Your best bet is probably to move on. Sorry to say that. Victims of childhood abuse are almost always powerless in how they were able to handle that abuse. They never get the opportunity to stand up for themselves and the perpetrators are rarely prosecuted. Because of this, the victims have permanent damage and issues. When they marry, the bring the issues with them. They often"punish" the husband for the crimes of their attacker. Sex will always be an issue. She will shut you down and lock you out sexually just to feel the power and control over her body she did not as a kid. Trust me, I know. I married an abuse victim and receive the punishment her perpetrator should have.