I'm 28 Russian and I'm in relationships with 19 year old american girl.We plan to marry.But there's a problem.When she was little kid she was abuse and raped by her step dad.She is still having nightmares from time to time.
How can this affect our marital life? How can I help her or she needs some help from doctor?
Traumatic memories and trouble having sex can result from childhood rape and abuse. Her best bet is a loving, caring partner who is willing to go slow (very slow) and never force her into sex. Therapy with a good psychologist can also be very helpful for helping the victim come to terms with the attack and themselves.
Just be as supportive as possible. If things get intimate be gentle and loving. I've had the same problem. My ex was always really worried because I had nightmares to. Therapy might help to, not just for her but for you to. If your there with her it will help and you can learn how to help her. Good luck
Your best bet is probably to move on. Sorry to say that. Victims of childhood abuse are almost always powerless in how they were able to handle that abuse. They never get the opportunity to stand up for themselves and the perpetrators are rarely prosecuted. Because of this, the victims have permanent damage and issues. When they marry, the bring the issues with them. They often"punish" the husband for the crimes of their attacker. Sex will always be an issue. She will shut you down and lock you out sexually just to feel the power and control over her body she did not as a kid. Trust me, I know. I married an abuse victim and receive the punishment her perpetrator should have.