i m a female,

is there anything that she can do to get you excited again, like kissing, heavy petting.
what about if you masturbate! do you know her well enough for her to preform oral on you.

Well I think its a control type of issue. I think she likes to initiate sex in order "call the shots" type of thing. I totally respect that she should go when ready. But its a lot of back forth and after awhile and this gets really frustrating. In past I was usually in control, in a more of a dominant role, now this situation is new to me.(less satisfying sexually)

I don't know how masturbation is going to contribute to anything. And having her perform oral sex would be like pulling teeth. I am actually thinking of just moving on . . .

life is an experience, and we find things we like and dont like. if you dont like it, then move on.

i m very shy, but i get off on playing the opposite when im with my mate. he takes the back role and i become the dominating person. when he comes over i talk his ear off about life, then i grab his hand towards my bedroom when i m finished.