I am a 23 year old male. In the last two
weeks, I have been overly worried about a
financial mistake I made. I have a love
for cars and bought a damaged one in hopes
of fixing it up. It is costing a lot more
than I anticipated and there is no easy
way to get rid of it.
I am suffering from a really bad case of
anxiety which has caused me to stop
eating. I feel nauseated constantly and
feel like I want to throw up if I even
smell food. My heart rate is constantly
higher than normal and I cannot stop
thinking about this problem. I will have
to throw more money into this project
which is almost over, but it is a huge
headache and I am scared about the
uncertainty of knowing how it will
turnout. I have never felt so scared in my
life and it is affecting my day to day
life.
My main worry is that I won't find a
buyer for it once it is completed so I can
recoup all or most of my money. I really
want to start looking for a place of my
own, and if I am stuck with this car, that
dream will be shattered for now.
I need some guidance on how to help
relieve my symptoms. As soon as my mind
stops focusing on a task, it just starts
thinking about my situation.
Can anyone help?
Thanks.
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mominashoe
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Posted: 04-01-08 13:45pm
I'm sorry you are in this situation, but
the best thing for you to do I think is to
keep plugging away at it. You say that it
is almost over, so just concentrate on the
work. You love cars, so it can't be an
anxiety to actually be working on it.
It's doing what you love.
Concentrate on how much you enjoy working
on it and try your best not to think about
the investment you made. There is a level
of uncertainty with everything that we do
and I understand that not knowing what's
going to happen with potential buyer is
really nerve racking.
However, you don't know that it's not
going to turn out right. It could have a
wonderful outcome. Don't keep your hopes
too high so that you won't be
disappointed, but don't keep them so low
that you do this to yourself. You need to
keep yourself healthy and busy, so make
sure you eat and keep working on it, and
if you can't work on it at the moment,
keep busy on something else since that
seems to help you.
If you make yourself sick and don't finish
the job, then you certainly do have the
certainty that you will lose money on this
project. When there is a will, there's a
way.
If projects like this cause you so much
pain, I recommend not investing in cars
with your own money. Maybe you could get
a job at a body shop and fulfill your
talents and love for cars there.
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 04-03-08 00:22am
OK, first realize that there is nothing
about this you can change right at this
moment. So, you are worring needlessly
about it. Wait and see what the outcome is
and face it like a trooper. So, you made a
mistake. Mistakes that we all have to
account and pay for in the end. But, you
can not let it ruin you for the rest of
your life. Your sanity is much more
important then this car. A car can get you
anwhere you need to go. But, it can not
get you back on the road to sanity.
Remember that.
