Tearing Hymen

The majority of women don't even have a hymen. Some had one at one point but it can be broken during sports, riding horses, putting tampons in, and other things of that sort. I personally didn't bleed at all when I first had sex so I can't give you any words of experience there. If you do happen to bleed you need to do whatever feels comfortable. Most of the time, bleeding is caused due to lack of lubrication before intercourse. Try to be sure that you are thouroughly turned on or have enough lubricant before trying. Having a caring partner helps loads as well.

Monkey and eiri are both right.

The typical hymen is broken long before a girl ever has sex, like monkey said. There is usually little or no pain involved, so most girls don't even realize when it happened.

Many girls bleed during sex due to rips and tears from not being lubricated enough. That problem is usually easily solved with a water-based lubricant.

Like eiri said though, women are built differently. So some women have a much tougher hymen than the norm. Their hymen might stay intact for longer, and it might bleed more when it does tear, but keep in mind that they are not the norm.

...i bled..what seemed to be like quite a bit lol...actually i did the first few times we did any kind of sexual act, just bc before my bf i have now I had never done anything more than kiss a guy...soooo..i dunno maybe i'm weird...but the first few times for me were..kinda messy...but its all good now...

i did not bleed when i lost my virginity, nor did i find it to be painful. my boyfriend and i have had sex quite a few times since then, but the last time we had sex, i bled quite a bit, although it has stopped and only happened immediately after sex. what i'm worried about though is that i'm able to actually see that something has been torn, but i have no idea what to do! thoughts?

kitsonchick...
what has been torn and how much? i'm presuming that if it has stopped bleeding, you're probably ok. you just need to let it heal before you have sex again. do you know what happened that caused this tear to occur? maybe some activity (fingering, or penetration) before you were wet enough? maybe you got too dry and still kept on having sex?

typically problems like this are caused by either one of two things. 1) not enough lubrication or 2) something sharp like a fingernail making the cut.

make sure to allow yourself plenty of time to heal. also, be very careful not to get any bacteria in your vagina. wash your hands thoroughly before and after going to the bathroom, make sure you wash your hands and anything else that comes in contact with your vagina as well (fingers, toys, penis, etc.). hehe.

hope you feel better sweetie.
jasmine

Hey

My first time it hurt a bit but my boyfriend was very gentle, after a while it felt good but he looked down saw blood and that was that.

I didn't bleed much and it stopped very quickly like 5mins later, unfortunately my second time we were less careful and didn't stop. i bleed alot, again it stopped very quickly afterwards. It did however soak into my mattress. I did not notice at the time and if it doesn't hurt and he doesn't get turned off go for it

But after that It didn't hurt much and i was fine for sports activities etc. the very next day and since then I haven't bleed again. The best thing i learned though is to talk before hand decide what you would do in this situation ahead of time, and take it slow. If it hurts just have him hold still till it stops about 30 seconds later and proceed carefully, it will give you time to strech without tearing and allow you to have a good time to when you loosen up a bit.

My first time it hurt a bit but my boyfriend was very gentle, after a while it felt good but he looked down saw blood and that was that.

I didn't bleed much and it stopped very quickly like 5mins later, unfortunately my second time we were less careful and didn't stop. i bleed alot, again it stopped very quickly afterwards. It did however soak into my mattress. I did not notice at the time and if it doesn't hurt and he doesn't get turned off go for it

But after that It didn't hurt much and i was fine for sports activities etc. the very next day and since then I haven't bleed again. The best thing i learned though is to talk before hand decide what you would do in this situation ahead of time, and take it slow. If it hurts just have him hold still till it stops about 30 seconds later and proceed carefully, it will give you time to strech without tearing and allow you to have a good time to when you loosen up a bit.
hat has been torn and how much? i'm presuming that if it has stopped bleeding, you're probably ok. you just need to let it heal before you have sex again. do you know what happened that caused this tear to occur? maybe some activity (fingering, or penetration) before you were wet enough? maybe you got too dry and still kept on having sex?

typically problems like this are caused by either one of two things. 1) not enough lubrication or 2) something sharp like a fingernail making the cut.

make sure to allow yourself plenty of time to heal. also, be very careful not to get any bacteria in your vagina. wash your hands thoroughly before and after going to the bathroom, make sure you wash your hands and anything else that comes in contact with your vagina as well (fingers, toys, penis, etc.). hehe.

Ok so my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. It was good and I didn't bleed at all (even though he is big). We had sex again 2 days ago and there is blood on the sheets (even though im not on my period) and when I get home blood on my panties. It is the next day and im still bleeding (not a lot thankfully). Im not sure if this blood is from a vaginal tear becasue when we did have sex I was really wet. Could it be my hymen breaking late?

CuppieCake, It is likely one of three things:

1. Your period. For various reasons it can come late or early and becoming sexually active sometimes have that effect.

2. Your hymen got torn some more. Not all girls bleed when their hymen tears. At your age your hymen was very elastic. So thrusting differently this time could have made it tear.

3. This is still new for you and your vagina is still getting used to stretching like this. The first few times it can stretch in ways it has never been stretched before. It can cause micro tears and light bleeding.

Remember that it is called 'making LOVE' for a reason. Sex is best done gently and not rough.

I hope you took precautions to protect your health and from pregnancy.

Im 13 years old, and i was with my boyfriend. i have been with him for 8 months now, so please dont say stuff like im too young and stuff :/
he fingered me, and when i got home, i looked at my panties as i got into the shower, and they had blood on. I knew it wasnt my period as when im on im very heavy. But he didnt even finger me properly, it was for 2 seconds.
im confused as i dont know if it was my hymen ripping, or not, but it has stopped bleeding, i cleaned up and it just stopped.
There was hardly any blood.
Im scared and confused, and i dont know what to do, but i cant talk to my mum about this, if she found out what i did with my boyfriend, i would be kicked out :'/
im only 13 and i just want to know if my hymen has ripped or not, :'/
any advice or help would mean alot.
PLEASE HELP ME <3

There is a real chance that your hymen tore. The amount of time his finger was in you, does not matter.

When your hymen tear, you do not have to tell anybody. It does not change you, and it is not a medical condition. Depending on what happened, just leaving it alone may make it heal with just a notch in it.

You can also take a mirror and look at what is going on. If you do not already know what your hymen looked like, it can however be confusing. But still, no harm in looking.

If keeping your hymen intact is important, just do not allow anything inside your vagina. Your sexual pleasure is anyways centered around your clitoria, not your vagina.

Do not do something stupid now because you are horny. Sorry always come to late.

Okay honestly my friend bled a lot and apparently she was soaked so sometimes people just bleed and also because your not as stretched as a virgin depending on the size of the guy it could hurt. Myself I use tampons and horseback ride and my hymen is still intact fingering and other sexual acts are really uncomfortable for me. Maybe I'm not normal but if u read up on health stuf about this some girls have a high up Hymen some girls don't.

I just got back from some sexual activity... this guy i am kinda seeing and since i started using tampons every now and then when pulling it out it got stuck on this... skin. i assume this is my hymen. So this guy was fingering me and his finger slipped into the slit this skin makes... it ripped a little more so being humiliated i excused myself and "took care of it" so that it wont happen again. Only now im bleeding quite a bit... anybody heard of this??

Just wear a pad for a bit until it stops.