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Q: Been On the Fertiltiy Rollercoaster For Years !
asked by: mkcash on July 10th, 2007
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infertility has been a struggle for my husband and I for about 8 years. I am writing this so that I may give someone some hope, I know how frustrating and difficult infertility can be. I am now 40 years old and I do have a happy story...although going through it I did not think it was happy. When I was 32 I got pregnant for the first time, the pregnancy was not planned so it obviously came easily. By the 8th week I had miscarried. I got pregnant 4 more times until I was 35 each ending in a miscarriage. Doctors determined that I have the anti cardio lupin antibody which I guess causes miscarriages. But it is a fairly easy fix, a low dose aspirin and or a daily shot of heparin. My husband and I tried for the next 2 years to get pregnant again and it would not happen. We decided to go to the next step. We started fertility treatment, I did IUI first, and then we did 2 full IVF cycles and 1 frozen embryo cycle. No pregnancy but lots of money gone! The financial burden and the emotional and physical strain was enough and we decided to move on. By this time we were ready for adoption. Also a very long road. I had always seen adoption as a last resort and also as a failure to my fertility. But I promise you, once you get to being truly ready to adopt it is such a blessing. Not a failure! My story does not end here. We were blessed with a healthy 1 day old baby boy 11 months ago. He is my world! I could not love him more! Again my story does not end here. I truly did let go of my fertility and stopped keeping track of my cycle...to me I was not going to have a biological child...well I was wrong. I found out about 5 weeks ago that I am pregnant...I am now just over 12 weeks and I still cant believe it. I dont feel that I am completely out of the woods yet but I am the furthest along I have ever been. I am taking the daily dose of baby aspirin and things seem to be going well. I would not have believed this could happen to me. People always said to me, relax it will happen.... I wanted to yell at them... you try and relax when your husband is sticking a needle in your butt and you are charting your cycles and your temperatures, and your whatever fertility drug they have you on. It is a journey and unfortunately we do not know the outcome but it is a journey I know I had to go on to get to where I am now. I have never been happier and I really hope others that are truly suffering watching their friends, family and co-workers get pregnant all around them will know that there truly will be a peace at the end of their long journey. Good luck and if I can help please post a message.
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jiggababy7
replied on July 11th, 2007
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Congrats!!!!
CONGRATS!!!!! Your story is inspiring to all of us TTC.
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replied on July 12th, 2007
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Wow,

Thanks for sharing that. That was very inspirational. I myself am ttc and it has been a long battle. I have recently had to take a 4 month break due to orders from my doctor. But now at the end of this month, we are going to try again. So I will have to say that I will be starting my 1st month again. I hope it only takes one or two months, but I have learned that it is not my decision when I get pregnant. I just have to trust in his timing and all will be fine.

Thank you again for such a nice story.
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nightangel73
replied on July 12th, 2007
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Congrats!!

You know I have heard this kind of story before. I had a coworker who had fertility problems for several years and she tried several in-vitros with no luck. So she decided to give up and boom then when she was using nothing she got pregnant and had a beautiful boy. She likes to tell the story as to let people know that only god is the gaver of life.
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mkcash
replied on July 12th, 2007
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I really never believed before that there was a plan, and that all things happen for a reason but I sure am a believer now. There is a plan for all of us, just dont give up.
I used to pray for a baby and then my brother said to me one day : God is not a vending machine, you cant just ask for what you want and it will spit it out. So I began to pray to God just to help me to accept what ever was going to be. That did not mean giving up, just accepting. I think everyone that wants to be a parent should be able to and I hope it happens for you. In the meantime...enjoy your freedom...believe me life changes. Take care. By the way please dont think I am dumb, but what does ttc meaN. I will probably kick myself when you fill me in.
MK
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replied on July 13th, 2007
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mkcash wrote:
I really never believed before that there was a plan, and that all things happen for a reason but I sure am a believer now. There is a plan for all of us, just dont give up.
I used to pray for a baby and then my brother said to me one day : God is not a vending machine, you cant just ask for what you want and it will spit it out. So I began to pray to God just to help me to accept what ever was going to be. That did not mean giving up, just accepting. I think everyone that wants to be a parent should be able to and I hope it happens for you. In the meantime...enjoy your freedom...believe me life changes. Take care. By the way please dont think I am dumb, but what does ttc meaN. I will probably kick myself when you fill me in.
MK


Ttc is an abbreviation for Trying to Conceive

Your story is truly inspiring. I also believe that God has a plan for everyone. I have been praying that God will bless us with the child we both desire. I ask him to prepare my body for a baby. It will happen when I least expect it, this I know. I just ask for Him to prepare my body so that when it happens I am healthy.

I wanted to encourage you to post your story in the Getting pregnant forum. There are a lot of girls over there that are trying to get pregnant that don't visit this forum as much. They would really appreciate hearing your story.
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mkcash
replied on July 13th, 2007
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Thanks for your reply star...
While i was unloading my dishwasher yesterday shortly after I had asked what does ttc mean it came to me...i knew it would.
I am knew to this chat - forum stuff so thankyou. I will post my story in the getting pregnant forum. I just wish i knew how to just how to do it without re-typing the whole thing. I will try to paste it.
take care,mk
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replied on July 13th, 2007
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If you just highlight the text in this post and while it is highlighted hold down the control button and hit the letter "c" at the same time. This will copy the text. Then go to the Getting Pregnant forum and start a new post and after you type the subject line then go to the message body and hold the control button and hit the letter "v" at the same time. this will past what you just copied.
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