middle of foreplay and sex, i ignored it and told her to ignore it also and to keep kissing me, ... etc.

As soon as i told her that she just turned off, literally.

She turned her back towards me and wouldn't speak to me at all until i managed to coax her back. Then we would start again as if nothing happened.

After that I never told her to ignore it or actually anything concerning that issue at all.

Am I doing something wrong?

I'm not making her engage in anything she doesn't want to do, I'm lost and its affecting me.

I don't think she trusts me as much and she told me once that she had trouble trusting people because of her difficult past.

Can anyone shine some light on this?

Maybe I am over thinking it.

Please help

Peter
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Hart74
replied on July 3rd, 2008
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You done nothing wrong in my opinion because you got the right to tell her what you want too try talking to her casually on normal occasions I think she is still 'burden' with what happened in the past the way to do it to talk about it if she still 'burden' herself with whatever happened then it will not only affection her but you. Try talk it out if you still can't try to ask professional help if the matter prolongs, the more difficult it will get, good luck please feel free to pm me. -Hart74
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petery2k562
replied on July 5th, 2008
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Thanks alot for your help
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Hart74
replied on July 22nd, 2008
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Your welcome
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Birch
replied on July 22nd, 2008
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Alarm bells going on...

If she has suffered abuse, she is going to need some help. It's not really about trusting you in particular--she needs help, and probably someone to help her through it. Sad
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ServiceU
replied on May 22nd, 2009
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he could be her religious belief. did you ask her about how she was raised. it seems like some women have problems with sex when their parents make them feel like sex is dirty or wrong before marriage.
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