I have recently been actively dating and its been awhile since my last sexual experience(2+years). I initially have sexual interest in my date and get an erection when I want to take things further. Yet, in most cases the girl I am with wants to delay sexual escalation and wants to put it off to a later time in the date when she feels more comfortable. However, by this time I have lost my desire to be intimate. This has happened a few times and I am getting extreme sexual frustration.
Well I think its a control type of issue. I think she likes to initiate sex in order "call the shots" type of thing. I totally respect that she should go when ready. But its a lot of back forth and after awhile and this gets really frustrating. In past I was usually in control, in a more of a dominant role, now this situation is new to me.(less satisfying sexually)
I don't know how masturbation is going to contribute to anything. And having her perform oral sex would be like pulling teeth. I am actually thinking of just moving on . . .
life is an experience, and we find things we like and dont like. if you dont like it, then move on.
i m very shy, but i get off on playing the opposite when im with my mate. he takes the back role and i become the dominating person. when he comes over i talk his ear off about life, then i grab his hand towards my bedroom when i m finished.