Q: Been On the Fertiltiy Rollercoaster For Years !
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mkcash
on July 10th, 2007
New User
infertility has been a struggle for my husband and I for about 8 years. I am writing this so that I may give someone some hope, I know how frustrating and difficult infertility can be. I am now 40 years old and I do have a happy story...although going through it I did not think it was happy. When I was 32 I got pregnant for the first time, the pregnancy was not planned so it obviously came easily. By the 8th week I had miscarried. I got pregnant 4 more times until I was 35 each ending in a miscarriage. Doctors determined that I have the anti cardio lupin antibody which I guess causes miscarriages. But it is a fairly easy fix, a low dose aspirin and or a daily shot of heparin. My husband and I tried for the next 2 years to get pregnant again and it would not happen. We decided to go to the next step. We started fertility treatment, I did IUI first, and then we did 2 full IVF cycles and 1 frozen embryo cycle. No pregnancy but lots of money gone! The financial burden and the emotional and physical strain was enough and we decided to move on. By this time we were ready for adoption. Also a very long road. I had always seen adoption as a last resort and also as a failure to my fertility. But I promise you, once you get to being truly ready to adopt it is such a blessing. Not a failure! My story does not end here. We were blessed with a healthy 1 day old baby boy 11 months ago. He is my world! I could not love him more! Again my story does not end here. I truly did let go of my fertility and stopped keeping track of my cycle...to me I was not going to have a biological child...well I was wrong. I found out about 5 weeks ago that I am pregnant...I am now just over 12 weeks and I still cant believe it. I dont feel that I am completely out of the woods yet but I am the furthest along I have ever been. I am taking the daily dose of baby aspirin and things seem to be going well. I would not have believed this could happen to me. People always said to me, relax it will happen.... I wanted to yell at them... you try and relax when your husband is sticking a needle in your butt and you are charting your cycles and your temperatures, and your whatever fertility drug they have you on. It is a journey and unfortunately we do not know the outcome but it is a journey I know I had to go on to get to where I am now. I have never been happier and I really hope others that are truly suffering watching their friends, family and co-workers get pregnant all around them will know that there truly will be a peace at the end of their long journey. Good luck and if I can help please post a message.
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