I seldom ever ejaculate with intercourse. I can easily with masturbation. The problem is not staying hard or lasting long enough. I just never seem to be able to reach that level of pleasure. The pleasure is great and I love it but seem to not cum. I am sure it is psychological and any help with managing this would be very appreciated.
Jocko, How often do you masturbate? When you do masturbate are you typically gentle on your penis or do you jerk it vigorously to acquire and maintain your hard-on? During intercourse, even if the woman's vagina is tight, warm and wet, it may not be enough to satisfy what your penis has become used to during masturbation. I'm not suggest that you stop jacking off or any thing of the sort, I myself masturbate almost every day, so I wouldn't tell someone else not too, but you may want to examine your masturbation practice and see if there is a way of attain pleasure and ejaculation while simulating what it is like in a gal's vaginal. I can you, that my vagina is tight, but not as tight as a man's firm grip, and even if my vagina was very wet and piping hot, it may still not be sufficient if the guy is used to rough hard jerking motions.
Before you run off to a doctor, phyciatrist or other health care professional, I would suggest easing up on your method of jacking off and see if you can still maintain the hard on and, of course, ejaculate.
hi, lately, i have trouble cumming inside my girlfriend.. she takes it personally, from her relationship with husband, he wasnt good for self esteem.. what do i do?? since i have been involved with her, havemt masterbated, which i used to do about 4 times aweek
Maybe you can give me some additional details regarding your not cumming inside your gf's vagina. When was the last time you masturbated? How frequently did you used to do it (you say 4 times a week)? Did you used to cum each time you jerked off or was it only occasional? Do your balls stay loose when you are jacking or do they firm up like they should?
I'm certainly willing to discuss, either in this forum or contact me through private message.
i cant cum when im inside of a women. i do masturbate once a week and cum sometimes, and it takes me about 15 minutes to do so. my sex with my girl is very pleasurable and i do enjoy it but i cant cum. i can have sex for hours having short breaks in between but still unable cum. i can feel the build up of the possible ejaculation but nothing. there are times where i can be with a women and not about to cum until maybe two day after. need some advice.
Hi my name is Robert and I am not able to come inside my girlfriend incentially I am not able to climax. I had this problem many years ago when I was dating a woman that I wasn't in love with and it was all due to psychologically issues. I found the problem to be was that I was not in love with her and not physically attracted to her. But, that differs with my girlfriend who I adore more than life itself in fact we are engaged to be married. I once reached orgasm when she was pleasing me orally, but since then nothing at all. I can stay hard for hours and hours and it feels great that I can do this for her. The other problem is that she and I want to have kids and I am not coming so that means we are going to hit a BIG problem. What should I do?
I have been experiencing the same problem of coming too long. It really is a bad thing, but eventually i tried trying to do foreplay a little longer than i usually do with my girlfriend and eventually when i think i'm about to get into the climax, i'd do my thing and cum inside her. SOme say you just need to focus and it did great..
Ive had the same problem for years. 25 Years old, no medical problems. Avereage size penis. So why the hell can i not cum? Im married now and still dont cum. Its starting to be very upsetting for my wife. 1 Year in to our marriage and she is starting to feel that i am not fully attracted to her. And that is not the case. My wife is the most beautiful woman i have ever been with, and i find her extremley attractive.. I can cum from self masterbation in due time. And she can make me cum from masterbation, but not sex or blow job, and this takes a very long time. After reading previous posts on other sites, i have stopped masterbating 5-7 times a week. And now for 3 weeks, we have had sex every weekend, and then after she is reaching orgazum 2-3-4 and we are done, then i have to masterbate to be finished. If not i would never ejaculate, and after hot sex, that is not an option, ejaculation is a must. But does anybody think it will help if, i never touch myself again, and only my wifes vagina\mouth and hand are the only stimulation for me, will this "teach" my penis that it is that or nothing so start squirting so to speak.
One suggestion to remedy situation (just a suggestion if you have not tried this) is to get the woman to give you oral sex (a blow job) after you have made her come.
Other ideas (some of which have been mentioned by another person) is to communicate your fantasies to one another. For example, kinky fetishes that both can go along with.................dressing up, boots, stockings, using paddle, whip, hand cuffed to bed, trying anal (with plenty of lube), imagining the woman having sex with another man.
For older couples the vagina can become too large (especially after childbirth) to provide sufficient friction and that is where anal can work because the anus is tight. Always use plenty of lube.
The problem is both the man and woman have to agree to these things. But the general turn on is FETISH, FETISH, FETISH and if you just can't manage it in reality then it has to be in the man's mind. It is often said that a man thinks with his genitals...but that is only half the story: it is what is going through the man's mind that counts too.
I am an older person, past 60 now. Things worked before but now I need different things to turn me on such as I have indicated above.
I have also had this problem for a couple of years, She would start to complain about how long it took me to finish, so I lost confidence and then I was unable to stay hard inside her.
It is clearly a psychological problem , as if i did manage it then I would be OK for a few weeks until I failed to come and then the cycle would start again.
I plucked up the courage to go and see a doctor (not my usual one who is a friend of my wife's!) and he asked a few questions and prescribed Viagra . I don't use it every time as it takes a couple of hours before it works for me. This has boosted my confidence and I can usually orgasm inside her now unless she is tired and doesn't respond. She doesn't mind me masturbating afterwards now.
I had a surprise last week, when after having masturbated previously that day, she started to masturbate me and then after about 15 minutes of this, asked me come inside her. I thought I would have to fake it, but soon I ejaculated. I think she took a cue from this and the last few times she has started to masturbate me before sex. she even sucked me off last weekend, which is very rare. She also mentioned that her sister's husband needs "starting by hand" and asked why. I think most women think men can do it on demand any time.
I have found I come much quicker entering her from behind (not anal) as it squeezes me tighter. Also my penis is bigger with Viagra. She is also tighter than she was (after 2 kids). I think she has been doing pelvic exercises.
I now masturbate very gently and am trying to have 3 days off in between having sex with her. Still using the porn though.
Anyway the message is even the cause is psychological, Viagra can boost your confidence. So go and see the doc.