trouble relationship

I don't know how to start this. i been dating my current boyfriend for 7 months. honestly we move very fast in this relationship. i always told my self it would never happended to me and it has. i moved in with my boyfriend and it brought chaos. but not because of him but becuase my family didnt agree. i am 21 and never left home before you know. i think its the reason why my family acted against my boyfriend. my family kicked me out of their lives and only had called me to fight for hours for my decision. after months passed i finally got my family back and now i am losing my boyfriend. he is mad because of the way my family treated him and all the name calling too. i found my self fighting more and more for that reason and now he tells me that if we break up its my moms fall. i dont know what to do any more. i love my family but i also love my boyfriend and want to stay with him but each time we fight it get worst and his jealousy kills me too. i never had a boyfriend that checks my email or goes on my aim to see wha i do, after all we always have good times before all the fights start. i want to be with the boy that i fall in love not the one i am seening now. i try to talk to him but he doesnt listen. what should i do? i need help to know what to do? i dont want to be in a relationship where it turns abusive and at the same time i dont want to lose my boyfriend. i love himvery much with all my heart. think i have given up so much and do so much to make things right..