Hello,

I'm writing on this board because I'm not sure where else to turn to. I recently broke it off with my boyfriend because he has a drinking problem. He refuses to admit that he is an alcoholic, but he drinks all day, everyday and is usually drunk by 4pm. He's confrontational, verbally and mentally abusive, and just an emotional mess when he drinks. I left him, and explained to him that I couldn't enable him any longer and that I loved him but I hated the alcohol. He says I'm dramatic and as always, tries to turn everything back around on me, so that everything is my fault, and never his. He doesn't believe that me leaving had anything to do with him, and that I did it because I thought it'd be easier for me. I've had little contact with him in the recent days, and every time we do talk he is yelling at me or blaming me for something, or saying that he hates me and never wants to talk to me again, but calls a day later with the same cycle. I'm wondering if there's anything I can do to help him or if I should just leave him alone. He lives with his mother who enables him so much that it's sick, and I'm scared she's helping him to kill himself. I truly love him, but I also love myself and I'm not sure what to do. I'd like to help him, but I'm not sure if or how that I am. I apologize for the length of this post, but I'm just very confused! Any feedback would be wonderful, thanks for reading!