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Q: Trust issues in dating

asked by: Analisa on December 6th, 2008

Experienced User

So I was with this dude for almost 2 years and we ended up having a baby together, I was 7 months when he broke up with me.
I moved from AZ to NV when my son was a month old and he still lives in AZ.
I talk to him whenever he calls, but i don't contact him unless it has to do with money and if i absolutely have too.
I've met this new guy and we've been talking and he asked me out yesterday and I said yes, he says he's not going to be an butt like my ex but I can't get over being hurt again.
My ex messed with my head so bad, I can't trust anything anybody in general tells me.
I always think everyones lying too me and it's not bad when your just talking to people, you just go on about your stuff, but when your with a guy and going out with him it's so hard because I just think that everything that's coming out of his mouth is a lie.
help
what can i do to deal with my trust issues.

Replies(3)

babygurl08

replied on January 25th, 2009

New User

re: trust issues

well 1st u need 2 realise that you cant judge every1 by the low stands ur ex if you dont ur not gonna be able to get over what happened between u 2 and if that happens he'll be winning.

for someone 2 gain ur trust they need 2 earn it so maybe its a good thing that you dnt start trusting this new guy straight away just make sure that as time goes on u begin 2 let your guard down

you should try talking to ur ex about the things he lied about and why he lied this may help you get over the lies you were told.
gudluck

speter01

replied on May 7th, 2009

New User

trust issues

i've been seeing this guy who has been cheated on multiple times by his lon term past girlfriend and he has major trust issues now, his guard is up most of the time.he tells me that his learning to let the past experiences go he just needs more time to get over it. He does mention being with me in the future alot but he wont commit now. whats wrong with this piture? Is he just avoiding being in a relationship with me?

ServiceU

replied on May 8th, 2009

Supporter

i think you should give every guy the benefit of the doubt , but have eyes in back of your head.
i got out of a 5 year monster relationship, it's been two years afterwards and i have a big problem with trusting guys. i dont let them know it and i try to give them the benefit of the doubt. but hurt does change you. i no longer want kids, or the get married, or to live with a guy, i dont believe in happy ever after.
i m with a good guy and i m slowly melting the cage i put around my heart. but time heals all, i think it's just taking me a while.

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