So, I'm 19 and I'm at the age of being
horny a lot. But the trouble is I really
have a very, VERY hard time orgasming. I
mean, I CAN orgasm, but it's only ever a
weak one and it comes on fast and just...
isn't great at all.
I can only orgasm clitorally (I know
that's not a word, but you know what I
mean, I hope), and I can only do it if I
masturbate a very specific way. My
boyfriend has tried several times to get
me to orgasm in any way he can, and it's
really sad, but we always fail. I mean,
he's spent like an entire half hour
trying, and all it does is make my legs
twitch and stuff... I think the ladies
will know what I mean by that. It's
torture for me. He gives it 110% but I
just can't.
Sex feels a million times better
(especially the missionary position), but
I STILL can't orgasm from it. Sex feels
amazing but I never... finish. I dunno
what's wrong with me. I guess I'm kinda
lucky because I can "squirt" (or
ejaculate, whatever you wanna call it)
very easily... but often that's just
painful, and I don't know why. And because
it's painful it takes away from the
pleasure, which isn't very much anyway.
EDIT: I don't mean it's painful because
I'm being too hard on my g-spot or
something like that. I mean it hurts when
I squirt. Like half the time it hurts. And
squirting isn't really "relieving"
either... it just makes me want to have
sex more.
Sorry for the long post, but this is very
frustrating and I guess I'm just asking
for suggestions... maybe someone out there
has the same problem. Any suggestions are
appreciated... and I realize maybe I
should pay attention to this post
[http://ehealthforum.com/health/i-don-t-en
joy-sex-ever-t133400-a1.html] too. Not
quite my situation she's having, but
similar.
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collegegirlie
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Feb 2008 Posts: 49
Posted: 03-19-08 09:36am
I had the same exact problem untill
recently. For me (like many women) it was
psychological. I was always worried or
stressed about it. He would try really
hard to make me cum and I would get
nervous cuz I was worried he thought I was
taking to long, there's something wrong
with me, he is bored, he is uncomfortable,
I was just worried about everything. And
when I wasn't tooo extremely worried I
would never just relax and just enjoy it.
Finally one day I decided I wasn't going
to worry AT ALL. If something like I
listed above was bothering him, and he was
still having sex but didn't want to it was
his own fault lol. I even sometimes
pretended he wasn't there when I started
to get nervous. It didn't work the first
time. But the second time WOA, I had an
orgasm during intercourse. It wasn't the
greatest, but ever sence I discovered how
to do it we have been doing it all the
time and making it better. Now during
intercourse I'll have 2-3 orgasms before
he finishes. Its so great. For me I just
had to relax and kinda of "play with it"
to figure everything that feels good and
brings me close.
Oh and if you can only orgasm when you
masterbate, I suggest NOT masterbating. I
think sometimes our bodies get used to
"doing it a certain way" which makes the
things your bf does less effective. I used
to NEVER orgasm (not even during oral)
except for when I was masterbating. So I
decided to give it a break. After about a
month my body was so sensitive that he
could make me orgasm orally. And when he
does it once it really helps you mentally
to let him do it again.
HTH
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jinkazama
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Dec 2007 Posts: 24 Location: , USA
Thanks: 1
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Posted: 03-20-08 11:28am
Thank you collegegirlie, I'll try not to
worry so much... I do worry at this point
simply because I'm scared I'll never have
a satisfactory orgasm. I hope it works out
for me as well as it did for you! I'm
jealous. =)
I dunno if I can quit masturbating for a
month, but I can certainly try! =P Thanks
again!
