Hi. im 14 years old, and so is my bf, we are both up for having a baby,and we have tryed for a baby but i dont know much in the way of the signs to tell if im pregnant, and im also worrid that if i am, my mom will kick me out of her house. could do with a bit of help. thanks!
Other than the fact that it's illegal in a lot of places to even be having sex at this age what kind of life are you hoping to offer a child? Are you financially stable? I'm guessing since you're worried your mum may kick you out then no. Don't underestimate how much raising a child costs - they do need more than love (money for diapers, food, other essentials plus rent/bills/saving for college etc).
What about school? How do you plan to finish your education with a child? Have you looked into the cost of childcare?
Please think this through, there is more to deciding to become a parent than simply being "up for having a baby"
I can't stress enough on here how important it is for you to get an education first, to get financially stable and hopefully married before you even think about having children.
Moo has it right, parenting is much more then just being able to give your child love. Babies have needs, if they are formula fed(and would have to be formula fed since your body isn't even finished growing so i highly doubt you would be able to nurse), case's of formula are $46 and up, and as much as they eat,a case will only last a week and 1/2 or so.Then, you have to think, clothes cost a lot, especially since babies grow pretty fast and no to mention diapers, wipes, bottles, toys, and when they get big enough child care, crib and mattress, blankets, sheets, stroller, an infant car seat(and once over 22 lbs, a bigger car seat), a playpen, a change table, a sepperate dresser for the baby's clothes.. etc. There is much more you need for a baby. I must have spent almost $1000 just to get my son's room set up and that's not including what my parent's helped me out with. that number is also not including what I spend every month on my son. Myself, I'm 23 with an 11 month old and going back to school in the fall. Even thought I am financially stable at the moment its not even close to what I should be able to do with my son. I wish i had a college degree before I had my son, But then again I'm 9 years older then you are and have the maturity of a 30 year old.
You have your whole life ahead of you, you're only 14. You need to finish school and go to college and get yourself stable financially with a job before you even think about having a baby. Think about what you're going to miss out in your teen years.Parents have to make sacrifices to be a better parent, You wont be able to go and spend time with your friends because your friends will be in school, even on the weekend's, the baby will be on a schedule, so you can't spontaneously decide to go to the movies one night or go hang out at the mall , you wont be able to go to parties once you reach legal age for it, you wont be able to do anything but work and take care of your child.
If i were you, I'd shift my focus and desire some where else like getting involved in activities, getting good grades and just having fun with your friends.
I hate to say it, but your too young to really understand what it takes to be a parent.
Im 18 and i will tell you that school ALWAYS comes first. Not boys, not sex, school comes first. Im not a mom, but im telling you this now, where im from, girls get looked down upon who had a baby at your age and did not finish school. You, and your parents will be more proud of you when you have that diploma in your hand when your in 12th grade, rather than not moving on past 8-9th grade which ever your in with a crying baby. when your baby gets older, if its a girl, shes gunna get the image that its ok to throw your self out there and get pregnant at 14 and drop out. is that the example you want to set? you say you and your boyfriend love eachother, being in love also means looking out for eachother and keeping eachother on the steady path in the long run. and in the long run, its not always gunna be lovey dovey, you guys are gunna be busy with the baby, crabby from lack of sleep, stressed from the crying because some babies have an ear piercing cry. If you guys love eachothe like you say, then you guys can sit down and come up with a game plan that is for the future, i know people say live life to the fullest, that statement also means live you life with common sense. mama its ok to want to have a baby, to have thoes feelings because i had them feelings too, but think hard about it, i still want a baby but im not trying to have one now because of several factors. If you want to have a baby so bad, you can wait, but in the meantime, become as educated as you can, go to school, graduate. you can even educate yourself online about babies and pregnancy etc. but do your parents, your body, your life a favor and wait until you graduate.