get lube.
as long as you think you have something wrong you will continue to have the problem.

Maybe you have a yeast infection?


Use lube.

I agree with weeps23. Get a lube and use it. It will increase your pleasure during intercourse.

To achieve orgasm you need to know what rocks your world. If you know this you can guide your man and tell him what to do to get you to orgasm. If you don't know what will do it for you then you need to find out. You need to explore your own sexuality and the best way to do that is through masturbation. This will help you know what you like and what type of stimulation works to achieve orgasm.

thanks! i bought lube but haven't used it yet!

Yeah, use lube!! Sometimes that just happens- changes in hormones throughout the cycle or throughout life... birth control, stress... sometimes we just don't get lubricated.

Buy lube for these times!!

I agree! Get some lube and just relax! By relax, I mean don't worry about it! Worry is a vicious circle and does no one any good! It could very well be certain times during your menstrual cycle and due to hormones as Georgia59 said. And if you have not been able to have an orgasm then listen to antigone... masturbate! If you know yourself then you can help your partner know you. He can't guess what makes you tick... well... he can but it could be a long time of guessing since we are all aroused in different ways! Find out for yourself and let him know! I'm sure if you tell him that you figured out what you need then he will be all ears, eyes and hands!!!

Best sex advice I ever got- buy a vibrator!! Seriously, it helps you know what you like, plus if he's feeling left out or anything, you can teach him how to use it on you, use it on him... etc.

Just make sure that if you are wearing a condom, you buy water based lube (Astroglide, for example).

If you use something like Vaseline, it breaks down the condom and it tears/rips. NOT GOOD.

Estrogen is the hormone that helps create natural lubrication and blood flow, thus allowing an orgasm. Go to the health food store and ask for a natural remedy to increase your estrogen levels. I believe WIld Yam is one such supplement, but you are probably best taking a supplement with a combination of hers. Although lube will work, that is only half the problem, since good blood blow is necessary to reach orgasm.