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Okay so I already read the topic about over-masturbating and I am posting this as a new topic to stand out.

I've been masturbating out of depression and pure boredom at least once a day for the past month... I have never felt more depressed. Now that I think about it, my depression kind of started with this. I used it to feel pleasure because I was down and now it's turned into the only pleasure I have and it's sick. Masturbation is definitely healthy... but the thing is I was doing it to porn which definitely turns it into an addiction. In one way, you are releasing yourself and are just enjoying the body you are given and in the other way, you are just getting off to other people's pleasure/pain/depravity.

I don't know if it was the masturbation or the porn that caused the addiction, but I blame them both when combined. I try to take a day off but I have no motivation lately to do anything but sit in my apartment because all my friends are out of town and I have been avoiding getting a job for fear of rejection because I've never had a job before so I feel my resume is a joke. If I, myself, don't even believe in me, how are other people?? That's something I've got to work on also, and I think looking and porn and masturbating to escape reality has greatly attributed to it.

but I know I have the power to give up masturbating because I've had this problem many times in the past and I've gotten over it.

I'm not suggesting giving up masturbation, but give up the porn!! It's addicting whether you admit it to yourself or not.

Okay, I'm done now.
I hope this helps people understand how powerful something so innocent can be. It's sad how normal porn-watching is nowadays.

By the way, I hope you don't think I'm some old guy with my "nowadays" remark, I'm 19, ha!


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replied July 15th, 2008
Hi Tim,

I am not replying as someone older and wiser, but as a peer. I am a couple of years older than you, but I have been feeling the same as you for a long time now.

I too find it hard to determine which to blame: masturbation or porn. I find it impossible to look at porn and NOT masturbate, its possible to masturbate without porn (which is healthy in moderation), but once I've resigned myself to masturbating, its very difficult to resist the additional temptation of looking at porn.

Firstly, forget your worries about your resume, everyone starts with a blank resume! You're young, its nothing to be ashamed of!

Secondly, remove your sources of porn. If videos/magazines, dump them, not just put them in the corner, remove them from your life! If its the internet, download site restriction software. Set the administrator password to something that will remind yourself of your promise to quit porn. Once that is done, use the internet for more beneficial purposes - read advice how to write a good resume, see what jobs may be advertised, see what courses are available if you fancy more education, etc...

Hope that's some help to you... its working for me so far.
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replied August 31st, 2011
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I am 25. You do not have a problem yet, but you will if you continue to masturbate. Masturbation or sex kills TRUST me, I know many people will say that its healthy (Especially Women). Infect I started after a sexual education, which told a group of man masturbation is safe. I was stressed, did what you did, now I can't work, think, loss of memory short term memory, or see properly, no erection, always headache. I have stopped masturbation for 2 years now, took tons of medication, seen doctors, taken herbal and stuff, exercise, tried everything. NOTHING worked, Even if I have wet dreams, I feel so fatigued i feel like killing my self. I cant have sex ANYMORE !

Why do you think more man die than women do on average ? Old people used to say "Women Weakens Leg" I used to laugh at them, now they have the last laugh.

There are many people like me and only these people know what I am saying,.....DON'T take advice from people who have no EXPERIENCE. Many are selling stuffs, you will know it.


WOMEN pliz STOP replying becoz you don't HAVE A PENIS!
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replied June 13th, 2012
try vitamin b comblex injection and do exercise it will help
musturbation destroy your nerve
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replied July 7th, 2012
overmasturbation
same story here,.. damn now almost 10 years, there is no sign of cure,. Not even close...one masturbate cause me 3 to 4 days fatigue,..not only fatigue, all symptom of overmasturbation came along.

What the f--kin hell story of my life.
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replied November 19th, 2012
hav a msg for u
its ... vry true i hav ruined my life by seein porn videos and mastrubating am just 18 ma engineerin life is spoiled i hav mastrubatedneven incoll and in home felt alot of pressure at tat time but now i am ready to kill myself coz i hav lost my intelligence so much tat even the vry small silly things hav become vry difficult i cant even concentrate for 2mins ,i hav increased my tb (tuberclosis)post mastrubation , now am like a living dead body my family doestn no tis thngs soon i should say orlese its time for me to rip if it goes like tis my dude s and buddies i hav a msg for u all "pls dnt go for instant pleasure else go for permanent happiness"guys is ther in any cure for tis f...ckin thing plz help meeee!!!!!!!!!
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replied January 16th, 2013
Dude, I don't have to have a stick of meat between my legs to get what he is saying. I have the same problem, I masturbate pretty much everyday (I get sad when I am unable to masturbate everyday) but it doesn't help my depression at all, in fact, it might be making it worse. I also watch porn and masturbate. Also not helping my depression.
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replied July 15th, 2008
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Believe it or not. You actually have answered your own question on how to resolve this in you topic post. Now put it into action. Get a job, get out and do things ect. In otherwords " Get a life". I is bound to help.
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replied May 28th, 2009
I find this dialogue very helpful, and it's reassuring to find out that I'm not alone, that others struggle with the same problem. I have no medical expertise, but I believe that masturbation and pornography contribute substantially to one's depression.

Roughly two years ago, I moved to a new city, living by myself in a single apartment. It was the loneliest period of my life (I'm a single male, age 30). Nearly everyday of the work week, I came home, had a beer and watched video pornography and masturbated. Believing I had become addicted, I stopped using pornography about 4 months ago, nonetheless I masturbate regularly, sometimes as much as 3 or 4 times a day. Following two short, failed relationships I developed traditional symptoms that accompany depression - exhaustion, irritability, fatigue, bodyaches, an absence of pleasure in my life. I believe masturbation only adds to it, deepens loneliness, and serves only as a temporary or immediate relief.

While I believe that masturbation can be healthy, and at times, a release from stress, I think that masturbation in the context of depression only deepens feelings of despair and loneliness.

Finally, I agree with the first response. You're young and you're looking for your first job. Your resume is expected to be thin. That shouldn't deter you in your job search. Good luck my friend.
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replied August 6th, 2011
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Hey, Marshevers, Dude I am just like you and these guys, but we are the same age. Bro, I need to associate with somebody else that is going through or addicted to what I am that will help me break this. We, can help each other just like they do at those AA meetings.
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replied September 18th, 2011
Hi Guys, that's what I thought about masturbation, but its like a drug it makes things worse after addiction. Many doctors and most man believe that their life style is adding stress, but NO masturbation is the main reason. Now I am at stage 5, where I have left masturbation for a year now but body is still in pain, my bones are getting weak I can feel it.
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replied May 31st, 2009
I thought I was the only one.
Marshevers - "I think that masturbation in the context of depression only deepens feelings of despair and loneliness." I think you're right. That's how it feels to me anyway. It's transcient. There's no real, lasting pleasure.
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replied May 31st, 2009
I have found recently that i become quite depressed after masturbating, and not because i feel alone (i have a girlfriend) and when i have been alone it hasn't affected it. I personally have depression anyway but i find that masturbation can help trigger a depression or deepen it, but only when i do it for myself; if its with my girlfriend then it doesn't seem to have an effect. I'm not sure if it's just another branch of my depression or an actual problem in itself.

Hope that makes you feel a little better about it
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replied June 2nd, 2009
Masturbation Concerning Yourself and Others.
I agree with putting away the pornography. Instant gratification has usually been the downfall of most peoples in our nation. Fast food, alcohol, cigarettes, you name it. If used rarely or at least moderately will give you a good night, but never in excess. As for the psychological portion; it is an addiction. The mind gets used to a certain amount of gratification it receives on a daily basis. Once that gratification becomes normal, nothing seems to exceed it. The mind feels it can no longer feel equalized without that feeling in the day; which sadly with masturbation only gives you that stability during the action and not afterward. So if you cut masturbation down to a minimum, or none at all, then your body will gain the original stability. As for masturbation with yourself compared to with a partner, i believe it has more to do with your subconscious. If with say another, people are excited,happy, and open. Though, usually with masturbation it's more secluded, maybe even guilt-filled. Masturbation and sex are strong amplifiers of feelings.
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replied June 2nd, 2009
I must say that the correct way to use the word
ETCETERA

is ETC NOT ect.
Ok?
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replied June 19th, 2009
Well, I believe nothing is a if done in a controlled way.Masturbating once a week or more is not bad.
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replied July 29th, 2009
I know exactly what ur going through. Its a terrible place to be. Its hard to move on and sometimes its easy to slip back into old habits. Even when i have not looked at porn or masturbated for a long time there is still that...maybe i do it to punish myself because i know how it makes me feel afterwards...its definitely a mental disease or disorder Sad
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replied September 18th, 2009
I find it difficult to masturbate when depressed. I try to force myself to, because if I don't my depression will just get worse. It isn't natural to go too long without doing it. It's hard to get into the mood when I'd rather be cutting. I've been forcing myself to masturbate, even though it's no fap September. Partly because it's no fap September. I'm a pretty cool guy, I masturbate and don't get pressured by no fap September.
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replied November 2nd, 2009
I had the same thing. First time I masturbated I felt really bad. I felt great guilt without an apparent reason. Well, I kept doing it and I always felt very bad afterwards. I had very bad depressive states because of it. And people say it is something normal to do, enjoy your body and so on. Well, I find that completely wrong.

I think masturbating is something unnatural to do. Normally, sex is meant for having children and it is done with a partner of opposite sex. Now for men it is easy to satisfy themselves alone since they don't need emotional involvement like women. Think what this means form an evolutionary point of view.

Sometimes in the past men were masturbating for fun. The more they were masturbating, the less sex drive they had to look for women and have sex with them. It was probably not as easy as going for your neighbour's woman and jump on her. It took some creative thinking ans social behaviour (courting) just like nowadays. Now since those men had a way of satisfying themselves, they needed women less. Consequently, they were having less children. This is a big evolutionary downturn.

Then something happened. A random part of those men started feeling awkwards about masturbating. They stopped masturbating that much and started having more children. In time, some of them developed bad feelings about masturbating ans simply stopped doing it. Those men were having the most children. Their children inherited these traits. It was a good thing for the species as it allowed a faster reproduction. So, naturally, humans developed some mechanisms against masturbation.

Now where are those mechanisms? Do we see them? As one that masturbated a lot, I can say a saw them. They start working immediately after the release, they look like anxiety and in time they develop into a chronic, longer lasting state, a mixture of depression and anxiety which worsens in time if masturbation is not stopped.

Where do these mechanisms take place in the human body? I have no definite proof, but I think some of them work on the part of the mind that is involved in social behaviour and other have to do with hormones released during sex.

The big downturn in masturbation seems to be in not having a partner. I am not sure about it because I have never masturbated with a partner. I just read the posts above which say that a partner stops the downturn after release. Thus it seems logical to be a social relay that is misfired during masturbation and which generates the major mental downturn after release.

Now about the sex hormones, my argument is the following. The sex hormones have two roles: before sex they enhance the body's general capabilities (resistence, hardiness, alertness, tonus and so on) and thus enhance the person's atractiveness. During sex they simply enhance fertility. After that they stop working for a while - at least in men. If sex is done too often, the effect may be a decrease in the working capacities of the human body. Now this, coupled with repeated bad states like those I was experiencing after masturbation, may yield a chronic depressive state in time or even worse.

Thus I would say that masturbation is unnatural because of evolution. The humans evolved like this. The simple existence of masturbation made this evolutionary trend possible. Thus I would recommend everyone to NEVER do it as it might trigger the psychological downturn. I also recommend against it from my own experience. If you feel like doing it, go out and just run or do any other sport that will leave you tired. Find some occupation that keeps you busy. And, most importantly, stay with other people, not alone.
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replied October 5th, 2011
Sex Addiction in any form.
Hi I really appreciate your passage on masturbation addiction (one who can not stop against there own will is a loss of control and thus addiction).I absolutely agree that constant masturbation causes psychological problems, emotional, and physical and SPIRITUAL. Looking for instant gratification is a way of avoiding reality. Yes if done infrequently this is ok. But woe to any man who gets hooked on the bodies natural drug. In my own personal experience as a sufferer in a wide range of addictions this addiction is as severe as heroin and the consequences to self and others are severe. It is true that you suffer memory loss, an inability to process thoughts and gradually enduring fatigue. This is a disease of addiction. your bodys and minds chemical balance will be at odds, your mind forms obsessive habitual patterns where it is hard to get out of bed function in your day or go to sleep with out masturbation. It is an addictive cycle and get more progressive in its continuation. Low self esteem and self worth will plummet as a result. Underlying this is suppressed (e)motions( Energy in motion) that feel trapped that maybe unconscious at first. Are u avoiding life, do you avoid relationships through feelings you find uncomfortable. it is a case of face them, face the fear and do it anyway. When you do this you are growing mentally,emotionally and spiritually meaning freedom of self. I'm a training counsellor in addiction and psychotherapy and have the aware of making the same mistakes with the same outcomes. Solution. Be aware that masturbating is effecting you, Feel the difference in your well being, now one no you better than you! replace it with something positive that stimulates you and has a sense of self worth attached to it. The ancient Buddist monks state that to release your sexual fluids is to throw away your bodys energy thus your vibration that connects with the eb and flow of life. this fluid is your life force dont give it away and you will be in tune with life. This is why priests reframe from this because they know it decreases your energy / vibe life flow. My experience is that the world is unaware of this connection with sex (Unconscious) Master this addiction sex is overated and an illusion to the mind EGO. You are already on the path of awakening, most people don't feel or think. The higher life force is showing you something, everything happens for a reason. Sex for reproduction is the best way. have fun but don't ejaculate frequently.
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replied October 5th, 2011
Sex Addiction in any form.
Hi I really appreciate your passage on masturbation addiction (one who can not stop against there own will is a loss of control and thus addiction).I absolutely agree that constant masturbation causes psychological problems, emotional, and physical and SPIRITUAL. Looking for instant gratification is a way of avoiding reality. Yes if done infrequently this is ok. But woe to any man who gets hooked on the bodies natural drug. In my own personal experience as a sufferer in a wide range of addictions this addiction is as severe as heroin and the consequences to self and others are severe. It is true that you suffer memory loss, an inability to process thoughts and gradually enduring fatigue. This is a disease of addiction. your bodys and minds chemical balance will be at odds, your mind forms obsessive habitual patterns where it is hard to get out of bed function in your day or go to sleep with out masturbation. It is an addictive cycle and get more progressive in its continuation. Low self esteem and self worth will plummet as a result. Underlying this is suppressed (e)motions( Energy in motion) that feel trapped that maybe unconscious at first. Are u avoiding life, do you avoid relationships through feelings you find uncomfortable. it is a case of face them, face the fear and do it anyway. When you do this you are growing mentally,emotionally and spiritually meaning freedom of self. I'm a training counsellor in addiction and psychotherapy and have the aware of making the same mistakes with the same outcomes. Solution. Be aware that masturbating is effecting you, Feel the difference in your well being, now one no you better than you! replace it with something positive that stimulates you and has a sense of self worth attached to it. The ancient Buddist monks state that to release your sexual fluids is to throw away your bodys energy thus your vibration that connects with the eb and flow of life. this fluid is your life force dont give it away and you will be in tune with life. This is why priests reframe from this because they know it decreases your energy / vibe life flow. My experience is that the world is unaware of this connection with sex (Unconscious) Master this addiction sex is overated and an illusion to the mind EGO. You are already on the path of awakening, most people don't feel or think. The higher life force is showing you something, everything happens for a reason. Sex for reproduction is the best way. have fun but don't ejaculate frequently.
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replied November 30th, 2009
"I think masturbating is something unnatural to do. Normally, sex is meant for having children and it is done with a partner of opposite sex. Now for men it is easy to satisfy themselves alone since they don't need emotional involvement like women. Think what this means form an evolutionary point of view.

Sometimes in the past men were masturbating for fun. The more they were masturbating, the less sex drive they had to look for women and have sex with them. It was probably not as easy as going for your neighbour's woman and jump on her. It took some creative thinking ans social behaviour (courting) just like nowadays. Now since those men had a way of satisfying themselves, they needed women less. Consequently, they were having less children. This is a big evolutionary downturn."

What are you taking about?? Are you trying to make people who masturbate feel guilty?? This is the stupidest thing I have ever heard!! And I masturbate, and I'm a WOMAN! Is that unnatural?
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replied November 30th, 2009
AS I was saying, if masturabation was somehow against evolutionary mechanisms, why has the human body evolved to the point where we can stand up and the hand is right next toe private area? What if someone needs that type of release and doesn't have an outlet? I've worked out at the gym, it doesn't relieve your sexual frustration, it exacerbates it! What's wrong with a release now and then? If anything, it's healthy, it teaches you (and I'm saying that as a woman) about the body and what pleasures you, and how long it takes you to reach climax. It's not bad, and honestly, what you're saying sounds pretty ridiculous, using anecdotal experience to speak on behalf of mankind! What would you say to gay men, then?
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replied November 30th, 2009
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There is a physiological link between masturbation and depression. Men who masturbate are more often able to more consistently produce seratonin, which helps to adress depression that would normally be caused by inability to process nurotransmitters in the brain.

People who abstain from Masturbation are not getting their genetic material contributed to the species in a larger concentration. If you look at historical pictures of humans you can see very clearly that men with more deveoloped thumbs and women with longer more slender fingers are having a greater contribution to our genetics. Does it seem so strange to you that people with higher sex drives or less inhibitions about sex would be more likely to bear more children?
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replied December 4th, 2009
If you want a cure for masturbation, take Prozac.

I'm married and still used to masturbate a couple of times a week until I started Prozac. Now I have no sexual desires.

Masturbation is normal and healthy.
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replied January 1st, 2010
Masturbation and Depression...
Okay, is this the Christian/Catholic channel? What the heck is going on in here? Are we trying to make our own people feel worse about themselves for doing one of the only natural things that actually has the potential to make them feel better, even if it is only for a little while?

Masturbation, in and of itself, is not wrong, nor bad, nor should there be any guilt in doing it once or twice or three times a day. My god people what is going on in here? WE ARE PEOPLE WITH DEPRESSION GUILT RUNS RAMPANT DO NOT LET IT CLOUD OUR MINDS IN ALL TIMES!!!!!!!!

Pornography is not evil either, it is not the devil's work. It is sex work; yes that is what some people chose to do. Here's when you need to worry about pornography addiction: When you cannot get-off without pornorgraphy's involvement, that's when you are addicted or are becoming addicted to it. Simply looking at it, or using it as an added bonus feature, as many men do since men are more visually stimulated, period, does not make you an addict.

I came looking for some sorta connection between Depression and Masturbation, and I THINK I found one. Masturbation helps one generate serotonin, GREAT, so if one can actually get it up to masturbate, DO SO!....I'm not saying do it 20 times a day, but go right on ahead and do so, and DO NOT FEEL GUILTY. GOOD LORD, what is wrong with y'all making this boy feel like he should just chop off his wiener!
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replied October 5th, 2011
HI, Just to let u know u are very wrong about your assumptions, it is unhelpful to others when you share out of ignorance and unconsciousness. Go back to bed!!!
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replied August 25th, 2013
Hi! Just to let you know, u r very wrong about ur assumptions, which you share out of ignorance. DepressedandTired is right, the rest of you are backward assholes.

If you're worried about making Jesus sad with respect to your Onanastic (look it up shitheads) urges, then consider His advice concerning a 'hand' that causes one to sin - cut it off! It would be better to lose one's hand then to sin. 'Course, that's a bit indirect. Why not just hack off the 'johnson', might make you feel better. GOD doesn't love slackers! Grow some balls, then chop 'em off.

Morons...
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replied August 25th, 2013
Hi! Just to let you know, u r very wrong about ur assumptions, which you share out of ignorance. DepressedandTired is right, the rest of you are backward assholes.

If you're worried about making Jesus sad with respect to your Onanastic (look it up shitheads) urges, then consider His advice concerning a 'hand' that causes one to sin - cut it off! It would be better to lose one's hand then to sin. 'Course, that's a bit indirect. Why not just hack off the 'johnson', might make you feel better. GOD doesn't love slackers! Grow some balls, then chop 'em off.

Morons...
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replied January 1st, 2010
I think the depression comes from the porn, not from masturbating.
The porn pretty much shows (and in some sense also gives) you what you desire. And the "stimulation" from the porn is so big, that you pretty much become numb for anything else.
Guys who watch porn (sometimes?) have problems masturbating without porn, because they're so "numb".

Masturbation itself is pretty normal tho...if it made you depressive, the whole humanity would be emo.
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replied October 5th, 2011
It comes from both I experienced both ways when you get in to habits in the mind this is dis- ease. Depression anx etc. You also change the balance of chemical in the body creating unbalance .

JJ
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replied October 5th, 2011
It comes from both I experienced both ways when you get in to habits in the mind this is dis- ease. Depression anx etc. You also change the balance of chemical in the body creating unbalance .

JJ
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replied January 3rd, 2010
I'm only sixteen and I've been masturbating for about three years now. For the past year and a half I have masturbated about five to seven times a week on average. A few months ago I began to notice large amounts of sexual frustration begin to build up after only a day or two without masturbating, making it nearly impossible to concentrate on anything but girls, porn, or when I could masturbate again. When I did get the chance to masturbate I would as quickly as possible. After climaxing depression would set in very quickly (within a few seconds to a minute) and I found myself unable to focus on anything at all. I understand that masturbation can be healthy in moderation, but I know that I have a serious addiction, and although I have abstained from masturbating for up to two weeks in the past, it still did not break the addiction. I have even tried to find other outlets for distraction from sexual desires such as hanging out with friends, hobbies, and working out, but nothing seems to work. I often spend a lot of time each week masturbating, and I see it turning into some sort of ritual. This addiction is seriously affecting my ability to complete schoolwork and other serious tasks, and I know that I should be able to break this cycle, but I just dont know how. I dont want to have to see a therapist, take medication, or have drawn out discussions with family and friends, but I want to be able to function normally without thinking about masturbation constantly or being depressed. How can I begin to masturbate in moderation and avoid depression and frustration as well as getting addicted again?
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replied January 4th, 2010
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You're 16. If you weren't constantly sexually frustrated and depressed it would be a cause for alarm. I'm sorry that it frustrates you but there isn't much you can do about how things are going until you make it through puberty. Worry less about masturbation, you have enough to deal with.
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