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Help!! Posted: 07-06-07 17:38pm
reese is biting.... alot... he went to
give me a kiss and bit me instead... when
i say no or ow he laughs at me... wat do i
do to stop thiis.. i think hes too young
to bite him back
What do you think he would do if you
pretended to cry when he bits you.
Sometimes if you show them that it hurts
it may show him that it is not a nice
thing to do.
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-06-07 17:50pm
thats a great approach
my mom has owned her own in home daycare
for 15 years and so ive been around kids
my whole life
you have to teach them that its not nice
and crying is a good way to show them that
they hurt your feelings
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Magical Logic
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Posted: 07-06-07 17:50pm
i am having the same problem with Eternity
and she thinks its funny to.
i don't think the crying thing would make
a difference because children that young
don't have the ability to feel sympathy.
they can't make the connection between
their actions causing real distress for a
while yet. i don't think that develops
until around 2ish? right now it's just
funny to see mommy react. i don't think
crying and trying to communicate it will
stop the biting, though it is probably
important to still try to show him that it
hurts you because it will help him learn
communication skills.
anyways, about the biting. what i would
do is stop whatever activity is going on
when the biting happens. if you are
holding him and he bites you, i would put
him down. if you are playing with him and
he bites you, i would stop playing. if
you are feeding him and he bites you, i
would cut the meal short . just for a
little while, maybe 5 - 10 minutes. I
think eventually he will learn to
associate the biting with the enjoyable
activity ending. he won't want you to put
him down, or stop playing, or stop eating,
and if he knows that is what happens when
he bites he might stop.
good luck! if you decide to try my advice
tell me how it works.
put him in his bed if you are home...i
always taped their hands and said no did
that 2 and it stopped.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 07-06-07 21:41pm
tanyaface
wrote:
i don't think the crying
thing would make a difference because
children that young don't have the ability
to feel sympathy. they can't make the
connection between their actions causing
real distress for a while yet. i don't
think that develops until around 2ish?
right now it's just funny to see mommy
react. i don't think crying and trying to
communicate it will stop the biting,
though it is probably important to still
try to show him that it hurts you because
it will help him learn communication
skills.
anyways, about the biting. what i would
do is stop whatever activity is going on
when the biting happens. if you are
holding him and he bites you, i would put
him down. if you are playing with him and
he bites you, i would stop playing. if
you are feeding him and he bites you, i
would cut the meal short . just for a
little while, maybe 5 - 10 minutes. I
think eventually he will learn to
associate the biting with the enjoyable
activity ending. he won't want you to put
him down, or stop playing, or stop eating,
and if he knows that is what happens when
he bites he might stop.
good luck! if you decide to try my advice
tell me how it
works.
I think this is terrific advice!
Definitely don't bite him back - he won't
understand why you're hurting him.
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sick_mama17
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Posted: 07-07-07 00:54am
When Jay went through that stage I did
what tanya said, it worked for us.
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 07-07-07 13:30pm
tanyaface
wrote:
i don't think the crying
thing would make a difference because
children that young don't have the ability
to feel sympathy. they can't make the
connection between their actions causing
real distress for a while yet. i don't
think that develops until around 2ish?
right now it's just funny to see mommy
react. i don't think crying and trying to
communicate it will stop the biting,
though it is probably important to still
try to show him that it hurts you because
it will help him learn communication
skills.
anyways, about the biting. what i would
do is stop whatever activity is going on
when the biting happens. if you are
holding him and he bites you, i would put
him down. if you are playing with him and
he bites you, i would stop playing. if
you are feeding him and he bites you, i
would cut the meal short . just for a
little while, maybe 5 - 10 minutes. I
think eventually he will learn to
associate the biting with the enjoyable
activity ending. he won't want you to put
him down, or stop playing, or stop eating,
and if he knows that is what happens when
he bites he might stop.
good luck! if you decide to try my advice
tell me how it
works.
I completely agree with this! Great
advice! I don't think you ought to bite
him back, either. I would just tell him
"no" firmly and stop the activity
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 07-07-07 13:32pm
Oh yeah, there's a book called "teeth are
not for biting" and at the babysitter's
house whenever one of the kids bites,
that's what she says, and then she removes
them from the activity. She reads the
book often.
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 07-08-07 00:24am
thanks girls..
tanya i think i will try your adivise,
sounds like soemthing that would work...
he normally bites when being held...
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hopefulmjz
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Posted: 07-08-07 00:27am
Little jaws.
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Jolie_3110
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Posted: 07-08-07 04:13am
yeah I agree with tanya too! Thats what
worked for us. Reese is still young so its
hard to make him understand anything when
it comes to him doing wrong. Like tanya
said if you are holding/cuddling him and
he does it just say no in a stern voice
not shouting, put him on the floor and
then walk away alittle. He will realise
that this means an end to your attention
and should stop doing it!
