Back Pain

My doctor said when I was like 15 or 16 that I had muscle spasms in my back I think there is more to it. it is always always hurting and my muscles stay tense. Both of my arms go numb and my neck hurts and head aches. I have also been having earaches. All this can't be related can it. I mean like my arms and head and neck all happen at the same time, my ear is not that bad. I think that might be sinuses and allergies. What do you think... it is just like a stiff hard to move pain.. it hurts .R.E.A.L bad when you try and massage it like it makes it worse Mike trys..and I am just like ow do it softer and he does and it still hurts.