Hello Jms,
Welcome to this forum and the great people who post and try to help others.
It HURT to read of the pain that you have been through and are still going through.
You say you have been to your doctor. From reading your post it seems you have been to only one doctor. Would you be so kind and let us know if he is a PCP (GP) doctor, or a spine surgeon? Thanks.
Also, you mention about having x-rays and CT scans of your back. Have you also had MRI images of your back?
I can feel your pain when you talk about sitting, standing and also laying down. I'm there too, though 50 years older than you.
I have not had the injury that you have, so I hope others that have had a similar injury will give you their thoughts and experiences.
I'll await your reply to my questions.
Regarding pain management - I have one FANTASTIC PM doc. He has been able to help me and keep me away from the knife.
Take care. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
RichT