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I'm 23 years old- (6'3, 185 lbs). In shape, healthy, no stds.

I've started seeing this girl who is incredibly hot. We've been dating for a couple weeks and last week we came back to my place. We started making out, touching etc. and I was completely hard- no problem. Once the sex came up (getting the condom on, positioning myself) I had trouble staying hard.

I explained it wasn't her and she understood. A few days later the same thing happened. My penis stayed hard enough for me to penetrate her although I couldn't go long at all and I wasn't extremely hard inside of her.

I haven't had sex in a while (about 4-5 months before her). Though I've never had problems masturbating (I usually masterbate 3-5 times a week). I'm hoping it's just performance anxiety.

Can anyone help me out here? I really like this girl and I want to fix this problem.
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replied April 18th, 2009
anyone???
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replied April 20th, 2009
Anyone at all?
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replied April 20th, 2009
ED
The cause could be many different things. Performance anxiety is certainly a possibility. Erectile dysfunction affects 20 percent of men in the U.S. While we generally think of ED as something older men have to deal with, men of all ages can experience ED. Trouble maintaining an erection can be a result of mental issues like stress or, as you mentioned, performance anxiety. However, it can also be caused by physical issues like blood vessel problems affecting penile blood flow.

If you continue to experience erection difficulties, you should talk to your doctor.
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replied April 20th, 2009
It's not hard to tell you suffering from some form of dysfunction. You should make appointment for your doctor for natural safe anti impotence pills with no side effects. You will be experiencing solid hard erection in no time. Best of luck
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replied April 22nd, 2009
Why dont you take something that will help you perform better, like this you will take care of performance anxiety. You should give Endurnz a try.
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replied April 23rd, 2009
I feel for you
I am sorry buddy. That must suck.
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replied April 24th, 2009
Thanks guys, it does suck.

BUT third times a charm! We've been able to have sex (the way I used to), although I have been stressed out with work- I'm still nervous it'll happen again.

Any other suggestions etc?
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replied April 24th, 2009
Give Endurnz a try
I like Endurnz. Its a natural product based on Chinese traditional medicine. That should work for you. If this does not work, it might be a "plumbing" problem and you should see a doctor.
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replied April 26th, 2009
I don't think it's "plumbing problem" as I have no problem jerking off.

I really do not want to rely on drugs for getting hard. Is there anything anyone can recommend in the form of thinking etc. to just let everything go to get turned on etc?
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replied December 18th, 2009
You are mastrubating excessively. You should avoid it altogether for your spiritual health which will lead to other problems. Do not have casual sex with that girl that is wrong and harmful also. strive for chastity it is a beneficial virtue. Reserve your sexual gifts for their proper created function. Find a decent girl an marry her and only have sex with her. Have lots of children they are a blessing and the fruits of a proper sexual relationship. These things will lead to true happiness. I know some may think I'm crazy but I've been through all that other stuff I've seen it all and it will enevitably come and bite you in the rear. Go to the website of Gloria Polo and read her story she got struck by lightning and got burned to a cinder she crossed over to the other side and came came back to tell the story. Don't hide from the reality of the fact that their are consequences to our inapropriate sinful actions mastrubation, pornography and promiscuity adultry fornication are all serious offences against GOD and against your own body and they carry serious consequences avoid them all. Marry a decent girl from a good family and only have sex with her and treat her with respect and you'll be a happy man instead of a lost soul searching for gratification in the wrong places
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replied February 14th, 2012
are you for real? this guy has a serious issue and you start banging on about how sinful he his? if you knew anything about erectile dysfunction you would appreciate how it can shatter a mans confidence, especially a young man`s.

here is some real advice: take your time with this lady and talk to her, you are obviously very attracted to her and so you are probably putting pressure on yourself, the more comfortable you are with her the more natural the whole sexual process becomes. if you really like her then there is all the time in the world and if it continues take a trip to your local doctor who can advise you on some natural remedies. i had the same issue when i first met my partner and i am happy to say 5 years later we are still going strong as is my erection! best of luck with it and remember it only sex.
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replied December 28th, 2009
I have the problem of original poster also. New girl 3 mnths in crazy about her usual difficulties early on but went on to having great sex. Now going from full boner to half boner inside her becoming more frequent although not always. Changing positions moving around etc can be a nightmare. Morning erections are still normal but most worrying thing is same happens when masturbating even if I can achieve a boner. I do find myself worrying about this during sex and masturbation and not giving full attention to just having fun. Does this sound psych or could there be underlying physical? 22, healthy and never had problem masturbating but have had it during sex with a previous partner at beginning but when over it went 3 years with no probs. Response from similar experiences advise or medical professional appreciated.
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replied February 14th, 2012
you are probably psyching yourself out of it. relax and take a deep breath. the longer you are in a relationship the more it takes you to get turned on as the novelty of sex wears off. try spicing things up and cut back on the masturbation. there is only so much ink in the pen! i find conversation to be the best cure to most of these issues. however if it continues go see a doctor. what i would also say is things like smoking, drinking and lack of fitness can all effect the erection so some exercise and healthy living always helps.
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replied February 15th, 2012
Hey, guys, I'm new to this site, but I'm feeling the need to share: a few years back I experienced a prolonged episode of ED. I had just met the love of my life, and consummating that love just wasn't happening. Having a natural aversion to chemicals and pills in general -- can't explain it, just the thought makes me nauseous even typing it right now -- Viagra, etc. wasn't an option.
So I took a different route.
Having long been interested in holistic medicine and the mind body connection, I came to the conclusion that the natural intelligence of my body was trying to communicate something to me. But what was it communicating? Thankfully, I had been practicing yoga for years and the woman I'd fallen in love with was an Ayurvedic Practitioner and she explained the nature of chi (life force) to me and that the last line of our immune defense lives in our semen. Could it be, I thought, that my body was actually doing exactly what it was supposed to? So I spent the next year, I know, not exactly a quick fix, examining my mind, body and spirit.
Thinking of myself as a pretty healthy guy, I was shocked to find that my diet was entirely wrong for my body type (I had been an uneducated vegetarian), way low in testosterone producing foods, way high in estrogen producing foods like soy (bars, cookies, sauce, protein powder). Evidence of this was the growing fatty layer beneath my pectorals, or man boobs. Got rid of the soy, man boobs disappeared. Sporadic erections began to appear but nothing consistent. I kept looking.
I found that I was eating too late in the morning, and not enough midday. I was essentially not feeding my life force and actually draining it to the point of depletion. And I began to realize that I had depleted my body so much, that it was, in fact, refusing to give up its last line of immune defense: my semen. I know this sounds crazy and will be met with much skepticism but it was true for me. I added much more fresh vegetables and lean meats to my diet. I had quit playing sports like basketball, which I thoroughly enjoy and get the blood circulating (Hurray for circulation!). I started playing in a regular game -- and laughing more while was playing. Laughter being key. I hadn't been sleeping well and too little. Having learned that the hours between 10pm - 12pm are the key hours of regeneration for our bodies I started making 10pm my bedtime. More erections but still not 100%. I had to look deeper.
I finally realized that my spirit was broken. I had never met much success as a writer, financial or otherwise, and was feeling impotent as a man -- especially as I crossed into the land of 40-something. I was engaged in relationships -- past and present, friendships, family, all of it -- that were unsatisfying and toxic. I was basically depleted on all fronts. I cut loose many of those relationships. I decided that writing would be my hobby and something I would do for fun. I got a real job -- and starting making enough to pay more than the rent. I slept more, ate well, meditated, and pursued an emotionally intimate relationship with the same woman (god bless her for sticking with me) that wasn't just about sex (the previous pattern for my entire adult dating life).
And after about a year of examining and exploring and adjusting, my erections finally became consistent and are to this day. We eventually married and have a beautiful little girl. But, there are times when I feel myself depleting, the warning signals are all there, and now instead of cursing them, I honor them immediately. In fact, I look at my penis as the bellweather of my health on all fronts, mind, body, and spirit. And I'm grateful now, instead of ashamed, when it warns me with the mother of all boycotts.
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